sad boot camp mom

[judy]

I am new to this. My son just left for boot camp on july31st. I miss him i am very unhappy and scared judy from ca.

[Shannon Raven's Mom]

Judy your not alone in your fears. I have found some comfort in the words of the other mother's on this site.

[judy]

I do feel so alone,my husband was in the navy way, way before i met him, he thinks this is great though i did catch him shedding a tear, i am incredibly sad.

[Steve's Mom]

Hi Judy, welcome to N4M. We have close to 4 thousand members and a good lump of us know what you are feeling and going through. It is okay to be sad and scared, but underneith those momma feelings are the beginning buds of being so proud you could burst, and the feelings of just knowing that your young adult is making a difference during these historical time. The training, experiences and friendships that your son are going to make will last a lifetime. How lucky for us parents to be able see our children grow up to be happy, productive adults.
Take you time to feel what you need to feel, this first 7 to 9 weeks are rough on parents, having little to no contact with your recruit is a crash course in "letting them go". We as military parents do not have the luxury of taking our time that many parents of college bound kids are. Thank you for raising a child that feels compelled to serve. Please read Barbs NEW MOMS READ FIRST thread, click here it will fill you in quickly on the frequently asked questions, then go look up Moms on the site. Bootcamp group click here is a great place to start
Talk to you soon, just toss out those questions if you need anything
Shell

[Christina]

Judy, welcome to the site!

My son left for boot camp on July 16th. The best advice I can give you is to read, read and read some more. I have been reading through posts and asking questions since my son signed up last November and I truly believe that knowledge has made this transition soooo much easier. Knowing what to expect is half the battle. Don't get me wrong I miss my son, but I am so excited and so proud that he is doing his own thing now......it is hard to let go, but at the same time, since their birth isn't that what we have been working towards...........if they didn't go anywhere, we wouldn't be doing our job =)

Take care and it will get much easier once you get a letter.

[Kathryn]

Honor Courage and Commitment is an AWESOME book about bootcamp. It was written in 2000, so it's a little different, our guys now have newer buildings and a brand, spanking new training ship, but it gives you an idea of what he's going through. Not to mention that you can impress him with your knowledge when you go to graduation, lol
Kathryn

[Mary, Proud Mom of Nick]

Judy, they are such common feelings for a new boot camp mom. You just don't know what is going on in Great Lakes so all you can sit and do is wonder. So many moms do a post similiar to yours and it is wonderful when they receive their first letter or a phone call and start to hear the tranisition in their soon to be sailors. We know it is such an empty feeling that you have right now but so many of us have been there and have lived thru the boot camp only to be in total awe at the PIR just eight weeks later. Hang in there and let us know how we can help you.

[judy]

thank you. But i don't think i will ever get used to this, i have always been there for him i always knew where he was most importantly i could talk to him. Now i don't know if he is o.k, i mean really o.k or sorry and wanting to come home,all i do is cry and throw up,he means the world to me. judy

[judy]

I finally got my first letter and he said he is doing fine and that he is the RPOC, i am so proud of him always have been,i met some navy moms in my area tonight that helped also, write back,,, judy

[judy]

thank you for your reply, i feel like well very empty judy

[Jill - TomsMomAZ]

Judy,
My son and my nephew left on July 23rd. I know your pain! I was so distraught at first. It didn't help when I got his box of stuff sent home, but the same week I got his box, I also got 2 letters from him!! My son is my baby ... I have always felt a deep attachment to him. He was an 8 week old preemie who ended up at 6'4" and 190 lb.'s!! I know that he is doing fine, but I still feel that familiar ache for him and just have to pray that God has him in his hands and trust that everything is fine. I still can't wait for the next letter though!!! It will get better, I am sure, and this site is a God send! So many mom's here who know exactly what you and I are feeling!!

[judy]

hi, thanks for the reply, it's not just because he is my son, but honestly he is awesome,and i miss him so much,everyone talks about the BOX that comes home, i will probably have to be put in the hospital when i get his, i can't even go in his room yet, and my daughter and my husband tell me GEEZ he's not dead ,,,, how rude that they don't understand,maybe a part of me left with him, and i feel half alive. judy

[Karen Gallagher]

Judy

we are all here for you !!
We have all been there and know how you feel and know that you and he will be fine it just takes time. Please lean on us

here is my son's blog on boot camp so you can see it is not that bad for them :)
http://www.navyformoms.com/profiles/blog/show?id=1971797%3ABlogPost...

hang in there we are here for you !!