Deep Story: Recruiter left me looking bad and like a liar..

[Randy]

I joined the navy august 8th (physical test, chose job, and sworn in).. Since then I have been told that i have to attend my dep meetings which i tried my hardest to do. My recruiter swore that if i did not have a ride to my meetings then let him know a day before or atleast several hours before the meeting start which i told him the day before and he was fine with it.. So then the first thursday of september comes and im thinking that he's going to come and get me which i reminded him the morning of also. I waited and waited as 4 o'clock (the time of the meeting) passed. So i called him and i can really hear the other deppers in the background as i asked him why was he not able to come and get me.. his response sounded so fake as he said, "oh, umm.. the meeting is canceled". So it was just like whatever and i really believe him.. So september comes and the same exact thing happens as he said "the meeting was canceled". So then the meeting comes this month and for the first time i could not make it because of me having to watch my grandmother because of her health problems.. So then he says its fine and i can come in the day after, so then i came in the day after and he was out of the office for a minute so then the chief is in and he takes care of me.. he looks through my portfolio and says why havent i been to any meetings and i said that i tried to make them but did not have a ride and petty officer ____ said that it was canceled.. So then he ask the other 3 recruiters (petty officer ____ friends) and they said that it was a meeting.. so then he looks at me like im a liar and writes something down and say "i thought so and i need to get on top of my stuff" so then i step outside while the chief go to the restroom for a minute and my recruiter walks pass me and i asked why was i told that it was canceled if it wasnt and he wouldnt answer, he just kept asking what did the chief say.. so then a couple minutes later i come back in and my recruiter finds his self talking about me (callin me dumb) in front of his recruiter friends as i walk in.. it was just obvious.. so then they stop laughing quick and he just had a mad face.. so then i finish signing my monthly papers and say that im about to catch the bus home so then my recruiter says not to because he doesnt want me catching the bus (in LA).. he said this around 3pm.. he literally sat around his office joking around with his friends past 6pm which it turned dark already.. his friends/other recruiters then ask him why does he always leave his recruits sitting around like that when he says that hes going to take them home and he gets an attitude with them and really tells them to shut up.. so im still waiting for a little bit longer and he doesnt even bulge.. still sitting there talking about girls and joking around. so then i just get up, say "dep recruit rucker requesting permission to go ashore" and he says, "so you really going to walk home in the dark in LA" and i say yes and so i leave.. I just feel like i need to change recruiters and not have to deal with him because all he does is play around all the time.. i believe that his job is not that hard enough for him to be that lazy.. i cant really say anything because all the other recruiters are his friends and would take up for him and i also feel like im going to be the one looking bad if nothing is done.. its possible that i may switch to the army now..

This happened in Inglewood, CA

[Melissa (Tucson)]

If this happened to my son I would suggest he find another recruiter in a different office. You do not need to repeat your story to your next recruiter, just tell him 'it wasn't a good fit'. With your new recruiter just be totally up front about needing a ride to the DEP meetings. Ask if they have Zone meetings also. On the day of the meeting make sure you connect with your new recruiter 2 or 3 hours before the meeting begins. I'm sorry you had a bad experience with this recruiter and I hope you have a much better experience with the new one.

P.S. I've been volunteering with the recruiters in my area for a long time now. They are like everything else, lots of good ones and few that maybe shouldn't be recruiters. Don't let one person pull you down, if you're serious about the Navy, then find another recruiting office and best of luck to you! Don't give up! And don't join the Army!

[Paula]

Hi Honey, I am so sorry to have heard this has happened to you. As Melissa says, I have been with military personnel for many years and their are good & their are disgraces. This Sailor is a digrace to the uniform, I would definetly go to another recruiter and tell them up front your issue. You do not have to go into major detail but if the Navy does not know they can not resolve it. You will have enough crap to put up with in bootcamp you DO NOT need this before you go in. If you are seriously thinking of going Green now, please like anything else do your research. They unfortunately promise you things they do not do. They do have a great program called "Blue to Green" but you must be i n the service already, The Navy is about education, the Army is not. You have to look for your education where the Navy & Airforce pretty much hand it to you. They want you to succeed.

If you need to talk, or have any questions feel free to email me at [e-mail]. I am also going to run this by my recruiter to ask what his suggestions would be.

Take care, stay strong, and thank you for becoming one of our future HERO's.

Proud Military Mom & Supporter, Paula

[Denise 2]

I am sorry you have been treated this way. I think you should find another recruiter. Sounds like this is something you really want to do and are trying to accomplish. This is a tough lesson for you to learn there are people who are just there for the paycheck. Now that you are better then that and you have the desire to succeed. Don't let anyone put you down. Go after your dream. There is a recuriter out there that will want to see you succeed like all the moms and family memebers on here. Good luck and keep us posted. We are moms and we do worry about the kids.

[Paula]

This was the response from my Recruiter Liaision:

Hi Paula,

That is just unsat! The depper needs to speak with the Recruiter in Charge and tell him how he is being treated and since this has occurred he is thinking of leaving the Navy. I don't know what kind of office they are running over there but they are def not taking care of their DEPpers. He should call and ask to speak with the Rinc instead of going all the way down there and being mistreated again.