Is it wrong to contact my daughter's recruiter?

[JulieR]

My daughter is in the DEP program and I'm wishing she'd go in sooner that September. I have questions and would like to talk to her recruiter but I wasn't sure if I should do that. She made this decision on her own and I didn't know if it was OK to contact them or if I should just stay out of it. If anyone has any advice, I'd appreciate it.

Julie

[Hoppi aka Angie]

You can contact the recruiter if you wish, but need to understand if your daughter leaves sooner odds are she will not get the job that she signed up for. Personnel I would talk to your daughter prior to calling the recruiter.

[Teresa M]

Honey, my daughter Sara informed me prior to contacting a recruiter that her intent was to join. She also allowed us to meet with the personal that would be processing her application. I am still in contact with her recruiter because, like you, she is my daughter. After looking into the system, I know now, that they will give her the tools she needs, as well as the skills necessary for savioral. Contact her recruiter, and continue before you are comfortable. Our children have decided to make a choice, a difficult one, and the recruiter's tell them that they may be harmed. But it is their choice, our choice is to support or hurt them by not allowing them to be adults. If you need to talk, e-mail me at [e-mail]

[Ellen J LeClaire]

Did your dauhter give you the recruiters name or number? My son is pretty hush hush when I ask him questions. I do support him very much, even though it is hard to let go. I am so proud of him!! However, i do have questions. I would apprecitate your feedback. Thanks, Ellen My e-mail is [e-mail]

[JulieR]

My daughter did give me the recruiters name a while ago but now I can't remember it. She never did give me the number. The thing is, we're not really getting along at the moment so it makes it that much harder. I'm really sure where we stand at this point.

[JenKretsch195]

My daughter is extremely independent, which makes it difficult for us at times to communicate. However, she did give me her recruiters name, and I met him once when he drover over to the house to pick her up along with some young ladies on Navy business. I got his number by getting on the internet, looked up Navy Recruiters and got the number. It did help knowing what town/city he works in. Hope this helped.

[Jammie]

If you have "General" questions about the Navy or the program for which she signed up, ANY recruiter will be happy to talk to you about it. However, do not expect them to talk to you about your daughter's enlistment/activities/specifics if she is over the age of 18. They are not allowed to talk specifics with you if she is an adult. Even though my Son joined without talking to us at all, allowing us to participate in the swearing (which the Navy encourages each parent to do) or talking with his Recruiter along with him, he joined and the Recruiter could have cared less about anything afterwards. Once she signs on the dotted line and is sworn in, you just have to be supportive. As a mother whose son just graduated boot camp, I can tell you that this website will become your best friend. Use it!!!!! You will need it!!! Call it therapy or whatever, but once she leaves (NO MATTER WHAT SHE IS TOLD BY HER RECRUITER), she will NOT get to call you when she wants, she will NOT get to send letters when she wants and you'll be lucky to hear from her twice during the 8-9 weeks she is gone for boot camp. I can tell you the story of a Mother of a boot camp child, having just gone through it. If you are interested, you can email me through this site.

[JulieR]

I was wondering about that. I didn't know if they would give me the time of day if I did try to call. She's 21 and been gone from home off and on for several years now. I don't want to butt into her life, but feel as her mom I have a right to be involved.

[LisaCoMomOfSailorAaron]

I called my son's recruiter to get his mailing address because my son's dad did not pass it on. His recruiter is awesome and very supportive of him. I guess it helps also that my son was 16 when he signed up and left for bootcamp 3 weeks prior to turning 18. Lucky for him he gets to spend his 18th birthday in bootcamp. lol

[JenKretsch195]

Hi Jammie,
I am very interested in hearing what you have to say about bootcamp. My daughter went in on June 3rd; other than the 30 second phone call we have not heard from her. We can't wait to hear from her; just to know that she is ok. She went to the great Lakes in Illinois. I think it's Lake Michigan - I'm not sure.

Any input you have would be greatly appreciated.

[Tammy]

Hey Jammie, Hi Im Tammy from Kentucky my SON is in the DEP program and is scheduled to ship April 13th, 2010....He is going through I dont know, but sometimes he's like he dont wanna go and wont talk about it, then other times he says he's excited! I appreciate all the info you can give!

[[e-mail]]

I would love to communicate with you. My daughter leaves for Great Lakes on Oct. 6th. she was also in the dep program, which I do not like or understand. Please respond to [e-mail]. My Name is Linda

[JulieR]

Can you please give me "Crusty's" information. I'd love to ask a few questions at this point as I don't get much from my daughter.