REALLY SUPRISISED @ CHAT ROOM' ROOM'S CHAT

[Kim Dohoney]

hi, i'm rather new here, although i've been a member for quite a while. Due to heath problems, then to a virurs stricken computer, i just never got a real chance to actually visit this chat room.After opening it last week, i almost did not come back to it. i'm not tring to upset anyone, because God knows how frustrating it is to have a beloved child across the world .My son Cody (age 21,two months ago ) is in JAPAN), So, I know what it's like to miss your child. But as I said, I opened up the chat room, and no one was chatting, so I read the chats that had been going on. I couldn't believe how many arguments were going on between Mom's ! i thought this was a support group. Am I on the wrong place ? If so, I hope some one will direct me to the correct website. I don't want to argue with people I don't even know. I had a few questions, and I just wanted another Mom in the same shoes I'm in just to talk to. I hope when I ck. back in, I'll find out if I'm in the wrong place or not.

[Sharon]

Kim....
Do not be discouraged!! Chat is usually visited by moms and dads that are supportive and helpful. I go on fairly regularly and have only had a few instances where I have said to myself, "is this person an idiot or what?!?!" Don't give up...introduce yourself tomorrow and try again. I think you will be warmly welcomed! Prayers for you and your sailor!
Take good care...
Sharon

[georgyann]

we are a support group! it is just new proud momma and we all are here to support everyone,I especially understand right now..Dont give up keep trying,,,,
alycia mom

[Debbie]

Kim, when my son went to Japan 3 months ago I joined the Japan Group. They are very informative and will answer any questions that you have. Just thought I would share. Good Luck!

Debbie

[Navy for Moms Admins]

Kim (and all other moms reading this)

If you ever notice anything going on within the site that upset you or you feel shouldn't be here, just send me a message and I can look into it. You'll find that there are many supportive people in our community, that's what we're here for so don't be discouraged :)

Elle

[sherri]

my son has been in boot camp for 2 weeks...I am trying to chat and it seems like everyone knows each other....and there was someone one last night that only wanted to complain...ugh why cant I speak to anyone

[Kim Dohoney]

Believe me, I understand! After the the first time I looked at the chat room, I decided right then, that I would never go back. It was like everone on there was bickering and back bititing ! I went on and told them that I was new, and would most likely never be back.Within about a day, women from all over the place started leaving me messages assuring me, that for the most part they were not like that. Offering to put me in touch with Navy mom's for Sailors in Japan..I even got a letter from the woman who runs this web site saying how sorry she was that I had such a bad experience. So hang in there, give it another try. If you still don't like what you are seeing, contact them. They will take care of business! If nothing else, you and I can just talk to each other. LOL !
KIM DOHONEY Mom of Sailor Cody Dohoney

[MINETTE]

Hey Kim so glad your still with NFMS!!! LOL. Ahh the chat room. What a pain in the butt. It has been a constant challenge just to keep it from freezing up over and over again. I dont know why i bother going back except that i dont like to give up. Maybe its not for me. Wish i could help you with the Japan thing but my son is stationed in Norfolk. I can promise u that someone will hook u up lol. I'm sure that u were overwhelmed with messages about the chat issue but there r other ways to communicate like other chat rooms and Instant messaging. Lots of NFMs have joined me in yahoo, aol and facebook in part because the chat room here does not always work for them either. If u ever get the time maybe u should try that. I think i sent u a message with my contact info if ud like to chat some other way. Keep in touch and let me know how ur boy is doing:)

[MINETTE]

Hi Sherri, I just arrived in late march after 7 years of being a Navy mom. The chat room is a place where people come to vent, to laugh, to cry, complain, to say crazy slly things, to get irritated, sometimes but rarely to get really pissed off, to get help and hopefully to make a friend that they can relate to. We are all in this together and we all need to just try to accept that everyone is flawed. Thats the way God created us. I try in those moments when i get upset with people that need to be nasty for what ever reaon, to be forgiving of that person as i am not perfect and im sure i've irritated someone in my life at one moment or another.This site and its chat room is what you make of it meaning if u dont like the chat room, join a group or a discussion. There are lots of things you can do here. Chatting is not really for me as i like a more one on one approach and so i've joined other NFMs at yahoo IM, Aim and facebook. That works better for me and others as well and its been more fun than this chat room. Hang in there Sherri:)

[Mary, Proud Mom of Nick]

Kim, sorry to hear of your experience in Chat. Have you joined the Japan mom's group? There is great support in that group and your son is probably stationed with some of their sailors. Our son was born in Yokosuka when my hubby was stationed in Japan. Your son is probably having a fabulous time there, the culture and the people are really quite an experience. We have friends that decided to retire from the Navy and stay in Japan, so if you have questions please let me know.

[MIMI]

It's a site full of woman, they argu. BUT they are supportive as well. If you don't like a topic, just don't resond to it. People blow off alot of steam in here too I see. and for the most part, it's a good place. You will learn how to spot the ones that pick fights, just like anywhere.
This is a website full of a diverse people, and that means different opinons and that means disscussions can get heated. Hopefully, and as far as I see, cooler heads prevail. but, sometimes folks just need to be nasty I guess. I ignore it. or go else where. Oh. you can ask a person to chat in private too, did you know??? Anyway, hopefully you will see how nice most of the people are in here the next time you come. Sorry you were upset.

[Kim Dohoney]

i would love to join the mom's in the japan support room. my som cody has been over there for about 8 months.we get enils from him, and spoadic phone calls that last anywhere form 2-20 min. long.which for a mom, isn't nearly long enough! lol ! i have sent him pkgs. and letters. but he says he just don't have enough yime to write real letters. he's stationed on the admirals ship,and has already wet to china,all around the coast of japan,guam, and i think the phillipines.so i really would be interested in whatever other japan mom are going though. thanks for the info, could you hook me up?

[Kim Dohoney]

No I never found out how to do it. Can you send me down the "correct rd." so to speak? I'd really appreciate it ! My son Cody is an electrician on the USS Blue Bridge. Where is your son at?
Kim!