Mom's with Sailors in Sicily, Italy

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Comment by Mary, Jim's mom on November 6, 2009 at 1:04pm

Eagle Mom,
Your husband is wise. What a great sentiment to carry in out hearts. Thank you. For some reason I have been blue today and yesterday. I am sure it has to do with the Ft. Hood incident. If something like that can happen here on our soil, well I just worry that it could happen in other 'safe' places. I hope and pray that all our sailors stay as safe as possible and know what to do if harm comes their way. Sorry I just need to express it.

Comment by Eagle Mom on November 6, 2009 at 1:16am

Oh, Lynn, i know what you mean. I did real well for about 2 weeks and then the last week i became soo concious of how little time we had left. I tried not to fret because that would just waste what little time we had. So i enjoyed our time together to the utmost. When i dropped him off, i asked for a big, long hug and started to tear up which surprised him. He gave me the most wonderful hug. But i cried all the way home and on and off all day long. The house was so empty when i got home.
But today was better. i only cried for half the day! LOL I hope that you enjoy your time with your daughter. I will be right here if you need a shoulder when she is goes back to Sicily. My husband says that the measure of grief we feel at their absence is the measure of love that we have had for them their whole lives; so that great grief means great love.
God Bless You and Yours

Comment by Lynn on November 5, 2009 at 3:43pm

Hi Eagle Mom. I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so blue. My time is coming in 9 days. My daughter is stationed in Sicily and I had not seen her for 9 months until she surprised us and came home this past Monday night! She is here until the 13th and I am already fretting about the sadness that I know I am going to feel when we have to take her back to the airport. I'm not sure if this ever gets easier but I'm hoping each day it hurts a little less for you.

Comment by Eagle Mom on November 5, 2009 at 2:29pm

(Yesterday) My son just flew off to Europe and my heart is breaking all over again. i wonder when this will all become commonplace and i will stop have flashes of him as a little boy, as a teenager, as he is now. My heart grieves that he will never again live here in this house that was his home. i want to howl with the pain of it.
My head hurts from the thoughts and the tears. i fear i don't feel very brave or strong --not the least bit eagle-like.

(Today) Well, my Buddy should be there by now. i wish that he would call and let me know he arrived safely. i miss him so much. In some ways this is harder than if he had stayed gone, because i had gotten to the point where i was inured to his being gone, and now this has torn open the wound all over again. i know this will pass, but it does not help with the feelings i am experiencing to know that. This will be a tough week i guess.


How are those of you who are visiting their sailors in Italy? Are you having a good time?
God Bless Everyone!

Comment by Mary, Jim's mom on October 30, 2009 at 10:10am

Ladies,
I spoke to Jim on Wed. his promotion is bieng held up. He's not sure why but it has something to do with the higher-ups in the chain of command. So he won't be moving off base as soon as he thought. He did ask if we could send his sleeping bag, because they are planning a camping trip.He also mentioned a trip to Paris for Thanksgiving! I guess he is getting out and about. Emotions do go up and down a lot with kids in the military. I just need to get used to it.

Comment by Eagle Mom on October 30, 2009 at 4:57am

Mary and Linda-- i am relieved that my Buddy is moving to the base with a friend. It will not seem quite as lonely, i think, with his friend. i hope they see lots of different places while they are there.
i am making an effort not to allow myself to dwell on the fact that he will be gone again soon. i did okay for the first two weeks but i have been acutely aware this week that time is running out and he will be gone again (partly because he fit right back into our life and it is as if he never left). So i will need some distraction and support when he leaves.
God Bless your sailors.
Eaglemom

Comment by Mary, Jim's mom on October 27, 2009 at 9:55am

Jim works in the waterplant. He's a UT. He thinks maybe he'll move to building 205 just off base. Anyone's sailor there? He helped with the yearly haunted house and has baggeg groceries for service hours and to raise funds for the SeaBee ball. I don't know when that is but it should be fun.

Comment by Eagle Mom on October 27, 2009 at 3:50am

What great advice, Linda, for anyone!

Comment by Linda on October 23, 2009 at 11:22pm

Just before my daughter joined the Navy, we went to talk to a Navy-career couple that went to my church. Don't remember what his rank was, but it was up there. He told Jenn to always align herself with people that would help 'pull her up' and to have little to do with those that could 'pull her down'. I personally think that's probably good advice for everyone. It sounds to me that your son has figured this out all by himself.

I don't think spending time in his room is OK either though. Jenn struggled for several months after she got over there. She seemed really sad and I was ready to (and offered to) go over and make sure she was OK. She's finally made some friends (mostly people she works with). She rarely goes, out since she has a boyfriend from another country, she isn't interested in going places to meet guys. She has taken several tours and done some things (river rafting, zip lining, tour to Egypt, etc.).

What is his job? Eventually the people she works with finally seem to have 'accepted' her and they include her in their groups activities now. Jenn seemed to struggle with the change a lot when she first arrived. This was so UN-like all the other places she's been (she's starting year #6).

She still says she hates it over there, but since HER stuff arrived and she has her own place she seems much happier. Jenn moved about as far from base as I think she could -- she's in the country with lots of mountain views and no city-life. Getting his own place will give him lots to do -- furniture, utilities, internet, transportation -- it will keep him occupied arranging stuff.

Comment by Mary, Jim's mom on October 23, 2009 at 8:29pm

Moms,
Does anyone's sailor have a hard time making/keeping friends with like ideals? My sailor arrived at Sig with 3 others from A school. He has worked hard and will rank up next Thurs. The prob is, he is taking his career in the Navy much more seriously than they. They have all received counciling chits. He hasn't. As a result, he spends a lot of time in his room, actually he will now need to move off base.Because he'll be a PO 3rd class soon. His posts on Face Book are very sad sounding. I am concerned about his social life.Weird I know, I wish he went out with people more. Any ideas?
Or should I just not be concerned. He is new there, only arrived in June.

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