What do you say?

[Dema]

Sorry, I've been gone for awhile. What do you do when one day you sailer call and says he wants to come home and quit the Navy? Not to mention that he's already in "A" school. I thought you couldn't back out after boot camp? Delete Comment

[Anti M]

A sailor cannot just quit. Getting into trouble to get thrown out is a bad idea, a dishonorable discharge will cut out many opportunities in the civilian world later.
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He needs to talk to someone, be it his chain of command, command master chief or chaplain. Get guidance before he needs help.

[Chris~Tonys&Sam's mom]

He can NOT just quit. Yes, talk to someone. NO QUITING!

[Tricia Chandler]

I am sorry tohear that what is making him wanting to quit? I hope it was just a bad day and that it is better now

[Kimberly Parmer (Anthonys mom)]

My son went through that too...he talked to someone there....it went on for awhile, he is staying, but doesnt want to re-enroll after his 4 years...I think it is just because he hasn't gone anywhere but VA yet.....I hope your sailor talks to someone...good luck...

[debra asbrand]

my son also went thur that when he first went in 14 yrs ago he is still on active duty the best thing is to give him your support which i know you are . my son met up with a couple of buddies he met at A school and they talked and he also went to his change of command they will helped him he has now been in 14 years , when my son had those feelings missing home and me and wanting to quit i didn't cry on the phone when he called and i played things off to him about home like saying to him nothing happening here same old thing . and i told him i was proud of him and just think you are going to be able to see the world places that alot of people have never seen before and you can further education if thats what u choose to do . it will get better when he gets his first assignment after A school . i hope i have helped u a little bit. i hope he hangs in there i know it is hard but the navy gives are boys a wonderful oppunitys and makes young boys grow into wonderful strong mature man. p.s sorry about my spelling

[AM/AN Hines]

unfortunately for your son he took his oath saying that he will not quit untill properly relieved i do know what your son is feeling i just finished my a school four months ago. he is probably just lonely and you must assure him that your proud of his decision joining the navy and it is the best path to take right now. just let him know bootcamp and a school suck but after he gets through that bull crap he will have the greatest time of his life

[Mary, Proud Mom of Nick]

That is unfortunate Dema nor can he just walk away from the contract that he signed with the government. A school may be more challenging than he thought it would be or he could be on hold waiting for A school, whatever the case maybe - quitting is not an option. Perhaps you can suggest he talk to the chaplain and see if that might offer some help. I hope he starts to feel better about this job soon.

[Dema]

He called me yesterday late. I think he has been stressed about final test. He sounded so much better and said that he was done with a school. He has 30 days to go and them he gets his assignment. He will either go to San Diego or Virginia. I keep praising him for his decission to go to the Navy. I really think and hope that he is going to be fine.

[D. Toney]

I'm afraid I've had several calls like that from my son. I encouraged him to go and speak with a Chaplain, and that seemed to help him a lot. The Chap. told him that he had experience the same sort of feelings, and gave him some encouragement. That may help your son. I know it breaks your heart to get those calls. They haven't been very good to my son, and moved him to another job that he hates, right in the middle of his 7-month deployment. He's tried to get moved to another department or another ship altogether, but nobody has given him any hope and have pretty much told him he has to wait until closer to when his time is up, which would require reenlistment. We gotta pray for our boys. Their sacrifice is greater than we realize.

[OOHRAH MOM]

Dema,
Oh my!!! I can't begin to tell you the number of phone calls I had from my son while he was in A School telling me "I hate this" "I am not doing anything but spinning my wheels" "If I hear standby to standby one more time Mom I am going to jail" (lol) Now 3 years, 2 deployments and 11 countries, Search and Rescue Swimmer School, and achievement of Petty Officer 3rd class rank(and took test for 2nd class yesterday...keep your fingers crossed) later he loves it... He went in with the sole purpose of becoming a Rescue Swimmer and until he got accepted to school for that he grumbled and complained alot about the hurry up and wait process. Most of our children joined the Navy with a set goal in mind... and until they see that coming to fruition it is very frustrating for them... but tell him to hang in there... and if he went in with a goal in mind and he sticks to it and is patient the Navy will get him there... they will afford him every opportunity to achieve whatever goals he has set for himself.....
Hang tough mom... we have the toughest job in the fleet... Keeping the Sailors in line....lol