I need some support

[luvyezika]

Hello all this is my first blog and I hope someone will confort me and guide me.
I have been wanting to join the military since high school but my mother did not approve and since I was young I did as she told me which was to go to college and get a degree. While in college I had my first son and I was so determine to keep going further not to dissapoint my mother and to be able to provide for my son. I put the military to the side and most of my friends joined or got married to someone in the military. With time I believed that I was doing the right thing. I finished school and I went to work and was miserable all the time. I had my second son and got another job and still hate it. Now that I am older I am pursuing my masters in criminal justice while maintining my teaching position now as a substitute and attending online courses. I am still not content with my decision so during the summer I went online and signed up with all the branches of the military and left it to God to decide which branch was the best for me. After a long wait two weeks later I was contactd by the Navy and I was glad. I signed up and it took me till the last minute to actually tell my mom that I was signing up till the day that I had to her that I had to signed over temporary custody to her for both my children. She did not approved at all. I felt like I was doing the worst thing in my life. I can't describe the feeling. Last week I signed my contract and I am leaving for boot camp in May. I am so scarred to tell her that I am actually leaving and that I am staying till December since I have to go to A school as well as C school because I have been offered a job as intelligence. I need her support but I know that I will not get it. I need the courage to tell her now but I am so afraid. I am so happy about my decision but so sad about the dissapointment I am going to receive from my mom. PLease someone advise me or support me and give me the courage. Everyone knows that I am serious about my decision except my mother. I have yet to tell the father of my children but I am not worried about that. Thank you for reading my post.

[I.Y.A.O.Y.A.S.]

So since you have some college education are you going in as an officer? May I ask why/ Why specifically doesnt your mom want you to go in? Hmmm there are postives and negitives ups and downs to everything. maybe there is a way you can change her mind and you can have her support too....

[Cindy]

Hey, Luvyezika, are you getting enough encouragement here to GO FOR IT? All of these comments posted here are good and valid, and most made by Moms of sailors. You found this web site; stay with us. If you are not leaving until May, you can glean a lot of info here. Going into intelligence, are you? You must be a pretty sharp young lady. I believe the Navy is a good place to learn more and receive more training. And the comment by Jaye lynn, that you can't take care of your family if you have not taken care of yourself, that is so true. Children today need strong role models. Please be one - for your kids and for your nation. Feel free to add me as a friend. I have no kids at home, and I'm willing to be your cheerleader, shoulder to cry on, friend to rejoice with, whatever. Just move forward. You are doing a good thing.

[luvyezika]

Thank you everyone for your support and inspirational comments. You guys are the best support system. I am still trying to muster all my thoughts and courage to speak to my mother and really tell her how I feel. She is very judgemental and maybe that is her way of trying to change my mind but the papers are written and the contract has been signed and there is no turning back. I nkow that I will love it. I am very excited. I think I have done enough to please my motherits my time to please me and to lay down a strong future for my children and myself. You guys are the greatest thank you for all the love. I will definitely keep in touch with my new family.

[luvyezika]

I.Y.A.O.Y.A.S. -- Yes I am going in as an E-3 in the reserve. I chose reserve because I am cutting into my masters courses when I leave in May and I want to finish my classes before I enlist full time. I also have a mortgage that I want to get rid off but since the economy is so bad I have to wait a while. My mother believes that I am going to die or kill people and she does not want me to join the army. She is also deep into her religion but she obviously did not read the bible very well because many wars ahve been stated in the bible inspired and guided by God. Her father was in the military as well back in her country so I really do not understand the real reason why she opposes so much. I have support from you all and from my sister, nephew, brother, and father to join and so far it has enlighten me. I never realized how much I have accomplished until I hear the feedback from other people. I am still not finish with my career ultimately I am trying to work as an FBI agent and hopefully work in the Pentagon. Bless you guys my new family. Thank you for having me in your prayers.

[Vickie]

You mention your Dad supports you...there is a site similar to this for dads it is called navydads.com. Have him check it out. My husband joined that site not long after I joined this one. He really enjoyed reading about what was going on and he can meet other dads with recruits in your ship/div once you get to boot camp.
I wish you all the luck in the world. You will succeed!!!

[luvyezika]

I will mention to him the web page but he is not computer savvy so I or my brother will have to sit down with him. Thank you so much.

[Julie]

I was that mom With the country being at war the last thing I wanted was for MY children to be in the military. I was so scared that I would lose them. My son has been in about a year now, and it was truly the best decision he ever made. Now I am dealing with my 15 year old who tells me he wants to be a marine, that scares me even more, but I know I can't stand in the way of what he wants to do with his life as long as it is something positive. Live your dreams, your mom will come around, she is scared for you right now, but deep down inside I imagine she is also really proud, but not ready to show that yet.

[Bea S.]

How old are the kids? Who will have custody?

[luvyezika]

Bea S. -- My babies are 8 and 3 and my mother signed the paper work for them to stay with her. --Julie -- Maybe my mother has the same concerns as you and this is the reason why she does not want me to join.

[luvyezika]

Everyone-- I just talked to the recruiter today and I start my trainings next month in October once a month so I have to give it my best.