A Navy Wife's Post

[Lizzie_Corpsmanwife]

I know what you're thinking... Another wife probably talking about her issues about the Navy or even talking about her day to day life!  Well I have news that is shocking, yes and no :)  I noticed something about us wives on here that when we come into this new adventure called Navy Life, we have no idea what we got ourselves into.  You see my husband and I were married a year and a half before he joined the service, dating three years so to be honest, I thought I was ready to let him be gone for two months.  Boy was I wrong...  I thought that him being gone for two months was going to give me some freedom to prepare for a move, get my thoughts in order, get to know myself a little more, all the things that some of us think about when they make us mad at home.  The initial reaction was shock when I dropped him off in San Diego, I was just shocked that I was saying goodbye to my best friend.  My husband and I are more than husband and wife, more than lovers, and more than life partners, we are BEST FRIENDS!!!  We have a friendship that doesn't end when we are mad at each other, it actually helps us come together and talk about the issue that just occurred.  I missed him so much the first two weeks, heck I missed him a ton when he was gone, so I understand what all of my Navy sisters face when they initially have their husbands gone.  Now, what are some of the things that I did which helped me pass the time and pass the sad moments when I missed my bestie:

1. I prayed A LOT

I constantly was praying and crying out to the Lord because I really missed my husband, heck I felt that I was going to fall into a deep depression.  I prayed because God had helped me through some really tough times in my life, so I really wanted to pray and ask for the strength of God to help me.

2. Stay busy

My life while my husband was gone was very full of work, dogs, meal prep, working out, and doing homework.  If you don't have dogs, aren't in school, or go to the gym, fill your time with POSITIVE things not things that will end yo getting you depressed.  I truly encourage you all to stay positive do not let depression get to you because it will slowly but surely creep into your mind.

3. Write to him EVERY DAY

My husband would write to me and tell me that he loves getting all this mail from me.  He told me the first day of mail call he had like 15 letters from me and his mom sent him a bunch of cards for his birthday, they LOVE mail so make sure you write to him.  I would actually have days when I would be so exhausted and overwhelmed from my day that I didn't want to write to him, that's ok.  I honestly felt so bad when I would be too tired to write and I would send him a one page letter of encouragement, but he told me that he actually couldn't tell when I was too tired or when I skipped a day.  They truly love mail but they will not hate you for not writing to them.

I encourage you my sisters who are just embarking in the new navy life journey to stay positive and know that this WILL make your marriage so much stronger.  As my husband tells me, this separation made him appreciate and love me so much more.

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With love,

Liz

[jessijudy]

Thank you for this :) Just got my form letter ready to mail out 18 letters tomorrow morning <3