New to Divorce

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The break-up of a marriage is one of the most difficult things to endure. It is the end of a union between two people who once came together in love to build a future around each other’s dreams, hopes, and expectations. There are many reasons for a divorce, including extramarital affairs, financial issues, domestic abuse, the loss of a child, and irreconcilable differences between two people who have simply grown apart. Divorce is never easy, and it’s important to seek emotional support to help cope with the grief. Divorce is like a death and it requires a time of mourning.

 

Many divorcees feel at a loss after their divorce. After spending years with someone they built their lives around, they now have to face an unknown future, which can be frightening. There are stages of grief and loneliness that each experiences. If there are children involved, it is equally important that they also get emotional help and counseling if possible to deal with their own grief. Sometimes children can feel stressed, and feel caught in the middle of the marital conflicts, especially during custody disputes. It is important that the children also get the help and support that they need.

 

Seeking A Support Group

 

It can be helpful for divorcees to connect with others who have also walked through divorce. Divorcees might create a website or blog where others can have open discussions and contribute resources. Many create FB pages to share their stories with others in hopes of offering hope. It is often easier to share with strangers, than it is to open up with someone whom you know.

 

The following are helpful resources for those experiencing a divorce.

 

• Divorcecare.org This organization offers practical advice on how to help children cope with divorce. The site offers resources to help divorcees find a support group during separation and divorce. It also offers a daily encouragement option as well as a bookstore full of resources to strengthen and encourage during the healing journey.

 

• Womensdivorce.com This chat and message forum is a free and open space for women to find accountability and healing during separation and divorce. The site offers practical financial advice for divorced couples with children.

 

• Acf.hhs.gov The office of child care supports low-income families through finanical assistance and offers resources for afterschool programs.

 

Seek Legal Advice

 

It is important that divorcees seek legal help, especially if the divorce was due to domestic abuse. Divorce is painful, but can become more difficult when couples are caught in disputes over the rights of property and financial assets. A lawyer can help smooth the process over and counsel each on the best methods moving forward. This especially needed in custody battle situations, domestic abuse situations, or when a parent is incarcerated. Having the guidance of a lawyer and professional counselors can help cope with the new circumstances.

Have you or someone you know been divorced? If so, what resources might you offer them?