barbara i have been receiving ur emails and at first i cudnt belive ur son cudnt or wudnt contact u for so long. that upsets me. i also noticed this december is ur sons 3 rd year in the navy!! do u know how long is his contract fro? do u know when he comes back to japan? once he is done is he going to re enlist?
Barbara,
I so hope Timothy's email helps Chris to communicate with you. I still have not heard from my son. I had so hoped to go to Yokosuka for a family cruise. I had sent you an email but I am not sure if I did it correctly. Karla was a sweetheart to try and help. If you have any ideas for me, please let me know. I miss my son.
Leah
At 11:28pm on September 7, 2009, Navy Mom of 2 said…
Barbara,
No one will get in trouble, Chis is actually one step above Timothy in rank.
I hope everything works out for the two of you.
Karla
At 10:57pm on September 7, 2009, Navy Mom of 2 said…
Barbara,
My son has read some of your posts here on Navy For Moms, he is sorry for what you are going thru with your son. Timothy as sent Chris the following e-mail hoping to help get the communications between the two of you started. I apologize if you or Chris feels he as crossed the line, Timothy only had good intentions.
Karla
-----Original Message-----
From: CAVANAGH, TIMOTHY ABHAN (CVN73)
Sent: Tuesday, September 08, 2009 11:36 AM
To: LAYTON, CHRISTOPHER ET3 (CVN73)
Subject: navymoms.com
ET3,
My name is ABHAN Cavanagh and i work in V-1 dc. My mother has been in contact with your mom and she was tell me that you have not spoken to her for a long time. According to my mother your mom is very worried about you and would like to hear your voice or at least receive an email from you. I know you may not seem that this is none of my business but i am just the meesenger if you could please send your mother a email or call her. If you need a phone to call to the states i have unlimited calls back home just contact me and i will let you us my cell. Thank you for you time. Again i know this may be none of my business but your mom is really worried about you.
Barbara,
I said a prayer for you and your son today. Any time you want to talk, feel free.
Thank you for the kind words.
I hope you have a great day,
Connie
Barbara, I am trying to add you as a friend so I can PM you and don't know if I am doing it correctly. If you don't have a request from me to be added as a friend, please request me as a friend or let me know on the main page. Thanks. BigDMom
Barbara, I'm getting mad as hell about this. Has anyone told him some junk about you that might have him upset. Don't answer that , just think about it. I feel like S--t for you. It just sounds like someone has their nose in you business.
Hi Barbara, I just want you to know I am thinking about you and my heart goes out to you. I still have faith he will come through. Please hang in there and know I am here if you want to talk.
Barbara..................I just got home from a trip and received your email.My son could not afford the ticket that it would cost to fly home on leave.From the time he left for Japan until he got out I did not get to see him at all.If he has not contacted since Jan.I would find out why.Barabara,I would go ahead on with my vacation plans.Do you have his email address?If you do then just email him of your plans.oh how my heart aches for you because I can just imagine what you are going through.My son always kept in touch with me.I will be praying for you.
I've really not got much advice in your situation...I've got 3 grown & married...my sailor is the youngest, so even tho' I'm a widow--I'm not alone. Of course, I am significantly older than most of the Mom's on this site...so I've learned to focus on other things...my latest is learning to use a knitting machine...fun but frustrating...
Hey Barbara
My son is a QM2(SW) hes a Quarter Master 2nd Class Petty Officer in Navigation. He works on the bridge and he loves it.
Thanks for the info about skype I will have to check into it my son and I have talked about it but he has been at sea so much we havent had a chance to do anything about it. I know other moms rave about how great it is.
Sandra has a great suggestion about getting your emotions on something else. . It is hard adjusting to not having your whole life wrapped up in your child its time to get back to doing things you like and enjoy a hobby or something that will help distract your thoughts...
You know...if I were you, and I had somewhere to go to have a good time...I'd just go. Seems like you have a right to a life. You've dedicated at least 19 years to him...and time is truly the only thing you have that is yours (and it's a finite amount). Even your paycheck is a return for the number of seconds, minutes and hours of your total that you have "spent" for someone else. You might have to find something else to spend your emotion on...I've got a Great Dane...you might want to check into adopting a critter to return your love...one from a shelter will truly appreciate your affection...just a thought. (Not so sure I'd go the Great Dane route, tho -- they can eat as much as a teenager! -- maybe a smaller critter?) Name it "Son #2" and send #1 a picture of it. Then just relax. Life will be far easier...
Hi Barbara, Ryan keeps telling me that he will see us Christmas. He also said that when they get back to port he will be assigned to Atsugi and maybe go to a school on painting equipment. With 5000 on the ship they must have people coming and going on leave no matter where they are. Anyway Sept. sounds right to me. I think that was the general plan Aust., Singapore, Thailand and then Japan.
Thank you, yes they live on the base. If the ship stays on the "usual" schedule, late October would be quite safe for your vacation. Last year, remember, they put into port in September for just a few days, put back out for a couple of weeks, came back in for a few more days then in October, they left again for about 6 weeks. That's pretty common for the fall schedule. Doesn't mean that's what they'll be doing this year, but there's a chance the usual pattern will be followed.
Thanks, I like the pictures, too.
The ship usually goes back out in October until around Thanksgiving or the 1st week in December to participate in a joint exercise with the Japanese...can't think what they call it now...then they're usually in through Christmas & New Year's until around Feb. or March. Of course, that is all subject to change without notice according to the needs of the Navy.
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I so hope Timothy's email helps Chris to communicate with you. I still have not heard from my son. I had so hoped to go to Yokosuka for a family cruise. I had sent you an email but I am not sure if I did it correctly. Karla was a sweetheart to try and help. If you have any ideas for me, please let me know. I miss my son.
Leah
No one will get in trouble, Chis is actually one step above Timothy in rank.
I hope everything works out for the two of you.
Karla
My son has read some of your posts here on Navy For Moms, he is sorry for what you are going thru with your son. Timothy as sent Chris the following e-mail hoping to help get the communications between the two of you started. I apologize if you or Chris feels he as crossed the line, Timothy only had good intentions.
Karla
-----Original Message-----
From: CAVANAGH, TIMOTHY ABHAN (CVN73)
Sent: Tuesday, September 08, 2009 11:36 AM
To: LAYTON, CHRISTOPHER ET3 (CVN73)
Subject: navymoms.com
ET3,
My name is ABHAN Cavanagh and i work in V-1 dc. My mother has been in contact with your mom and she was tell me that you have not spoken to her for a long time. According to my mother your mom is very worried about you and would like to hear your voice or at least receive an email from you. I know you may not seem that this is none of my business but i am just the meesenger if you could please send your mother a email or call her. If you need a phone to call to the states i have unlimited calls back home just contact me and i will let you us my cell. Thank you for you time. Again i know this may be none of my business but your mom is really worried about you.
V/R
ABHAN Cavanagh
J- 6733
I said a prayer for you and your son today. Any time you want to talk, feel free.
Thank you for the kind words.
I hope you have a great day,
Connie
Have you heard from your son, yet? How are you doing?
Hugs to you my friend~
My son is a QM2(SW) hes a Quarter Master 2nd Class Petty Officer in Navigation. He works on the bridge and he loves it.
Thanks for the info about skype I will have to check into it my son and I have talked about it but he has been at sea so much we havent had a chance to do anything about it. I know other moms rave about how great it is.
Sandra has a great suggestion about getting your emotions on something else. . It is hard adjusting to not having your whole life wrapped up in your child its time to get back to doing things you like and enjoy a hobby or something that will help distract your thoughts...
The ship usually goes back out in October until around Thanksgiving or the 1st week in December to participate in a joint exercise with the Japanese...can't think what they call it now...then they're usually in through Christmas & New Year's until around Feb. or March. Of course, that is all subject to change without notice according to the needs of the Navy.
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