Misperceptions about Navy life - Navy For Moms2024-03-28T13:43:15Zhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/forum/categories/misperceptions-about-navy-life/listForCategory?categoryId=1971797%3ACategory%3A92&feed=yes&xn_auth=noJoiningtag:navyformoms.ning.com,2016-08-18:1971797:Topic:94499392016-08-18T19:53:16.910ZSoonToBeNavyWifehttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/SoonToBeNavyWife
Are there any sailors that are moms and is enlisted and active duty? I have already taken my asvab waiting for dates for bootcamp but now I am getting cold feet. I am enlisting as active duty and going in as full time support. Any advice to help me get over this cold feet? I've been wanting to be in the military since I was 14... I am now 20.. I'm excited to join, but then there's moments like today where I'm hesitant.
Are there any sailors that are moms and is enlisted and active duty? I have already taken my asvab waiting for dates for bootcamp but now I am getting cold feet. I am enlisting as active duty and going in as full time support. Any advice to help me get over this cold feet? I've been wanting to be in the military since I was 14... I am now 20.. I'm excited to join, but then there's moments like today where I'm hesitant. ESTABLISHING THE RANK ORDERtag:navyformoms.ning.com,2015-03-31:1971797:Topic:89993482015-03-31T12:42:02.115ZCryptoDadhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/CryptoDad
<p><br></br> Advancement opportunity is based on two primary factors - vacancies in your rating (quotas) and your Final Multiple Score (FMS) in comparison to rating candidates. Each cycle the rank order is established once exam answer sheets are scored an all other FMS elements are calculated. Some ratings are open, permitting a larger percentage of advancements. The rank order is very important in tight ratings, where only those with the highest FMS can advance. E4-E6 Active Duty, Full-Time…</p>
<p><br/> Advancement opportunity is based on two primary factors - vacancies in your rating (quotas) and your Final Multiple Score (FMS) in comparison to rating candidates. Each cycle the rank order is established once exam answer sheets are scored an all other FMS elements are calculated. Some ratings are open, permitting a larger percentage of advancements. The rank order is very important in tight ratings, where only those with the highest FMS can advance. E4-E6 Active Duty, Full-Time Support, Canvasser Recruiter and Reserve advancement Cycle results will be published to command triads around Memorial Day. Good luck to all advancement candidates!</p> "Whole Person Concept" - it's not just your exam scores that get you advanced, it's your Final Multiple Score (FMS).tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2015-03-31:1971797:Topic:89994462015-03-31T12:40:02.079ZCryptoDadhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/CryptoDad
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<div><p>The FMS is a "Whole Person Concept" approach that considers your exam score along with other factors to ensure the right Sailors are advanced. The other factors considered for E4/5/6 are Performance Mark Average (how well you perform in your job and as a Sailor), Service in Paygrade (experience in your job), Awards (your accomplishments in your jo<span class="text_exposed_show">b and as a Sailor), Education Points (self improvement through education (accredited…</span></p>
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<div><p>The FMS is a "Whole Person Concept" approach that considers your exam score along with other factors to ensure the right Sailors are advanced. The other factors considered for E4/5/6 are Performance Mark Average (how well you perform in your job and as a Sailor), Service in Paygrade (experience in your job), Awards (your accomplishments in your jo<span class="text_exposed_show">b and as a Sailor), Education Points (self improvement through education (accredited college degrees), and PNA points (credit for doing great on previous exam cycles but not enough quotas available).</span></p>
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<p>For those who are CPO board eligible, the FMS is computed using Performance Mark Average and rating exam score only.</p>
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<p>What is your advancement "opportunity?" The quota for each rating - percentage of Sailors that have an opportunity to advance each cycle - is the most important advancement factor. Some ratings have limited quotas, so the Navy works hard to advance the most qualified Sailors using the Whole Person Concept.</p>
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<p>My daughter is an active duty sailor. Long story short, she broke a foot and is getting no medical attention. How can this be? How can I help her? As I have been repeatedly told, "active duty personnel is consistently mistreated, ignored, by their (U. S. Navy's) medical providers." Gosh her foot is broken! Help me help her!! </p>
<p>My daughter is an active duty sailor. Long story short, she broke a foot and is getting no medical attention. How can this be? How can I help her? As I have been repeatedly told, "active duty personnel is consistently mistreated, ignored, by their (U. S. Navy's) medical providers." Gosh her foot is broken! Help me help her!! </p> Not sure if I'm getting the truth.tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2013-12-26:1971797:Topic:83744132013-12-26T21:54:36.918Zeli51354https://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/eli51354
<p>My step-daughter, with whom I have a great relationship (most of the time), is stationed on a carrier in San Diego. I know she hates being on the ship, but she's only 19 and was told she would not be placed in barracks until she's 21. She's recently become friends with a female sailor from another carrier in the area who does live off-ship and in barracks and my step-daughter is now staying with her. She claims that "<span><span class="null">they don't care where i stay or what i do. As…</span></span></p>
<p>My step-daughter, with whom I have a great relationship (most of the time), is stationed on a carrier in San Diego. I know she hates being on the ship, but she's only 19 and was told she would not be placed in barracks until she's 21. She's recently become friends with a female sailor from another carrier in the area who does live off-ship and in barracks and my step-daughter is now staying with her. She claims that "<span><span class="null">they don't care where i stay or what i do. As long as i show up for work and duty on time that's it. I work everyday, if i don't show up then that's UA. My time is my time when I'm off." I copied/pasted from a response I just received from her. I'm concerned because her friend is 21 and there is drinking going on in her room. We've already been told that by my step-daughter. <br/></span></span></p>
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<p><span><span class="null">I find it hard to believe that the Navy doesn't check to make sure the sailor is staying where he/she is supposed to be staying, i.e. in their berth on the ship. </span></span></p>
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<p><span><span class="null">Any advice or information would be greatly appreciated!</span></span></p>
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<p></p> My only son is considering becoming a Naval Officer. I am not excited. UPDATED 7-19-14 I am now very excited.tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2013-11-11:1971797:Topic:83016702013-11-11T16:25:36.748Zisupportmysonhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/tameratammytam
<p>Tthis is my first post.I raised a wonderful intelligent young man. I knew with his honors College background he would do something remarkable. When he told me he was considering becoming a naval officer it took me 3 days just to deal with it and go back to work. My son is a truly remarkable and gifted young man. But the military is literally the last thing I would have selected for his career path. But I support him, and need to learn how to change my attitude aboutbthe military. This is…</p>
<p>Tthis is my first post.I raised a wonderful intelligent young man. I knew with his honors College background he would do something remarkable. When he told me he was considering becoming a naval officer it took me 3 days just to deal with it and go back to work. My son is a truly remarkable and gifted young man. But the military is literally the last thing I would have selected for his career path. But I support him, and need to learn how to change my attitude aboutbthe military. This is going to be honest, because I truly want to change. I selected Veterans Day to post, on purpose.<br/> My father was a career Air Force man. He was a very mean and hate filled man who made our lives miserable. We always associated the military, and his time in both the Korean and Vietnam wars as the root of his hate. As a young girl I grew up thinking very VERY negative thoughts about the military, and the types of people who choose this path. My mother ingrained it in me to NEVER date a person in the military. I have passed that along to my 4 daughters, and in fact had that discussion the day before my son called to tell me he is considering the Navy, and has already been working with a recruiter and tested high on the officer exams. (please excuse my lack of knowledge on what things are called)</p>
<p>My son asked when a good time to talk would be, and when we talked, he communicated with eloquent detail for 90 minutes all of the details that led him to consider this path. He is a senior in college, out of state, so this was on the phone. I listened actively and support his decision fully. I am just very conflicted. I will literally need to retrain my brain. I need to be able to believe that he will not lose his loving, thoughtful ways....or have them driven out of him. I had been approached by him to do ROTC when he was a freshman, but I talked him out of it! So now that he was coming back to me with this discussion again, I immediately accepted it. Although I cried....I told him I will support him in whatever he chooses. His college path aligns him with leadership, and he has been approached to consider this. I now need to learn how to get on board.<br/> Although I disliked my father, I have always respected the he served his country. I just held a grudge that I had to sacrifice my father. I need an attitude adjustment now....as I approach turning 50. I am willing, but ignorant on how to do it.</p>
<p>On the night he told me of his interest in the Navy, my son gave me this website, and I have not used it yet. But who could help me more than fellow moms? The first time I logged on, I logged back off and said " I don't want to be a Navy Mom". I have taken time, and realizing how much I love and support my son, have come back. And on Veterans Day. I thank you all for the service and future service of your sons and daughters. My son will not go in for over a year, so I have time to grow and learn. He must finish his final semester and a half at the university, and then complete some study abroad in a foreign country before entering. Also, he is applying for several different jobs and is being medically cleared, now. I have time. He may not even choose the Navy, but I know better, because these committee's will definately choose him, and pursue him. Thank you for reading my heart felt confession, and for any advise ypou can share, I thank you.</p> Meet with recruiter and some concernstag:navyformoms.ning.com,2013-07-17:1971797:Topic:80627262013-07-17T17:46:32.586ZSEFhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/SEF
Hi all! My husband and I met with a recruiter last week and had mixed reviews. There are so many pros to having my husband join- traveling, financial security, opportunities for my husband professionally and I can go back to school without going into further debt. There are cons- missing family, deployments, not exactly knowing where we will be, length of service... But the biggest concern is the culture of the navy. Im sorry if this offends folks but its a genuine concern and i need to know-…
Hi all! My husband and I met with a recruiter last week and had mixed reviews. There are so many pros to having my husband join- traveling, financial security, opportunities for my husband professionally and I can go back to school without going into further debt. There are cons- missing family, deployments, not exactly knowing where we will be, length of service... But the biggest concern is the culture of the navy. Im sorry if this offends folks but its a genuine concern and i need to know- My husband and I are fairly liberal in our views and tend be very open in our thoughts but we don't push or talk about views publicy. It's a personal choice that we keep to ourselves. Our recruiter was very outspoken on her very conserative views and threw them down our throats. I'm not saying you can't have those views (different opinions push the world to be a better place) but I don't necessarily want to be around very outspoken and vulgar talk (no matter if you are liberal or consrvative) Also, I've heard the saying, "cursing like a sailor" but this recruiter took it to the next level. Dropping all sorts of terms and language that I'm not comfortable with. Im no saint and have used curse words myself but this was a little much. My husband and I are wondering if this type of talk and and attitude was the norm of the navy or if its just our recruiter. Even with all the pros, would we be absolutely miserable in our everyday life if we are surrounded by this type of culture? We really want to join the navy but we don't want to isolated and alone... Let me know your experiences with the navy culture! I need guidance and any info would be greatly appreciated.<br />
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Also she said as an officer wife, my only job should be throwing parties and looking after the enlisted wives. I don't want to be seen just as an officer wife.., I have my own life, hobbies and thoughts. I went to school and got good grades and I don't want to be seen as some snotty officer wife who does. Nothing but throws great parties. I'm having a really hard time swallowing that aspect. Is this true? Is that I'll be seen as good for? Am I just seen as dependent to my husband who I blindly oblige?<br />
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Ohhh man all the questions and concerns in my head... Let me know your thoughts and tell it too me straight. Hold You Backtag:navyformoms.ning.com,2013-07-16:1971797:Topic:80601812013-07-16T16:59:54.532ZSweetsanhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/Sweetsan
<p>I don't understand why the Navy won't let you move when you rate for a job that you qualify for. It seem like they hold you back from progress and learning. It doesn't help the sailors who would want to make a career In the Navy to reenlist.</p>
<p>I don't understand why the Navy won't let you move when you rate for a job that you qualify for. It seem like they hold you back from progress and learning. It doesn't help the sailors who would want to make a career In the Navy to reenlist.</p> New undesignated wife. So confused!tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2012-08-31:1971797:Topic:73059982012-08-31T03:54:17.576ZKarenhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/KarenShip3DIV298
My husband recently went to boot camp (7/23) and he has been getting told that he will probably be shipped out somewhere right after his 10 day visit home. How much truth does this hold? Will I be separated from him right after his visit home? Or will they give us some time to move and settle in before they send him away? Also, they have told him that he will be gone for most of the next four years. Are they just trying to scare him? Or is this all true? If its probable that he'll have to leave…
My husband recently went to boot camp (7/23) and he has been getting told that he will probably be shipped out somewhere right after his 10 day visit home. How much truth does this hold? Will I be separated from him right after his visit home? Or will they give us some time to move and settle in before they send him away? Also, they have told him that he will be gone for most of the next four years. Are they just trying to scare him? Or is this all true? If its probable that he'll have to leave without me, will I have to find a place to live or will they assign us a home while he's away? I'm new to all this. I'm trying to get a grasp on what's to come. Any input would be greatly appreciated! Thanks. Young Marriage Questiontag:navyformoms.ning.com,2012-07-02:1971797:Topic:71633232012-07-02T02:35:11.532ZNouveauFMILhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/ConcernedMom665
<p>Hi, I would appreciate any input or advice. My daughter is 20 years old and is finishing up her AA degree. We are a very close knit family and she has never been anywhere away from home for any length of time. She dated her boyfriend in high school since she was 15 and he was 16 and they recently got engaged and want to get married in December. Her now fiance finished his schooling is stationed for 2 years at a location where he is doing his job. He is located about 7 hours from where…</p>
<p>Hi, I would appreciate any input or advice. My daughter is 20 years old and is finishing up her AA degree. We are a very close knit family and she has never been anywhere away from home for any length of time. She dated her boyfriend in high school since she was 15 and he was 16 and they recently got engaged and want to get married in December. Her now fiance finished his schooling is stationed for 2 years at a location where he is doing his job. He is located about 7 hours from where we live right now. By the time they get married, he would have been in the service for a little over a year. He has been promised to stay at his present location doing his job for at least 2 years and has a term of 5 years. Their plan is to get married in December, and live off his pay while she continues to go to school full time to finish up her 4 year degree. They want to be married because they miss each other being far apart and want to be together. As parents, we want our daughter to be happy and support her decision, but also from experience, we know that it is not going to be easy. Being away from home for the first time as a married woman, being a new wife in an area that is totally new and not having any family around other than her husband when she is used to having family around, being a full time student, living off of one income. I don't think she realizes what a culture shock it is going to be and once the novalty of being married wears off a little bit, she may realize that what we were saying was true. Right now all she can see is that she is in love and wants to be married so they can be together which I understand but am concerned for her. If anyone is going through or has gone through a similar situation which I'm sure many have, I would appreciate anything you can offer.</p>
<p>If you are a mom who went or are going through a similar situation, were you able to get your daughter to view the pros and cons? If she got married, how has she adjusted? Is it as hard as I am thinking it will be? Do you think it would have been better to wait until she finished school to get married? Things I'm factoring in is possible pregnancy, moving around to different locations.</p>
<p>Also, if you are a young wife how are you adjusting? Are you able to continue going to school or are things getting in the way of you completing your degree? </p>
<p>I personally was hoping that when her now fiance went into the navy, it was going to give them the time they needed to focus on their careers and my daughter was going to only have to focus on being a full time student, finish up her degree, and would enable her to become her own person and independent instead of becoming completely dependent on her new husband, being a new wife in a new area, and being a full time student. This also would have enabled them both to mature a little more since they are only 20 years old. </p>
<p>Financially she says that they will be ok on one income since they will live in housing that is paid for. I think he will be an E3, so that is what they will have to pay their bills and live off of. From anyone's experience, is it easy to live off of that.</p>
<p>We do not come from a military family so this is an adjustment for all of us so any suggestions, advise, input would really be appreciated.</p>
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