Boyfriend left 6/25/12...need some support!!

[dukelvr]

Okay, so I'm brand new to this site and let me just say, it's comforting to know that others are going through the same thing I am. However, the pain is still here and I can't seem to escape from it. I've dated my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we did have a break in that time frame. During that time is when he decided to sign up for the navy. Lets just say, I was devastated. I always told myself I wouldn't date someone in the military, now look at me. So like I said, he left on Monday the 25th, today is Saturday the 30th, and all I seem to know how to do is cry. He called me at 12:45 EST (so technically early, early Tuesday morning). It was a minute phone call and he said he would call me in 2 weeks, I hope that's true. I've already written him a letter, even sent him FB messages even though he wont get it for 8 weeks. I just feel horribly alone right now, and my biggest fear is that we are going to grow apart and he wont want me anymore. Thinking that upsets me more and brings on a waterfall of tears. These 2 weeks are going to be hard, since we can't have any calls or letters. I just wanted to hear other stories and if there is any advice y'all can give me. I'm trying to stay busy, but it doesn't seem to help. It seems like I think of him every minute of the day, and I just can't get him out of my head. I'm worried, scared, and I just want that feeling to end. I'm already picturing when he calls me and I feel like all I'll be able to do is cry because I've missed his voice so bad. But anyway, sorry for the rant. I just feel like I could meet others that understand what I'm going through. Anything will help!!!

[amor]

I'm so glad!!! And don't worry about sending him too much---I just talked to my boyfriend about THAT yesterday, because in total I sent him 54 letters, because I sent him a letter a day with the exclusion of this last week because of course by the time they got to Great Lakes he will have already been at A-school. But anyways I asked him yesterday if he got to keep any of the letters or if they made him throw them away---he said he got to keep every single one! Haha! And that it definitely weighed down his pack but he doesn't care because he loved them all so much! And just so you know, he may have even been writing before today, my boyfriend had been writing me since the second day he was there, after they gave them their notebooks and pens, though I guess that's pretty rare because they're technically not supposed to do that. But let's see...the first day he got to SEND the letters was May 20th, and he left May 7th. So if everything is going as planned, his letters will be on their way to you from IL first thing in the morning! I hope they make you feel better! :) 

[karmennicole Ship 07 Div 244]

I know its so hard right now, my boyfriend of almost 3 years left 6/12... Its hard at first but trust me it gets better, and when that first letter comes its one of the best feelings ever, Ive seriously read that letter over abd over. My boyfriend was not a big romantic before he left, and he has definatly changed... Those letters are sweet and sappy:P Try not to worry about his feelings towards you dissapearing and you guys growing apart. If anything this will bribg your relationship closer. Just keep writing him letters and keep yourself busy.. I promise it will get better once you start communicating.

[karmennicole Ship 07 Div 244]

(sorry for the typos)

[dukelvr]

Oh, when I get his letter I will probably burst into tears. And I know 100% that I will read it all the time, I just hate waiting! And I hope he's sweet in his letters! He's a pretty sweet guy, but I feel like the navy is going to toughen him up and he's going to lose all that. I hope not! I'm still waiting to hear from his mom to let me know that she got the box with all his stuff in it and the letter with his address. I still haven't heard anything, so I'm anxiously waiting. How long does it take from when he leaves that you actually get his address??

[kage39]

I got the address about a week and a half later but they say a week.

[dukelvr]

Oh, okay..thank you so much!! The whole 2 weeks no contact rule really sucks!! I didn't know about that until the day before he left :( Where's the fast forward button when you need one?

[kage39]

Of course! Yeah i had no idea about that rule either, they kinda surprise it on ya :/ but taht first letter, it literally knocked me off my feet have a chair behind you! Im glad i did. But think of it this way those 8weeks of boot camp imagine u got to see him everyday and then take all that love and when u actaully do get to see him it will be all concetrated into that first time he gets to hold u again. Thats whats keeping me going :))

[amor]

Don't worry about the Navy turning him into a "tough guy". My boyfriend's older brother is a "tough guy" and he went into the navy years ago and was the inspiration for my BF to go. Before he left I talked to their sister about whether his older brother had "changed" before and after boot camp because I was afraid that my BF would start to act like that or his demeanor would change. she assured me not to worry because his older brother had always been, to put it lightly, "like that". My boyfriend is one of the sweetest guys I have ever known and he has not changed at all. 

You can wait for the address to come on the form letter or the box, OR if you have your BF's recruiter's number or email, I would suggest putting it to good use. I "cheated" and asked the recruiter for Pat's address and he actually was great and gave it to me a week before the form letter came! ;) Of course, the RTC holds the letters and he didn't get mine any earlier than any of the other recruits, but it gave me peace of mind to send them out ASAP. 

[dukelvr]

Well, I know the form letter and box are going to be sent to him mom, so I wont find anything out until she messages me back (which I'm hoping will be soon!) I have no idea who his recruiter's number or email is sadly!! I'm hoping I find something out sooner than later though because the anticipation is slowly getting to me.

And thanks for telling me about the "not changing" thing. I hope he stays the sweet ol' guy that I know he is! Haha, I'm going to keep all you ladies updated when I get my first letter!!

[kage39]

Of course! Yeah i had no idea about that rule either, they kinda surprise it on ya :/ but taht first letter, it literally knocked me off my feet have a chair behind you! Im glad i did. But think of it this way those 8weeks of boot camp imagine u got to see him everyday and then take all that love and when u actaully do get to see him it will be all concetrated into that first time he gets to hold u again. Thats whats keeping me going :))

[dukelvr]

Well, I hope I can go to his graduation :( I'm so scared I wont be able to have the money to do so. If I can't go to his graduation, I have to wait until Thanksgiving to see him again! I don't think I could make that though.

[kage39]

I would definitly suggest South western airlines. At first i was terrified icouldt either but where as a one way ticket from a some other airline cost $500 a round trip with southwest cost $515! I mean yeah its still a meaty chunk of cash but its a beter dealthan some others.