help with insight for my girlfriend.......Help plz - Navy For Moms2024-03-28T12:18:23Zhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/forum/topics/help-with-insight-for-my?commentId=1971797%3AComment%3A3642938&x=1&feed=yes&xn_auth=noLife is all about decisions.…tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-22:1971797:Comment:36429382010-04-22T12:37:49.500Zdream70https://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/dream70
Life is all about decisions. Your decisions and your girlfriend's if she decides to spend the rest of your lives together. I am just reaching retirement with this year from 21 years in the Navy. My wife has been right by my side for 19 of those years. We have 2 boys ages 18 and 23. We wouldn't have stayed together without the support of the Navy.<br />
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If Rescue Swimmer is your ultimate goal and time apart is a no-go, there are other Services that provide those jobs that keep you close to home. The…
Life is all about decisions. Your decisions and your girlfriend's if she decides to spend the rest of your lives together. I am just reaching retirement with this year from 21 years in the Navy. My wife has been right by my side for 19 of those years. We have 2 boys ages 18 and 23. We wouldn't have stayed together without the support of the Navy.<br />
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If Rescue Swimmer is your ultimate goal and time apart is a no-go, there are other Services that provide those jobs that keep you close to home. The Coast Guard perhaps? The important thing is that you are still serving our country and they have great rescue swimmers. To the girlfriend, my boyfrie…tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-22:1971797:Comment:36427502010-04-22T06:59:23.112ZI_love_Thomashttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/IloveThomas
To the girlfriend, my boyfriend just left and I am feeling so many emotions. Scared, proud, lonely. The first few days, I cried at sight of his toothbrush and socks, but I had him leave me his pajamas so I could sleep in them and feel somewhat close to him, still. If you two are serious and you know you want to be only with him and you know you will wait for him, then by all means, encourage the hero. You may not think you will be strong enough without him, but it will make you both so much…
To the girlfriend, my boyfriend just left and I am feeling so many emotions. Scared, proud, lonely. The first few days, I cried at sight of his toothbrush and socks, but I had him leave me his pajamas so I could sleep in them and feel somewhat close to him, still. If you two are serious and you know you want to be only with him and you know you will wait for him, then by all means, encourage the hero. You may not think you will be strong enough without him, but it will make you both so much stronger together. It may hurt, it may be a long process, but love will keep you alive if you are a truly meant to be couple. We are here together as girlfriends, wives, siblings, and all sorts. You have us if not your friends and family as well. Girlfriend-
I know exactly h…tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-20:1971797:Comment:36377422010-04-20T21:29:12.613ZBlue_Muffin's_Red_Cupcakehttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/BlueMuffinsRedCupcake
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I know exactly how you feel. My sailor leaves for BC in less than 5 months, and honestly, I'm terrified. BUT even though I am terrified for him, I am so proud of him. Its scary, knowing I probably won't be able to see him for at least 3 months in a row, and that is only boot camp. Sometimes I worry about not being able to see him, touch him, kiss him, but I know when he gets back it'll just get better! Yes, he may be more analytical and mentally tougher, but thats where you come…
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I know exactly how you feel. My sailor leaves for BC in less than 5 months, and honestly, I'm terrified. BUT even though I am terrified for him, I am so proud of him. Its scary, knowing I probably won't be able to see him for at least 3 months in a row, and that is only boot camp. Sometimes I worry about not being able to see him, touch him, kiss him, but I know when he gets back it'll just get better! Yes, he may be more analytical and mentally tougher, but thats where you come in! I wrote a blog post not 2 days ago and someone replied and basically told me to look it all up! Check out what he's doing at BC online, go through it with him! Try to keep the conversations or letters you do have or receive on happy things! Let him know how much you love him or how proud you are of him! My sailor told me just the other say something that I will always treasure in my heart; "The only thing stronger than an American Soldier is his girlfriend." not a problem maureen its oka…tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-19:1971797:Comment:36349672010-04-19T23:48:28.624ZTyeson_2211https://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/Tyeson2211
not a problem maureen its okay thank you for you insight i appreciate it
not a problem maureen its okay thank you for you insight i appreciate it My daughter did it and is gla…tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-18:1971797:Comment:36317992010-04-18T22:08:37.941ZVikihttps://navyformoms.ning.com/xn/detail/u_0l4m7oybn7fzu
My daughter did it and is glad for the opportunities...<br />
she now lives in Hawaii !
My daughter did it and is glad for the opportunities...<br />
she now lives in Hawaii ! Excellent advice!tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-17:1971797:Comment:36277662010-04-17T03:06:26.988ZAnnahttps://navyformoms.ning.com/xn/detail/u_1tpc7cbpmyzfx
Excellent advice!
Excellent advice! I have to disagree with a lot…tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-17:1971797:Comment:36277582010-04-17T03:04:30.678ZAnnahttps://navyformoms.ning.com/xn/detail/u_1tpc7cbpmyzfx
I have to disagree with a lot of the posts here. My husband and I were together for 6 years before he joined the Navy. While I will always support him, we make life-altering decisions together. If I told him he couldn't join it would not be because I was being un-supportive. Joining the military will change your relationship and you should both have a life and relationship that is best for you. You both need to be honest with each other about your needs and plans for the future. Look at your…
I have to disagree with a lot of the posts here. My husband and I were together for 6 years before he joined the Navy. While I will always support him, we make life-altering decisions together. If I told him he couldn't join it would not be because I was being un-supportive. Joining the military will change your relationship and you should both have a life and relationship that is best for you. You both need to be honest with each other about your needs and plans for the future. Look at your options critically and don't rush into anything. It's hard to make someone und…tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-14:1971797:Comment:36196792010-04-14T18:14:52.808ZILoveMySealhttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/ILoveMySeal
It's hard to make someone understand exactly why you are doing something, especially when it is something that will be difficult. It certainly doesn't mean your relationship is doomed, no matter how new it is. I guess the best advice that I can give is take it day by day TOGETHER. If you have a meeting with the recruiter that she can go to, bring her. Make her feel like she matters in your decision to join our military and that you plan to KEEP her involved. Long story short, do what you can to…
It's hard to make someone understand exactly why you are doing something, especially when it is something that will be difficult. It certainly doesn't mean your relationship is doomed, no matter how new it is. I guess the best advice that I can give is take it day by day TOGETHER. If you have a meeting with the recruiter that she can go to, bring her. Make her feel like she matters in your decision to join our military and that you plan to KEEP her involved. Long story short, do what you can to include her, but her pride in your choice to join the Navy is something she'll have to develop on her own. Pride and love for her man is what keeps a sailors girl going :)<br />
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Hopefully that helps. Navygirlfriend,Retired Navywi…tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-13:1971797:Comment:36168522010-04-13T19:33:50.944ZNate's Mom (Wendy) ;Phttps://navyformoms.ning.com/xn/detail/u_0e9b2lx7edd2y
Navygirlfriend,Retired Navywife and now a Navymom. It is/was the best experience in my life. It takes a strong person to be spouse of a military member. you have to be willing to step up when needed, step down when need and understand the rollercoaster of emotions. If you serious, go for it. If she is, than she will be your best ally. But going in blindly is very hard. But as hard as it is it is also extremely honorable and enjoyed every moment. Put your self with like minded ambition driven…
Navygirlfriend,Retired Navywife and now a Navymom. It is/was the best experience in my life. It takes a strong person to be spouse of a military member. you have to be willing to step up when needed, step down when need and understand the rollercoaster of emotions. If you serious, go for it. If she is, than she will be your best ally. But going in blindly is very hard. But as hard as it is it is also extremely honorable and enjoyed every moment. Put your self with like minded ambition driven friends as she should do. There are pit falls and if your hangin out with the wrong crowd it wont work for what you want to do or for her. Lots of great advice on here. Mine to you, if your driven you will achieve. Same for your girlfriend. I wish you the very best of luck and her. =) First off, I'm not a girl. I'…tag:navyformoms.ning.com,2010-04-13:1971797:Comment:36163432010-04-13T16:18:03.111ZJohn and Yvonnehttps://navyformoms.ning.com/profile/JohnandYvonne
First off, I'm not a girl. I'm a retired Navy chaplain (male). I admire the fact that you want to be a rescue swimmer. You should be able to live your dream. However, your girlfriend also has a right to live her dream, whatever that may be. What you have to figure out is whether your dreams are compatable.<br />
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Whatever you do, don't try to downplay the challenges and difficulties of life in the Navy. That will only come back to bite you later! The Navy, like every other branch of the service is…
First off, I'm not a girl. I'm a retired Navy chaplain (male). I admire the fact that you want to be a rescue swimmer. You should be able to live your dream. However, your girlfriend also has a right to live her dream, whatever that may be. What you have to figure out is whether your dreams are compatable.<br />
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Whatever you do, don't try to downplay the challenges and difficulties of life in the Navy. That will only come back to bite you later! The Navy, like every other branch of the service is about one thing - war fighting. That is the mission of the military. As a rescue swimmer you may be rescuing shipmates that are in the situations they are in because of war, or the preparations for war (training).<br />
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You may or may not go to Afghanistan for a year. But you can look forward to deployments from 6 to 9 months long. I'm not trying to deter you from following your dream, but don't sell your girlfriend a bill of goods that she may not be able to live with. Be straight with her and let her make up her mind if she can live with what will eventually be reality for her.