BlueMom11 -- I totally get your feeling (and I'm a much older mom). There's a terrific book called Beyond the Mommy Years by Carin Rubenstein. You can get a used copy on Amazon for $0.01 plus shipping! http://www.amazon.com/gp/offer-listing/0446580805/ref=sr_1_1_twi_ha...
It talks about the different stages of moving on after your kids leave. I've read it a couple of times and always find it helpful. The empty-nest stuff really didn't it me until my son graduated from Prototype and moved to his permanent station. It's up and down, but it does eventually get better. Take care.
Thank you so much for the book recommendation ! im not much of a reader but I can tell you I certainly need to read this one. This is so much tougher than I ever imagined it would be.
Hi BlueMom - just noticed this post. That's funny about your hubby! When my son left for BC back in 2012 (and younger son left for college) I took advantage and turned his room into a guest room with a nautical theme. That took up some time - painting & decorating. Had a lot of fun doing it.....
It does take some getting used to the kids being gone. I read more now and of course spend more time on N4M lol! My sailor is out now but he stayed in VA and will be starting college in August - so 4 more years he'll be away (and most likely won't come home after that - he'll be 27 in June). And younger son is graduating college in 16 days but he's not planning on coming home either! Trust me though, the time goes by fast. We're all here for you ;-)
Hi Dawn - well that's nice that your daughter moved back closer to home! Sure makes it a little easier :) Our oldest is in VA (he's out of the Navy now - going to college there on his GI Bill). Our youngest graduated college last April and moved back home in October. It's been nice having him around (he's working FT but saving $$$ so he can move out with his buddy). Pop on to the main page and introduce yourself!
Well, it's been 3 months for you now. How are you dealing with things? My only daughter, who turned 18 her first week of BC, left on June 27th. I feel just like you did. Each day seems a little better, but I still walk into her room and bathroom every day and feel sad. She and I had been fighting like cats and dogs for the last 6 months.... maybe that was her way of emotionally detaching from me.... or that's what I'd like to think anyway. I thought I would celebrate and want to just bust loose and go on a cruise. Instead I just cried for a week. And so did my husband. Although he also has been enjoying running around about naked and not locking our bedroom door.
At this point, I have only gotten The Box. I haven't even gotten the form letter with her mailing address. It has been difficult, but we are starting to look for fun things to do on Groupon and are planning a cruise for after her PIR. But as of yet, I haven't gotten over the hump.
So when did you start accepting the reality that, not only would your son be gone for boot camp, but that he would probably never live at home again and that things would never be the same? Like I said, on one hand, I couldn't wait for her to get the heck out. But now.... I'm just sad.
I just noticed this post from April 3, 2016. I wasn't even a part of the Navy Mom community in 2...