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Hey everybody!

I was wondering if it is even possible at all to get married while your sailor is in A school. We would like to do that if we can, so that I can be on her orders to move to her permanent duty station. Have any of you done that? How difficult was it?

Thanks in advance,

Nicole

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It is possible, but being on the orders depends on the timing of the marriage, and the length of the school.  In general, if the schools is short, then the orders will come quickly and you won't be on them.  Long schools, no problem.

First, she has to submit a special request chit asking permission to marry.  If you are both US citizens and of age, it cannot be denied.  The chit is primarily to screen for fraudulent marriages, to look for security threats, and so they can send her to a class or counseling so she has a grasp on dependent rights and her responsibilities as a sponsor according to the Navy.  It is a good thing, even though not everyone sees it that way.

Next, look up the marriage license requirements for the county the school is in.  She will need to be in phase two of liberty privileges so she can get off base to get the paperwork and the ceremony completed.  Phase three means she could actually spend a weekend night with you.  Next, go get the license, and have a JoP perform the marriage.  She needs to get your information an the marriage certificate to Personnel in a timely manner.  Right now, get clear certified copies of your birth certificate, your state ID or passport, and your SSN.  That's a start. 

After you marry, she can enroll you in DEERS/Tricare the next business day and get you an ID card, IF her school will give her the time off.  That's generally the problem, getting a chit approved to miss class to take care of her dependent.  You can get an ID card without her, but she must do the DEERS enrollment/page two.  She also needs to make sure the school knows to contact the detailer so they issue orders as "accompanied, dependent move authorized" and not as they would for a single sailor.  It is still possible for her to get orders somewhere you cannot go, but being married improves your odds of being with her.  Just not to 100%.

It takes roughly four weeks for the dependent paperwork to make its through the system.  You want to be married about halfway through school.  This is where the length of the school comes into play.  Anyone who is signed up as PACT is out of luck.  Nuke or AECF, SECF, GM, HM, and a few others, no problem.

I can help you with the length of schools and the marriage license links if you cannot figure out the google-fu.

And in case anyone is wondering, no, they cannot go home to marry during school or while on hold.  If they go home on Christmas leave, yeah, you can marry without the chit.  

Thank you! She will be in Chicago for 20 weeks I believe for school, so a decent amount of time. I have looked at the marriage license information there and it is nothing outrageous. I did want to double check thiugh, to make sure that I understand. If she gets leave at Christmas, we don’t have to get special permission to get married? Or she doesn’t need the chit to miss class?

20 weeks is going to be a lot longer with the holds waiting to class up, just so you know.  I was an ET, and it was true back when I went through, true today.  Also, AECF and many other schools require ATT before beginning actual A school, so factor that in too.  Some of the FCs have currently been on hold waiting for orders to C school for months.  Their training pipeline gets even more backed up than the ETs.  Be prepared for a year or more at Glakes.

If she gets Christmas leave, then no need for a chit.  She may want to take advantage of some of the counseling or classes if possible anyway, they really do give some comprehensive advice.  There will be those who will try to discourage her from marrying, just so you both understand the atmosphere surrounding marriage in the military.  You WILL hear "wait until after the first deployment", so be prepared for that type of resistance. 

Use something called the RAPIDS locator to see if there is a military facility near you where she can go enroll you in DEERS.  It does not need to happen at Great Lakes.  If not, she will need to do that when she returns.  If she is on hold, it doesn't take much to get the time to go get it done.  If she is classed up, then permission will be required.  This may be a wait and see situation.

Thank you so much!

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