As most of you are aware ,my daughter had a setback and did not pass her final PFA run. Today she called me to explain what happened that day. Apparently another recruit collapsed during the final run and passed away. She is all emotionally turned upside down by this tragedy. She said I almost told them I want to come home but I have fought for too long to give up. She said she needs lots of encouragement more so now than ever. I just wanted to reach through the phone and hug her. If any mom’s out there can help me navigate this tradegy and help me write the words that will encourage emotionally to help her to keep moving. I’m an emotional mess right now but I know this is the time to be strong for her. Any words of wisdom is truly appreciated.
Her original PIR was 03/01/19 and new PIR 3/29/19.So sorry to hear about your daughter’s hip. I’m glad to hear she is on the mend. I’m hoping my girl doesn’t come out to banged up. Her major issues have been with her feet. From swelling to blisters.
Thank you so much! I will let her know. I’m trying to write her 3 times a week now via Sandboxx. I’m just so concerned with her health. I just keep praying she passes and can move onto to A school. This has been a crazy emotional experience for me. I don’t think I was ready. I wish I would have found this website day 1 when she told me she wanted to join. I’m learning along the way with her and trying to support as much as I know how.
My girl feet were really bad, blisters and callus.... they were hard as rock and when she bent toes they would bleed.... took about a week for them to get better...lot of times the girls go get pedicures after grad... maybe plan that with her...
i wish her the best..it's hard when they are far away...and weird to her my girl says she misses basic as when she got to a school wasn't sure what to do...she said it was easy when someone was telling you what to do every minute of the day... school more time and freedom for sure but now on this hold got some days filled with too much time....
make sure she knows again that she is doing a great job, how proud you are...there must of been an underlying Heath condition
Almost thirty years ago, I was the dorm chief in USAF basic training. It's like the RPOC here. A girl committed suicide in the shower room one night . I was seventeen and had to deal with 41 other females in my division that were freaking out. My situation isn't exactly the same as your daughter's...but I remember that night 29 years ago like it was yesterday. She's not the only girl going through the emotions that she is. I'm surprised if they don't have a couple of counselors there for grief and exactly what your daughter is feeling. Her talking to you, you truly hearing her and listening to her is important. Keep her motivated. Keep reminding her gently as to why she wanted to be in the NAVY.... the girl more than likely had an underlying situation that was unknown. Just keep pushing her to keep going. She "ALMOST TOLD THEM"... but she didn't. She wants to keep going. She is just in need of support. She's exhausted and emotional. Give it to her .my prayers are with you and her and her group . She can DO this!! There are so many mom's here just WILLING our daughters to show 'how it's done'. Tell her from me, 'go kick some butt girl!!!'
The Disney mom thank you for sharing your story with me. She did mention she spoke with the chaplain about it because a lot of the girls decided to move to ship 5 for separation after this incident. I will pass on your words of encouragement. I know these things happen but it’s hard sometimes to find the right words. So glad I am in the right spot to get all the reassurance and advice I need to support her better.
I don’t have any words of wisdom. Only NMH and prayers! Your sailor shows great strength for choosing to stay and recognize how far she has come! ❤️
Any word on how your daughter is doing?
thedisneymom I have not heard from her but I know she got 3 letters delivered of huge encouragement from the family and I added in all the Navy moms here words of encouragement. I know no news is good news. So I am just writing my little heart out. I know she is going to pull through.
Thank you for checking in it means a lot to me
This is the best way that I can think of dealing with the stress and the unknown. I've had her in my thoughts and prayers daily. I remember how shocking that is to the system. HOW overwhelming. I would love to hear how she is doing when you do hear anything.... and yes, no news is good news. I remember growing up in the military (we are like a 10th generation, 11 now with my daughter, military family), the unspoken motto was "hurry up and wait".....
Keep sending her encouragement and great energy.
She can do this!