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Comment by mama bear on January 29, 2012 at 10:24pm

what is omsbudance person, I may have spelled that wrong but someone said I need to have the name of this person before my daughter deploys?  I asked her abd got no answer, she is in the Navy EO .

Comment by ktssong on January 29, 2012 at 2:23pm

Well, it just happened.  My last call before the phone goes off.  I did it without crying.  I did like you said TDM and talked about what I had been doing, watching winter x games and talked about how they tell how before their big competitions they've worked hard for how they  go and do it.  Talked about things he needed me to do for him.  He wants his brothe who is a mechanic to fix an old 76 montel carlo up for him to drive when he gets back..  He is so funny.  He has a nice chevy that he's paying on and he hates paying so much for a car.  He wants to drive a 76".  It's a monster of a car.  I said ok but he wants me to drive this thing down to him when he gets back.  I said ok but one condition that thing has to be dependable for a 12 hour drive.  We will do whatever it takes to make them happy.  Oh well.  The call is done.  I feel better than I thought I would.  I'm fine when I'm with him or hear him.  It just is weird to me how sometimes I cry and sometimes I don't.  Especially that I don't when I think I will.  Maybe it's because of all I did with him working up to this point so we could both process it in segments really did help. 

Comment by ktssong on January 29, 2012 at 1:23pm

TDM I meant alot of encouragement "from" you..haha.

Comment by ktssong on January 29, 2012 at 1:22pm

TDM we do gain alot of encouragment for you and I know that your son appreciates all you did while he was serving and I think he will appreciate where you are coming from when he is driving and thinking about it all.  I'm sure he won't stay upset.  From reading everything here by moms it seems like we can expect different kinds of responses than we are used to when they come back but you are a good mom I can tell and new enlistees are like us new moms, we need to hear the truth; and we want the truth so I'm sure his gf appreciated your truthfulness and your knowledge.  It helps all of us so we don't feel like we are in the dark.  I know when I went with my son to the recruiters office I wanted the cold hard truths, I didn't want them to tell me the easy part of this and they answered all the questions I had at the time and it helped so I'm positive your input with her was appreciated. 

Susan, have you checked with the people who your sons bills are with?  Maybe he set up an automatic payment with them to come out while he was gone since he didn't give you power of attorney.  I know when I just visited my son, while I was there one thing I was worried about was his bills because he just got married and he gave her POA but I since my name is on his car payment I was worried but he put his phone on "military hold" and there is no payment while he is gone and for the car payment he set up the payment to come out automatically out of his account so we didn't have to worry whether it was paid or not.  So maybe you can check into that and see if he did that.

Chief88--Thank you.  I'm not one to rest too much because I've been trying to stay busy so I don't worry to much but I guess I got run down.  I work two jobs one 40 hours during day in an office and then I run home and change and work about three week nights and every weekend as a CNA at a retirement village.  Then I'm in a choir, an help my brother through a rehab program and then do exercise one night a week.  So I guess this is God's way of making me slow down and get my immunity system up.  I am on Valacyclovir and I woke up this morning after being on it 24 hours and it's starting to heal the sores.  Of all times to get it though because my plan to get through this time where he leaves and the worries was to be around alot of people.  All my spots are on my face and scalp.  And yes it hurts burns like I'm on fire and throbs like a migraine.  I do have pain med for that.  Thank you.  I just finished a box and am going to send it and keep sending because it has to help someone.

God Bless All.  I know I'm relatively new to being on here everyday but it's "go time" and I need to be on here to stay strong and get through this.  I hope after this deployment experience I can help others.  I can't help but think about moms that are at home that haven't been told about NavyforMoms and wonder if they know about this site.  It's the best thing that happened for me because I feel like when our kids go serve they need a strong support system and so we have to as parents serve by their sides so they can operate in confidence too. 
Do any of you moms do anything outside of this site to try to get other moms to know about NavyforMoms.?

Comment by Much Trouble on January 29, 2012 at 8:40am

TDM...For heaven's sake, as much as you have helped all of us, you are not some all-knowing guru sitting on a mountain top.  You have or have had the same feelings as the rest of us, and by sharing those concerns, you ARE helping someone.  One thing I have learned is that there are two types of deployment...the normal stuff and the War Zone.  While I missed the communication with my son and daughters, I didn't mind the whole boot camp and normal deployment experiences.  However, the War Zone deployments, especially Afghanistan, created a panic feeling I had never known before.  If these young men now joining do find themselves over there, the women in your life know they can speak the unspeakable, and you will understand.   Your "bluntness" will actually help them through their ordeal.  Your son's protectiveness does him credit...but it won't work.  Keep doing what you are doing...you KNOW your "job" as well as he knew his.

Comment by TexasDocMom on January 29, 2012 at 12:30am

My son's girlfriend's brother is enlisting in the Army. Leaves in a couple of months for boot camp. We had been talking in generalities about different people enlisting (my granddaughter's boyfriend is Army ROTC and going to boot camp this week...Army Infantry...geez) and I made some comment that I could probably make here or with other military moms, but when his GF went to the bathroom my son was upset that I was so "blunt" with her. I didn't direct the comment at her...and I love her dearly. I was pretty upset when they left, I would never intentionally hurt her...but thinking about it...she's a strong young woman, and she's going to have to do what we all have done...step up and past the first fear to look at the bigger ones. And my son has to realize he cannot protect her from this fear, or her mother. He just can't. And I hate that he's going to see up close what we all go through when a loved one deploys, because in the long run he's going to recognise this is how it was for me, for his grandmother and his dad and all of us who love him when he deployed...and I don't want him to feel even more guilt. Because they do...when they come home safe and sound, and like him, move on with their lives, they remember every day that there are others in the warzone.  And they carry that guilt that they are not there to help their brothers or have their backs. I saw it when the 2/2 went after he was transferred out...Does this even make any sense?  God, dear God, I hate war. And I hate dumping on you guys, you have real worry...but I know you'll listen, because I know I'm not alone. Thank you.  

Comment by TexasDocMom on January 28, 2012 at 6:59pm

There is nothing wrong with wanting to hear your child's voice. And I'm sure he wants to hear yours as well. Sometimes they act gruff, but when those long hours are hitting them later, they remember their "silly" mom and they'll  smile because she was needing to hear his voice. And calling to chat is a great idea....put the newspaper in front of you, open it to the sports page and talk about high school basketball or whatever he was interested in....keep the "mushy" stuff to the end, but don't neglect it...they want to know how much you love them and be sure to let him know how much you trust him to come home to you, that you are so proud he's worked hard to train and do the job...and just do it and come home.

And I can guarantee you are not crying alone, my heart breaks for you. Let us know how the call goes...

Comment by ktssong on January 28, 2012 at 6:42pm

Thank you TexasDocMom.  I went to the website and sent them an email.  Hopefully I hear back from them.  I am finding myself laying all day too.  I guess if I won't relax and take it easy my body has found a way to make sure I do.  I've been on the medicaton 24 hours and haven't noticed to big a difference yet but hopefully by tomorrow I will.

I just want to ask something here.  When you know you are on the last couple days to talking to your kids before they go, is it too smothering to call once a day to say hello and say a few words?  I spend hours thinking about what I want to say before I call and then I just think I should just call and chat and not feel so much pressure to say just the right things.  I've said all I can say but these days seem like I want to make sure I say what he needs to hear.  I hope I do.

Comment by DJones on January 28, 2012 at 6:34pm

Cannot insure the pkgs.  I never list really what is inside.  It usually always says some type of food item or baby wipes or cards, etc.  Just very frustrating as they look so forward to mail.  

Comment by TexasDocMom on January 28, 2012 at 5:38pm

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