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Comment by DJones on January 11, 2012 at 8:51am

So what do I say to my son who is going through a depression phase at his FOB?  He tells me yesterday how homesick he is, how much he misses his gf and that he can't put a finger on it, but has a very bad feeling and he doesn't like that feeling.  It scares him.  He also said he's sick of the IED's going off daily there.  Does our freaking politicians realize what our troops are going through every day?  I think they all should have to spend a year deployed in the outposts and then maybe they will have some sort of idea.  They can go to bed at night knowing their loved ones are safe.  Most Americans have NO clue we lost at least 8 troops last week.  

Comment by Paymaster on January 10, 2012 at 10:50pm

kissong....Yes the ombudsman and FRO are two different position and are usually staffed by different individuals. 

As to the doctor it would depend on how long she plans to be in OH?

Comment by ktssong on January 10, 2012 at 9:09pm

My son is newly married in November and she left to be there with him for this last month too and they both called me today because he was filling out papers for her.  She will be coming back to OH after he leaves to be down the street from me.  We have a great relationship.  They asked me if it is better for him to fill out for her to use military doctors like on our bases up here or is it better for him to have her do her regular doctor?  Just standard paperwork I assume. 

Anyone have any advice on that topic?

Comment by ktssong on January 10, 2012 at 9:06pm

Thank you moms.  I got an email back today that I'm on the list and I appreciate it.  I do go on their FB page for his Battalion but I'll look for a website too if that is different.  My son is a Seabee in GP, MS.

Is the FRO and Ombudsman the same thing?  The questions I'm asking are probably making some of you laugh at me because they are probably obvious and I work with numbers and math all day you'd think I could figure some of the things I'm asking out but it's like I don't want to assume anything when it comes to all I'm learning.  I'm sure you will bring me along.  Next year this time I'll know a whole lot more.  Thank you for the patience all of you.

Comment by Much Trouble on January 10, 2012 at 11:33am

Chief, I agree with TDM...please come here often.  You thought you would never get through that deployment, but you DID!  Between your strength you didn't know you had, and the beef jerky, you came through with flying colors.  LOL  You will be an inspiration to our new moms.

Comment by TexasDocMom on January 10, 2012 at 10:34am

Oh..and Chief!! so glad to see your fingertips here with news about your son's leave!! glad it was good!

You got through that first deployment because you are a strong, hard headed woman, who loves her kid....and you are a real treasure to this board, so come back often!

Comment by TexasDocMom on January 10, 2012 at 10:32am

Susan, tell your son to set up his bank account where he can access it online and simply send you the passwords and account numbers. My son refused to do a power of attorney, he said "you're my next of kin, you'll have access if anything happens to me with my passwords." So, everything was set up for Bill Pay online, and I could check every month to make sure the bills came through, etc. Then when they are at home, they can change their passwords for privacy and give you the new ones if they deploy again. He has to send you all the information  including the answers to the security questions. We did a simple thing, using a dogs name as an answer to all the questions with "1", "2", or "3" after it. Question 1's answer was Spot1, etc. That way he could mess with it if he was online in Iraq or I could do it from here.

Ktssong, find that unit's web site and the FRO will be listed. If you have a problem finding it, message me or Susan with the info and we'll help you search it down.

My heart to all of you facing these new deployments in this new year and to those of you so patiently (yeah, right...) waiting for your kids to come home from current deployment. You are not alone, one thing I've learned is that we all function better as a solid team, no one should melt down alone.

The response on facebook to my announcement about my son's leaving the Navy was really something...Navy moms, Army moms, Marine moms, and all my old hippie and liberal friends just celebrating....and watching my son's page, his friends, those Marines and sailors with whom he has served, all of them just congratulating him, thanking him for his service with them, and the love coming at him....I just want you to know how much your kids are respected and loved by those with whom they serve, and I know that in deployment situations, they truly have each other's backs, and they will do what it takes to do the job and come home safely to their families. I always knew that on some level, but watching these 20something young people reaching out, laying their feelings on the line, makes me realize the closeness that comes with serving togehter in a war zone, and they are a vocal, articulate generation. They are not shy or ashamed to care about one another after their experiences together.  I think that communication like we have on social media like this and facebook, etc, will help a lot with PTSD issues, so many will get help that might slip through the cracks, so many will reach out to those with whom they served (and to our Docs !) if they need help or they see someone who is floundering. Every little thing helps. They are not alone either....

 

Comment by ktssong on January 10, 2012 at 2:37am

So...back to deploying.  I need to know how do I get a Family Readiness Officer to put me on a list to get newletters and emails while they are deployed? 

Comment by ktssong on January 10, 2012 at 1:53am

TexasDoc...Wow..Congrats to you and your son and I dream of a day like you are having.  I'm so happy for you and your son and your family.  I'm in the nursing field and every decision we make is "Safety First" and just know our families are safe is just everything.  As for me, as I said, my son is about to deploy out soon.  I'm going to be going to give him big bear hugs next week before it happens.  I have been dreading this day.  I have brought him up right and believe God will be with him and as my son goes and your son comes I almost feel like a place is being filled and carried on.  All will be ok.  I'm very proud of my son too.  Today he got called and told he will be given E4 tomorrow and he called to tell me and the joy in his heart and mouth as he told me just was a great morale booster for him and we are so excited.  I love see him press forward and achieve. 

Anyway....you have encouraged me greatly.  Thank your son for us for his service and again congratulations. 

 

Comment by TexasDocMom on January 9, 2012 at 3:30pm

DJ, good on your husband....he's getting it....and he is as worried as you are, and is learning that it has nothing to do with "letting" emotions take over. You have a kid in a war zone and you worry. Please tell him we have dads on this board as well, so to join us any time he feels like it. I think some of these ladies can give him links to boards with more fathers on them as well.

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