Hello everyone, bare with me as I am new to all this and don't know much of the abbreviations etc. I am sitting here heartbroken and confused for a few reasons. On July 15th 2015 my son swore in and left for GL. He was a DEP so he had been looking forward to this and working hard to prepare for 3 months. Because he is 20 years old he also had to work to be recruited and taken to MEPS in the first place.
On Wednesday July, 22 I got a phone call from my son saying that it's over. He was coming home with in a week to 4 weeks. He was medically separated after having 3 panic attacks which he describes as episodes of going into and out of consciousness. Upon the last one he somehow sprained his knee and was taken to the hospital. He can not tell me HOW he injured his knee. He is in SEPS which he describes as a psych ward and was allowed to call me on 3 occasions so far.
The first time we spoke he sounded so deflated. The second time we spoke he was sad but when I asked him more about what happened and if he wanted to appeal he said the chaplain told him that it would take 4-6 months and that he would likely lose. He told me that he was second in charge of his division (944 if that means anything) and that he was going to play a special part in graduation. At that moment he sounded happy and proud but just for that moment. He then said he didn't want to fight, he just wanted to come home. Today I called his recruiter to see if there was any information that he could offer as I don't know how long this process will take, if I can write to him, help him etc but as soon as I told him my DS was coming home he shut down and said they will keep him until he's medically cleared and THEN send him home. He said the Navy will take care of him. Not much help from a guy who was super nice and supportive through the DEP process.
For those of you who have been through this; how long will it be before he comes home? Will I be able to get his medical records (with a signed HIPPA of course) so that I can have him evaluated here? Can I write to him? Should I send him anything? Can I? What should I be asking Legal?
So many questions I know but I am at a loss. I went from being excited for this new chapter in his life, to being sad that he was gone, to being sad and disappointed that this didn't work out for him and that as hard as he worked to get this far to just give up.
Thanks in advance for any advice or encouragement you may have to offer.
Similar thing happened with my daughter. Her husband just got the call that she is coming home for also doing what her recruiter told her because for a short time was treated for depression but was taking off her meds. It came up in the security clearance and she came clean. Now all her dreams are crushed. I don't even know how to write her. She has only been gone a week.