Hey Ladies! For anyone that may know anything about the catholic church and getting married in one but not being catholic, I would love to talk to you. I need someone's expertise! My fiance is catholic but I am not and we are planning to get married in his church this August. He can't come home from San Diego before the wedding so I plan to fly out there because I am sure there is some sort of "pre-cana" or marriage class that we have to attend before we get married. Does anyone know if there is a shortened version of this since he is in the military and since he won't be able to come home? (Because I know pre-cana is usually a 6 week thing, i think). I know he will have to talk to his chaplain but I thought maybe I could get a little information from someone on this website that may know what I'm about to go through. Sorry, I don't know much about the Catholic church and marriage but I'm trying!! Thank you!
jmasseca....Our DIL was not catholic when she married our son. She found it easier for her to go through classes here in our home town before the wedding date.
Many times classes are only scheduled a few time a year for each parish.
So I would recommend you check out your local parish and see when they are scheduling classes.
Because we live in the same town I volunteered to go with my DIL when she went to classes.
Best of luck to you.
Many churches now only require a day long 'retreat' as your pre-cana classes. My husband is in Norfolk and I am in Ohio so in order to do our Pre-cana requirements we went to a day long event put on by the Eastern Catholic Charities there. It was not a military class- there was only one other military couple there out of twenty! Our church in Ohio also had a one day pre cana class and our church in Virginia does the same. If your fiance asks the Catholic Chaplains on base, they run into this problem a lot and can usually help you out- they will know who in the area offers pre cana retreats or classes. We also had to meet with our priest in Ohio before we were married once but he was willing to do it right before the wedding if need be (we didn't, my husband was allowed to come home for a weekend the month before in order to meet with the priest and do other wedding stuff). Definitely talk to the priest who will be marrying you and be sure they will accept pre cana classes from another parish- most of the time they will because of the military but not always so you will need to check. Good Luck! :)
good question, I'm catholic and my fiance isn't. I was wondering the same. We are getting married before though by the Justice of the peace, so a tad different.