Married MIL to MIL and stressing over orders. any advice?

by dualnavyfiance

Jun 24, 2012

So i'm currently in Pensacola, Florida for my A school for Air traffic control. My husband is in the navy as well he's a corpsman and is finishing FMTB training in North Carolina, but already has final orders to go to Portsmouth Virginia. I am set to pick orders soon and I'm super nervous. I don't know how it works for people married military to military, if they help you out or not. Ideally, I would like to get Oceana, Virginia, AKA virginia beach. As far as I know the other place in VA i can go is Norfolk. I've heard it's pretty easy to get VA for aviation, but you never know, anything can happen. I just don't want to be sent really far away from him, between both our bootcamps and A schools, we have been seperated for almost 5 months, and it's VERY difficult! Any advice on maintaining a MIL to MIL marriage would also be appreciated!

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    Anti M

    The first two years were we married, both ET1, we saw each other a total of 28 days in two years.  And we were in the same geographical location, which wasn't close at all.  He was on a ship and was not allowed to come up to visit without taking leave and it was during Desert Shield, not a lot of leave was granted.

    The Navy does try to get you in the same area, but they must know you are married. Have you submitted a spouse co-location request?  You might have to go to your first command for a year to be eligible, they change the program just often enough I'll have to do a ton of research to find how it is assigned currently.  What concerns me is you're coming out of A school, typically, new sailors don't qualify for co-location right away.

    But you must BOTH formally request co-location, it is not an automatic process.  Sometimes you can get a detailer to work with you by calling and talking it over, but not so much coming out of training.

    http://www.public.navy.mil/BUPERS-NPC/OFFICER/DETAILING/SURFACEWARF...

    i. Collocation after Training. Members requesting training
    must be advised that they may not be eligible for spouse
    collocation consideration in conjunction with this training
    assignment. Members completing training will be assigned to an
    appropriate tour for these newly acquired skills, which may
    preclude or limit spouse collocation consideration for the
    duration of this post-training assignment.

    Jun 25, 2012

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      Sorry to say as someone who is in "A" School...they do not have to give you orders to be near your spouse...as Anti M posted it is written in the instruction that they do not have to do that.

       

      You BOTH need to talk to the CCC (they wear the badge in my picture) and put in a request for spouse co-lo...BUT if you don't put in the paper work it will always be a NO..and even if ou do put in the request chit (someone on here may tell you to do a 1306/7, but you do NOT do that, ask your CCC what they require, normally it is a chit) it can still be denied. 

       

      Recommend you both prepare to be seperated for another few years...the needs of the Navy come first and formost.

       

      Regards,

      Chief

      Jun 25, 2012

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        My daughter is also married to another in the Navy. Almost 2 years now. She has just gotten orders to go overseas for aircrew. Her husband will go also because she has said that the Navy (not all branches of military) doesn't like to separate married couples. I don't know that always holds true. hope so for you! Like they said below, talk to your detailer. They may try to at least get you close.
        They're both linguists, but different languages. Hopefully they will find something for him to do for 18 months. although they will be on the same continent, they will still be hours away from each other. She'll be on base, he will be in an apartment. Good luck. We all know it's not easy. Make it work!
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        Jul 25, 2012