Moms of Officers

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  • kgrmom

    Dbs55-

    Hi-  I noticed the exact same thing.  Nothing at all against enlisted but my DD always tells me to be mindful of what I say .  Since it seems to be almost exclusively enlisted I dont say anything :(  I lurk.    My daughter was NROTC- graduated in 2012.  Spent 2 years on the USS Chosin before heading to power school.  She is surface Nuke, class 1404-1.  Did 3 weeks of preschool since she had been out in the fleet for 2 years (all the surface nukes automatically do preschool).  Her graduation date is in September.

    We've been down to visit her once.  The stress level is off the charts for most kids.  They study 6/7 days a week (or most do).  We talk on the phone a lot- it's kind of nice having a girl for that reason.  On the other hand- there are a grand total of 4 girls in the officer class of 68!

  • Carol Aileen

    Hi DBS55 - my son was enlisted and went through the nuke pipeline. He was selected for the Sta-21 enlisted to officer program and was just commissioned last week! He heads back to power school but it will be different on the officer side of power school.
  • M's mom

    dbs55:  I know what you mean about the groups here.  My son is an intelligence officer, and the intelligence group on N4M's is almost all enlisted.  Their experience is totally different of course, so most of their posts I cannot relate to. As Lisbeth wrote, I also don't understand all their acronyms!   Not to take you away from N4M's at all, but you might want to search Facebook for "Navy Nuclear Power School Friends and Families," or some such.  When my son graduated from OCS, a large portion of his class was headed to Charleston for nuke school, and the families were going to start a Facebook support group.  But as you've seen below, there are nuke officer Moms HERE who can help as well.

  • dbs55

    Thanks Lisbeth, kgrmom, Carol Aileen, and M's mom. It's nice to know other mom's are or have gone through this. My son Ryan is in class 1405 Grad date of Nov. kgrmom - Ryan's roommate is in your daughters class he is a Sub Nuke. Ryan is also Sub. Currently my questions relate to the subjects and the tests that they go through. What is the policy for tests and failures? I have read that some fail tests and still get through the program. Ryan is sort of struggling with one test failure so far, the other subjects are OK, he does extra hours even though he has not been given extra hours yet. He has a Math test tomorrow, which he did very well on in Preschool. This is going to be a roller coaster ride.

  • marzidoatz

    My daughter is currently a dentist at Parris Island.  She is getting married in July and then moving to Norfolk to be assigned to USS San Antonio as dentist for two years.  Her future husband will be starting medical school in Chicago in the fall on the Health Professionals Scholarship for the Navy.  My daughter found an apartment for her but her husband-to-be is still looking.  

  • TapperMom

    To marzidoatz,
    It's really a small world! I think that my son and your daughter work together at Parris Island. She is the new recent owner of a beautiful greyhound Dora...my son had mentioned that his dog Dora will be able to stay in the states because he found a nice friend who will take good care of her. He mentioned that she is getting married in July and her husband will then attend medical school in Chicago while is on a ship. Sounds like your daughter! I'll write more soon, but I am so happy to hear from you! :0)
  • kgrmom

    Hi Dbs55-

    I sent you a friend request so we can chat privately.  My DD is about 1/2 through and you are right- it is a roller coaster.  I feel sometimes like I am taking every class with her.  Her moods become mine- ugh.  They have a test every week (just FYI).  Most of them study so much that the only difference between the kids that have mandated hours and those that don't is the fact that they don't have the option in case something else comes up.  In all seriousness-  all their hours are tracked, every week and compared to the class average.  The instructors are always looking for study time vs. their grades.  She has a couple of people in her class that are just geniuses that need almost zero study time and can still get almost perfect scores (makes them all crazy- lol). 

    One test failure is not going to be a problem overall as long as he puts in study time and starts bringing up his GPA.  It's just as important how he does compared to the class average and where his class rank is.  Of the 65ish that are in my daughters class there are only 10 Surface Nukes, the rest are all Sub guys.

    Just remember they will do everything they can to help him.  That part is really true :)

  • marzidoatz

    Yes - TapperMom - Dora is my daughter's adopted dog - her fiance is trying to find a place for Dora and him to live in Chicago - small world indeed - they all currently live at the same apartment complex

  • TapperMom

    To marzidoatz - My brother-in-law lives in Chicago. I'll have to tell him of your son and Dora coming soon. Have you met Dora yet? She was "my granddog"...I miss her. When we are in South Carolina, I'll take pictures and send them to you.
  • dbs55

    kgrmom
    I accepted your friend request thanks
    My husband and I are on vacation and Internet is spotty so when we get home on Thursday hopefully we can connect then
  • TapperMom

    marzidoatz...I meant your son-in-law to be...sorry.
  • TapperMom

    marzidoatz - You must be so excited about your daughter's upcoming marriage...Congratulations! All the best to her and her new husband...so many exciting times ahead for the both of them. I'm sure you are so very proud of her and all her accomplishments. We are also so proud of our son...we miss him all the time. Thank God for FaceTime. South Carolina seems so far away, but now he is getting ready to move to Japan. I'm excited and nervous at the same time...guess we'll always worry about our kids no matter what age. 

  • Gatormom

    Just found this group, which is yet another great resource. My son graduates from OCS Aug 29, so I have many questions that I think will be answered here. He's in the NUPOC program and will head to Charleston at some point. Sure sounds like the academics are tough! So many brilliant minds in this program, yet apparently it is very challenging. I had the same feeling about the Nuke group; helpful, but different experience for enlisted vs officer.
  • M's mom

    Welcome to MoO Gatormom!  Yes, many of the groups on N4M's have more Moms of enlisted sailors.  My son is an intelligence officer, and the intel group here is almost all Moms of enlisted intelligence specialists, so can't help with officer-related questions.  I don't know if there is a specific group here for Nuke OFFICER Moms.  Can you other Moms answer that?

  • M's mom

    Lisbeth:  According to the "NavySpeak" search box below, NUPOC stands for "Nuclear Propulsion Officer Candidate."   I know, the Navy uses so many acronyms, and I was baffled when my son first joined.  When my son speaks in Navy acronyms to me, and I'm always having to ask him to define them.   I can hear him rolling his eyes over the phone!   Haha.

  • BunkerQB

    There is no specific group for Nuke Officer moms. Almost all the members of both the Sub Moms and Nuke Moms are family members of enlisted personnel. I think this group is as good as any.  My son was a nuke officer on a fast attack sub.

  • M's mom

    Gatormom:  When my son graduated from OCS two yrs ago, many in his class were going to Charleston for NUPOC.  The families in our OCS Facebook group said they were going to start a group for NUPOC, so might want to search FB to see if you can find a "NUPOC Family & Friends" group.  ---But stick with us "Moms of Officers" also!  We even have a Captain's Mom here, so someone usually knows the answer to your questions!

  • Gatormom

    Yes, I agree, like this group. You all have been really helpful. Saw some NUPOC groups on FB, but don't seem to be related to the Navy. Trying to learn all the Navy speak, too : )
  • M's mom

    Hope none of your loved ones are stationed on Okinawa.  They're getting typhooned right now!  Prayers for the safety of our service members stationed there.

  • BunkerQB

    Remember the 2011 Earthquake & Tsunami?  My son was stationed in Hawaii but out on deployment with his fast attack sub. My brother's entire family was in HI for the wedding of one of his sons. They were evacuated and moved to facilities on higher ground. My nephew (the groom), concerned about his cousin's safety called me (back in CA). Since I hadn't been watching the news, I blithely replied, "Don't worry. He is not even in Hawaii, he is in Japan." My befuddled nephew practically shouted,  "AUNTIE!!! You better turn on the TV."  Much to our relief, our son called a few days later and said, "It was no big deal. We just went lower and moseyed over to the other side of the Japan." 

  • Anna

    BunkerQB,

    Don't you just love how they say after the fact - no need to worry!!!  They just don't get this Navy Mom thing - - we worry!!

    I realize there aren't many groups for just officers but I have a son who has been enlisted for over 10 years, a daughter who enlisted, did her 4 and got out and is now a veteran going to school on the GI bill, and another daughter who is an officer.  I talk about all my sailors on these groups.  I do find that most of the moms on here have officer sons - not too many daughters mentioned.

  • TwoForTheNavy

    Hi Anna I have a daughter that is a LTJG she is on the Stout and will be reporting to the McFaul in the Fall and I have a son that is enlisted and on a shore duty...
  • Anna

    TwoForTheNavy,

    My daughter will make JG this fall.  Son is a first class just back from Afghanistan.  He's putting in his officer package for LDO.  Other daughter spent all her time in Washington state!!!

  • TwoForTheNavy

    Alaskan Mom there is a group Mom's of Navy Daughters, I'm not sure it's very active. I agree there would be situations to discuss that are unique to female officers. I know my daughter would like to get married and pregnant but the deployments maker it difficult.
  • Anna

    TwoForTheNavy,

    LOL that's funny that you mention the group for Mom's of Daughters.  I created the group Moms of Daughters 2 when the originator of Navy Daughters stated she wanted to quit her group.  My group is very active but it is 99% enlisted daughters.  There are a few moms on there that have officers but they are not real active.  I have several enlisted moms that are very active on the group.  I do mention both my daughters on there but it's not a place where I can ask the other moms about things that are particular to officer situations. 

    And honestly, I don't know the answer to your question either.  Not sure where to even go for an answer.  Both my husband and I are Navy veterans but the Navy has changed quite a bit since we were in!!!!!!

    Alaskan Mom,

    As I mentioned above to TwoFTN, I'm not sure there are enough moms on here to have an active group of officer daughters.  I know of two moms that were on my daughters 2 group with officer daughters.  I just don't run across that many!!!!!

  • Lynn

    I'd be interested in a group for moms of officer daughters. My daughter is a LT married to another LT - they met at ODS four years ago.
  • marzidoatz

    I have a daughter officer - and might be interested in a daughter officer list.  She is getting married next week, and then they will go their separate ways - she will be dentist on ship and he will start medical school in Chicago under the Health Professionals Scholarship.  But to be truthful, I feel very much like a fish out of water in these groups and as a Navy mom, as I know next to nothing about Navy experience and I also worry that I won't follow list protocol.   

  • June4th

    I have a daughter who will be an officer in December, so I would be interested.   That's my biggest concern for her when she is in....will she be able to maintain a relationship with all the separation they will have to go through!

  • TwoForTheNavy

    Well, if a group is created count me in:)
  • Paymaster

    Welcome MizzouMom and Viper Girl!  Look forward to hearing more from you!

  • Anna

    It is wonderful to hear from other officer daughter moms.  I think having a group for us would be a good idea!!!  Any one of you lovely ladies want to create one?  And what should we call it?

  • LindaB

    Hi, My son, a Lt. JG deployed on a ship out of Norfolk, has decided to rent his house in the Norfolk area. It's actually just over the line in Currituck County, N.C., but an easy commute to Norfolk Naval Station. He's going to be teaching at the Naval Academy after his deployment, so he wants to rent the house for a while. It's waterfront - on a canal that leads into Currituck Sound - with two boat slips. Ideal for a married couple or for two or three junior officers who want to share a house. Contact me privately if you know anyone who is interested.
  • azcruiz'inmom

    Hi Ladies,   So proud of my ENS daughter!  She starts her first day tomorrow on the USS San Antonio docked in Norfolk.  She is super excited!.  She graduation NROTC from ASU in Arizona back in December...been a long haul getting her to VA. Just wanted to share.  Thank you!

  • marzidoatz

    Congratulations!

  • marzidoatz

    Our daughters will be on the same ship.  Mine will start in August sometime. 

  • LindaB

    Congratulations, Azcruiz'inmom. My son is on a destroyer now, but his first ship was the Mesa Verde, a sister to the San Antonio. We participated in the Tiger Cruise when they came back from deployment, and it was really interesting to see the ship and how things work. I hope she enjoys the Norfolk area. It has a lot to offer.
  • TwoForTheNavy

    Congratulations Azcruiz'inmom welcome to the Navy mom family.
  • Paymaster

    My son, was on the Green Bay sister ship to the: Mesa Verde, San Antonio, NewYork and San Diego.  Yes, they are great ships!  He very much enjoyed his Air Command on the Green Bay.

  • J/J Mom

    Congrats azcruiz'inmom!  

  • Paymaster

    Welcome DDGMom59

  • Gatormom

    My LO has officially hit the 1/2 way mark at OCS. Hell week this week to get through. Hoping for the best. We have so much to learn. He's put in for 30 days leave as soon as he graduates so fingers crossed. Sounds like it will be his last break in quite some time once school in Charleston begins.
  • ChrisyDVM(Chris'sMom)

    Welcome!

  • M's mom

    Gatormom, If he's made it halfway, and passed RLP, he will hopefully be OK now, even though still many stressful challenges to get through.  My son was assigned overnight watch duty one night at the front desk, so he had to stay awake all night, got back to his room at 0430, then had to get ready for PT at 0500, then stay awake in classes all day!  He was awake about 38 hours straight before he could sleep again, but he will probably face that same situation aboard a ship, so at least he knows he can do it!!!     Things will get better for your son once they get to be Candios (candidate officers) after week nine.  Even though busy, his class will then be "running things," so some stress is over.  Then you can send him a Candio box full of all sorts of goodies that he hasn't been allowed to have so far.  Most of the Candios make themselves sick by eating all that sugar and junk food that they had been "detoxed" from for nine weeks! 

  • Anna

    Gatormom,

    M's mom is right - start working on those candio boxes now and it will make these next few weeks go quickly.  You can decorate the inside of the box and really customize it to your son.  Just make sure you don't send them early.  I remember we wrote HOLD on our boxes so they would be there the day they turn candios but won't get mistakenly delivered before they are allowed to have them. 

    M's mom,

    Sometimes our kids can amaze themselves at what they are able to survive when they have to!!!!

  • Twostateshome

    My son is only in Day 3 of OCS but I'm just curious, what is a candio box and how do you know about it?  Are they limited to just one box?  Meaning does the mom or the girlfriend do the box?

  • KathyA

    Hi twostateshome,

    You will get a letter about ten days or so before your LO's Candio phase (approx 3 weeks before graduation) begins detailing the guidelines. Most importantly, as anna said, if you send it early make very sure it does not arrive before it should, so note CANDIO BOX-HOLD!

    They can get as many boxes as they have people who love them : )  Mom, girlfriend, grandmas: go for it! If you want to get started, you can begin decorating your box and making shopping lists. It's a wonderful tradition and there's friendly competition for who gets the most boxes.

    Have fun!

     

  • Twostateshome

    Ah ok.  Good to know.  Thank you!  I'm still at the point of hoping we make it that far!  But it's nice to know how many good things we have to look forward to.

  • KathyA

    Plenty of comfort here from those who've walked in your shoes. N4M has helped me keep my sanity more times than I can count.  Glad you found us.

  • Twostateshome

    Thank you

    it has helped a lot already!

  • Kyle'sMom

    Hello,  I am new to Navy for Moms. My son is starting OCS on 9/21/14.  Any advice on how to prepare myself and/or help him would be greatly appreciated.  Very excited for him!