Ship 5 Moms(Formerly Ship 17)

Wow alot of information on this site as I am a newbee here. My journey is just beginning and my daughter is still with her division so she isn't at ship 5 yet but they told her she will be medically discharged so she has to wait. I guess my next phone call will be when she arrives on ship 5 so the waiting game begins. I do believe things happen for a reason but it is difficult seeing our children go thru hell. Maybe she will come home in a month? just about the time of her PIR date. I never did sell her car or cancel her health insurance or cancel her phone maybe deep down inside I kind of knew she would be back. So I do have that very pretty Navy Blue flag for sale any takers??? lol lol and thanks for the support one thing I know for sure after my daughter comes home I will continue to help others just like you all have helped me. It is such a relief to know I'm not alone and I have others to cry on. I kind of feel like I'm in a bad movie Yikes! so there are great things out there for our children they just don't know it yet. They will be great because they have us for parents....................

thank you and  bless you and your family all will be great I have faith in our children. I just wish my child was ok but from her last letter she said her heart is at home makes me think she is homesick. She wrote to her sister and said most of the kids are so rude and disrespectfull, makes me sad she is a free spirit and I hope this experience doesn't change that but time will tell. Well after the week I've had a think a glass of wine maybe two will be in order .. pss I got an offer for that nice Navy flag...$0.25 any takers for $0.30 come on people LOL...sorry it's the wine lol  

Thank you all for your company and inspiration. I hope once I find out she is transferred to ship 5 it will go fast for her. Being in limbo and not knowing how she is doing is really hard as you all know. We always worry about our children no matter how old they are. I bet you sons are awesome and good things will come to them. seeing I won't be MC mama to much longer I will just be Kelsey's Mom and thats ok with me.

I hope a letter comes on Thursday so I can know what is going on. This waiting game is killing meeeeeeeee sorry just needed to say that!!!!

MC Mama-I found the weekends to be the worst for me as well! During the week I was able to keep busy enough to distract myself a lot of the time.

My son did not have any problems with guys on S5 either. He was very surprised at the immaturity of some of the guys. I have to say that his S5 experience soured him on the Navy a little. It was very boring, the same thing everyday and waiting to leave.

We are very happy he is home and ready to start working on plan B.

yea like i said just the waiting is tough i hope her letter on thursday gives us insight on what the next step is I'm tired of the roller coaster, time to jump off, unfortunitely she is just getting on so the ride continues uggghhh thanks for the response i will keep everyone updated .............................

to BatMom I just viewed your page I am also a Nurse how funny is that ??? us Nurses have to have each others back like I said once my daughter comes home I will also continue on this site to help other Mom's get thru a stressfull time just liked you helped me KARMA my dear can be positive :)

to JeanneT thanks for the support My husband her Dad is really not happy with her he thinks she gave up I think until we are in her shoes we cannot judge.  I told her in my last letter "keep your head up and be proud of who you are". The thoughts of her weigh heavy on my heart esp today I don't know why ummmm?

to sixftblnd: I dont think she is at ship 5 yet, she is still with her division, until they get the diagnosis i think she has to stay on ship 14 it must be hard knowing she will not PIR on the scheduled date of 2/8/13 i guess she will be long after the group graduates .....sigh....wow this could take a very very long time. I might need medication.... can i swear on this site??? lol

She told me last wednesday that she will have to take a breathing test. I don't know when they will do it? I don't think she has been seperated yet and  i haven't heard any news.  Im hoping Thursday's letter sheds some light on what is happening?? I have cancelled the plans for the PIR so I'm just waiting and waiting and waiting. .  

Well I have learned a few things along this journey; This situation can be so stressful it can make you crazy if you let it so.... I have decided to dedicate 1 hour each day to my daughter I will write her a letter say a prayer and check the status on this site (thank for all your input and support by the way) and then carry on with my day I can't worry all day long I can't change or do anything about it so I will be positive and accept what comes along I will take care of myself and put my best foot forward. As I learn any new outcomes I will let you all know as you have been the best support system. love Kelsy's Mom

wow! ladies you are my inspiration to keep going If I didn't live so far away we could have lunch and have some good laughs and cries. I really do appreciate all your responses thanks for helping me. ps I spelled her name wrong wow it is Kelsey lol

Hi I'm just wondering how long does it take for a SR to find out if he's being SEP after going to REU? Do they evaluated and then re-evaluated? When can he expect to know if he's going to SEP or not?

Wow I just prayed very hard last night for any sign of him and today he calls at 10 am telling me he's been seperated since last night but couldn't call me cause it was too late. BIG sigh of relieve, I'm just wondering what happens now...and when he gets to go to Legal. I just really want him home before his PIR cause it would be so depressing.

That and also what am I allowed and not allowed to put in his Care Package while at Ship 05? I know he can get books, no playing cards, but what else?

Do you know if there's a restriction on the dimensions of the box?

glorann do you remember what the name of the board game is?

I wonder if Munchkins would be ok...sorry about the spam =\ I'm hoping to be able to send that with a couple of books,magazines, and chapstick and it won't be taken away.

I wish I could help MissElly but I have no idea I am the one with the daughter that is ...??? who knows where she is... so I'm in limbo, so good for you that at least you know there is some kind of end in sight hopefully it will be a speedy and smooth transition back home. You will get alot of great information and support on this site. These women have all gone through what you are going through now, so you are not alone. Hang in there.

ps; just a guess but i dont think they will allow any food items being sent??

Being in limbo really is the hardest thing, not knowing what's going on and the helpless inability to find out. I have been where you are too, maybe not as long as you have but I've had a taste of it and you are one special lady for being so patient and understanding. I was in limbo for a week and a half, not knowing what was going to happen to him until yesterday when he called. It's such a hard experience but we will pull through this. If you need to rant or ask questions, you can add me.

Nick'sproudMom, try calling legal and leaving a message that you want to talk to you son when he's there for his appointment. In my experience, they usually do not call back but the message gets through and you get a call.

To nicksProudMom; I hear you, I feel your pain and stress, try to not let it make you crazy (I know easy for me to say) but having no control is maddening. Have faith that everything will work out the way it is suppose to. Sometimes endings are just new beginnings; we just don't know it at the time.

Update on my daughter; Letter received yesterday dated 1/11, she is on LLD and is still with her division she says she will be seperated soon but doesn't  know when? then she will come home.  So no control here either.. sad.... I'm not so sure who is more of a mess me or her? so I have to practice what I preach just have to think "New Beginnings"

ok another update I got a call from my daughter and she has asthma so she will be discharged. she is ok with it and sounds very calm. she is finally seperated and the process has begun whewww! now i know now i can relax and carry on....what a ride ......

Update on my SR, He called yesterday signed the waiver to not appeal and now just awaiting to see Legal. Just wondering how long does it take for Legal to make an appointment with him? and should I call to see when he's scheduled to go cause right now he doesn't know when either. Just playing the waiting game. Sent him a package from Amazon with a couple of books. I just really want him home before 2/8/13 cause that's when his PIR is and it would so depressing to have him still up there by himself.

thank you sixftblnd for your info you have been a great help; actually as crazy as it seems I just feel like I won the lottery yea at least I know what's going on and she is ok so now onto the next chapter yes it sticks for her but she is ok with it .. I guess it was meant to be so everthing will be good and hello missElly we are together on this  :)

There's still such an air of uncertainty still...not until my SR is back in my arms that I will feel better. Yes we know where they are and they're being given 3 meals a day but you're still unable to know anything that's going on and what to expect. I just need to get over this fact...

I feel selfish for being relieved that he's coming home and I can't help it either.

hay MissElly maybe our kids are together hanging out watching movies together sharing stories on how crazy their Mother's are; LOL just kidding I have to laugh because that is my best medicine, and yes soon they will be home and your not selfish your just being a Mom....

Well my SR went to Legal on Friday and got a RE-3 discharge code. Now it's time to play the Waiting game AGAIN. and MC Mama, that would be cool but unfortunately females and males are in separate Compartments and aren't even allowed to mingle xD.

Feeling greatful tonite,  I am grateful that my daughter was able to join and have the experience, grateful that she was diagnosed with asthma before she ended up in a place where she couldn't get the medical help. grateful she is ok and is safe, grateful I had the support on this site, my saving grace... just wanted to say that :)

My SR said he was going to call today and I've waited all day to no avail, there wasn't a phone call. At least there were letters today even though He sent me his name tag which just made me cry even harder. When does this ever get easier. Today was just a perfect day to cry your eyes out until you start to feel better.

To MissElly: hang in there, you are not alone everything will work out, this phase is not forever and I'm with you so we have each other and other great Mom's here, are too, prayers that  things go swiftly. 

I pop in here every now and then just to see how all the moms are doing and to re-assure you that this does get better and everything works out. My son came home in November, it was a huge struggle for our entire family and it took about 2 months for us to recover. However, now he is working and doing very well. He's been exploring his options for school next fall and has even made a few references about opening up his own business in our town. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there. It will be okay.

When is a good time to start freaking out and calling Seps Admin or Legal...lol

I don't know, this emotional rollercoaster is probably making me overreact but I haven't heard from him in a week, not sure if he's even Fit-To-Travel since he's only been evaluated once at the REU for Depression/Anxiety and it's getting so close to his PIR date. He was able to call me every other day last week but this week has had no contact whatsoever.Being strong really is hard work. I don't have any status updates pertaining to my SR. What about you MCMama? or any others going through this with us

my daughter called yesterday morning to say here paperwork is just getting to legal and she has to meet with them next week so she figures she might be home maybe in 2 weeks so right around pir date but that is about right according to time line of SEPS 10-20 business days of processing time so hang in there. I would think he is in good hands making sure he is fit for travel..how long has he been there? my daughter went there 1 week ago so it will take about 3 weeks to process out for her.. she did tell me new recruits have arrived to ship 5 some only had 2 weeks left of bc wow that is tough so hang in there. we are here for you :)

I am surprised that there are only us two on here as my daughter told me about 100 men in SEPS and 38 or so in womens SEPS. Too bad their loved ones don't know about this site because it has been a blessing for me... somewhere to ask questions and get excellent information for after they come home. I guess we lucky to find this site and great Moms to help us through it. My daughter has purchased some internet time I'm not sure how much but she took a picture of herself with another girl and posted it on facebook so I was able to see an updated picture of her. They did get some money for bootcamp so maybe he will be able to do the same. I know someone told me the more they go to medical the longer it can take for them to get cleared to be fit for travel. I'm sure you will get a call soon I also know if they are sick for whatever reason they do not call home my daughter was sick on Thursday and couldn't call that day. sorry that is all I know and some of it may be incorrect but I'm learning as I go.

Funny how the Ship 5 website said that they never use Phone calls as a Disciplinary Action but in reality, they can actually lose that privilige.

Funny, the letter I got today complained about the Wannabe "Thugs" who ruined everything for everyone cause they're so loud. He said he's shocked that they're acting like this even when they're still getting paid. Just some people in this world...

My son just left this morning.  He was there 20 days.   The Captain had his paperwork sitting on his desk since last Tuesday.  :(   College classes started this week, so he will have to get approval from the Dean to enroll late.

He had a call on Tuesday, but had not been able to use the computers all week.  I guess they are starting to send large number to Ship 5 again this week.

He said yesterday they had to sit on their bunks for 2 hours without speaking.

He was definitely ready to get out of there.

I have been on here reading up on what all of you have for advice.  I will say that my son did not get a phone call when they moved him over to ship 5.  In fact we did not get to talk to him until after he had met with legal and been told he could appeal at home.  So we were never able to tell him he should stay there to fight it if he wanted to appeal.