Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

First, he is not supposed to get married on PIR weekend.  Second, marrying during A school requires he submit a special request chit and get that signed off, and maybe take a class on finances and dependent rights and responsibilities.  Mostly it is to screen for fraudulent marriages, security purposes, and to be sure the new sailor knows what is available to their new spouse.  After A school, just go get married.  Still, the classes are a good idea, explaining stuff like ID cards, medical, BAH, PCS moves, and more.  A good resource.

Essentially, the Navy cannot deny a legal marriage if you are both of age.  Just A school commands know new sailors need more information, and make sure none are falling prey to marriage scams.  

He can do nothing during at RTC toward marriage, as they have no authority over what happens at his next command.

Once at A school, it can take a couple weeks to get approved.  That fits in pretty well with his liberty phases.  Just because you marry doesn't mean he gets to love with you right away, so there should be no rush.  Which A school will he be attending?  I could give a better answer if I knew.

@Halie.... in general, seems to take a week or two to get the chit and classes done.  Once you're married, that goes into the record right away.  Can take about a month for the BAH to kick in, and for his Live Ashore packet to be approved.   You will need to pay for the move yourself as you were not married beforehand.  He will need a car to be approved to live with you.  

It depends on the A school, but in general, they have to have their own transportation.  It is true that at Great Lakes, the housing is close enough they can walk.  

A school question- my husband is currently at a school great lakes. I am going up there this weekend to visit. We are trying to find things to do since he has to have a buddy with him, my question is am I allowed in the barracks at all? to hang out and play video games or anything?

It is Recruiter Assistance Program.  He can use it for five days between A school and his first command.  Basically, he takes leave between the two, then helps the recruiter for five days with things like visiting parents and schools.  Then the recruiter puts in the paperwork, and he gets five days or earned leave back.  yes, it is very easy to get, but he gives up some of his time while he is home on leave.  Not too much though, it really is a good program.

Tricare doesn't cover dental. Dental is separate through Metlife, though once you are signed up for that, I believe you do use your mil ID for that too. I have the insurance, but I haven't used it yet, so I'm not 100% on that bit - I didn't receive another card though, so I'm assuming on that one. 

Its similar to signing up for tricare prime, you have to do it in advance and it doesn't start til the 1st of the  next month as long as you sign up by a certain date. It's like $11/month for spouses.

Hi ladies! My boyfriend is graduating on January 29th (it couldn't get here faster) and he will be heading to Pensacola for A-PACT. I was wondering how long it will take him to phase up and get liberty so I can go visit him? I know they tend to phase up faster in A-PACT because they aren't there as long, and I would like to try to visit him while he is there. Any knowledge would be helpful. Thank you!

I have no experience with A-PACT but my sailor has been to a few different schools and training commands so maybe I can help! Do you know approximately how long A-PACT is? It seems to depend on length but it also is variable on how well the class is doing, if anyone gets in trouble, and just the nature of the school itself. To give you a very general idea, my sailor has taken an average of 2-3 weeks to phase up to phase 2, and 4-6 weeks for phase 3. But that is very general and again his school wasn't A-PACT.

But I have visited my sailor about five times while he's been in school, and a couple of those have had to been worked around due to a sudden change in his liberty. Once his class got a total lockdown for the weekend (very special circumstance and totally not normal, likely won't happen to your BF) and instead of him being able to leave all weekend like we planned, I booked a hotel room on base to hang out there. And at the time it seemed like the end of the world, but it actually turned out to be on of the best visits ever. Sorry if I am rambling, I guess what I am trying to say is I have learned that it always works itself out! Hope that helps a little :)

I think it is a good idea to have a passport anyway, so you can travel if needed.  Military passports cannot be used for leisure travel.

Be aware that the Navy does not send dependents overseas until the sailor is an E-4 or above.  Even married, if he is still a junior sailor, he wont be taking you with him if he gets OCONUS orders.

A-PACT is only three weeks long, he won't get to phase three which allows overnight visits.  Not sure how fast he classes up, or how long he'll be in indoc, but I would be surprised if he is there for longer than four or five weeks.

https://www.cool.navy.mil/usn/LaDR/a_pact_e1_e3.pdf

It is a little slow, but here is the undesignated forum:

http://navyformoms.com/group/momsofundesignatedsailors

He can take leave after he finishes his training (it is not A school like the others), so that is nice to know.  

The rules say 30 days in phase one, and four weeks in phase two, but I have heard of it being accelerated. Just don't know which schools move them forward quicker.  About the time he makes phase three, he may be coming home on leave!

https://www.facebook.com/notes/training-support-center-tsc-great-la...

It can also be delayed; when my husband was at TSC they never advanced them to Phase 3. They basically make up whatever rules they want. But even without overnight liberty it's worth it to visit and see him during the day!

The overnight chit very much depends on the individual school, and the individual sailor.  Can't hurt to try, but there isn't a hard and fast rule to go by on special requests.