Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Great Lakes Gateway Suites are specifically off limits to A school students.  He cannot book a room there.  Off base is your only choice.

I have heard of chits for girlfriends to be liberty buddies, but that is hit or miss for getting approved.  Yes, there is supposed to be a buddy, and they are supposed to be together the entire day.  The trick to getting away with it is never admit it, never talk about it, and never post it anywhere.  Only takes one disgruntled person to see your post and bitch about it to the wrong ears.  The Navy is a small world that way.  

That is probably how the wives got away with Gateway Suites.  No one noticed, and no one was given a reason to notice.  

LOL, the Navy knows what sailors get up to, that's why there are liberty buddies.  I never had any, and I am amazed I never got into trouble; had plenty of opportunity!!!  

I'm not picking on you Bronco, just remember, anyone in the world can read everything on this group.  It matters more over on the boot camp group, but you never know who is going to stumble across this place with a google search.  

Red looks great next to the dress blues, especially in photos.

 If you want to color coordinate with their patches: E-3 and E-2 will have red stripes (engineering ratings), many will have white (deck, HM, admin), aviation will have light green, and SeaBees have light blue.  Basically, seaman white, aviation green, fireman red.  

NavyGF365 do you know the style of your over the knee boots? Especially since they are brown, they might be harder to pull off with a red dress. The white would probably be most flattering with the shoes you mentioned. Another option that can be flattering with skater dresses is wearing knee high socks or tights with an ankle boot. Don't return the dresses if you don't have to though! Skater dresses and skirts are one of my favorite styles of clothing because they are easy outfits to alter for every season, which saves money and closet space :). 

Because you are not married, your fiance does NOT qualify for paternity leave at all.  Only married sailors get it.  He will not be granted leave.  I am so sorry you will have to go through that without him.  

Hi I am a new Navy wife.. my husband was told he will be getting his orders in two weeks. I know that I am on his page 2 but I have not enrolled in deers yet. will I still be on his orders?

I can't find anything to wear :( I have been all over the malls and online and can't find the outfit that I think will take my husband's breath away! I want to look good for him! 

Thanks yall! 

You'll be sitting up on bleachers, so bring something you can sit on, like a jacket or sweater.  If wearing a skirt, do a "seat check" to be sure it doesn't ride up too much. Skater dresses with tights are perfect, no worries.  You don't want to flash all the divisions!

@  Caleyrae13  .... if he put you on his page two, he should have enrolled you in DEERS at the same time.  Did he do it electronically, or did he go through Personnel/CPC?  It is nearly impossible to do one and not the other.

Orders don't work like that.  The detailer needs to be made aware of changes in the sailor's status well ahead of time, so orders can be issued as accompanied rather than unaccompanied.  They are rarely changed after they are issued.  Your sailor needs to be sure his ESR is updated and a notice sent to the detailer ASAP. I am looking for the form online, no luck so far.   It may be cutting it a little too close.  

Any good ideas on what to wear to PIR?

DieselLady- I like your profile picture ;) I dressed like Olive Oil for my boyfriends PIR haha I just wore a cute red top with a navy blue pencil skirt but he knew exactly what I was going for when I saw him at PIR! haha Olive Oil to go with his new cute Popeye uniform haha

Aw navygirlfriend_12, I am sorry to hear that! My jaw dropped a little bit when you said you were 21 and your mom won't let you go... I mean my parents were a bit on edge when I said I was going to Chicago by myself but I was 21 also when I visited and I did just fine. If it helps, you can tell your mom my flight got cancelled and I had to sleep in the Los Angeles airport by myself... followed by having to jump on two trains in chicago walking with my suitcase through downtown haha. That was severe and won't happen to you, so you will do JUST fine. You can literally order a cab/limo to take you directly to Great Lakes from the airport! It is safer than she may think. If I were you I'd just tell her to get over it, as harsh as that may sound but you are an adult who wishes to see her very serious boyfriend! P.S. venting here is totally okay! :) Add me and message me anytime you'd like, you and I seem similar- I'm 22 and have been with my bf for 4 years come this summer. Good luck to you!

navygirlfriend_12, Its totally okay and you'll be fine in Chicago by yourself! Its kinda intimidating at first but you get into the swing of it. I am 18 and I traveled to Chicago for PIR by myself. I took a direct flight, got a taxi to my hotel, checked in and everything (kept the door locked while I was alone), and had the front desk call me a cab in the morning. It was supper easy and the cab driver gave me her phone number so i could call her directly to get back to my hotel from base! The front desk also called me a cab to go back to the airport. It was super safe and I never felt uncomfortable. Don't let your mom keep you from trying new things! You can totally do this! 

navygirlfriend_12, Also, I forgot to mention....my sailor is stationed in Pensacola and Im DRIVING (from Virginia) next week for my spring break. My moms not very happy about that but I promised I would keep in touch. Its hard for a mom to let go but just let her know that you know she cares about you and that you will keep her informed. That might help too!

My parents were over-protective of me even when I was 30 and got married a second time!  They never quit, but usually it is done out of love. 

That said, as long as you are paying for the trip and can show you have all the travel and hotel arrangements made, and will stay in touch, you're an adult and should be allowed to expand your horizons a little.  Chicago is not the wild wild west, and it isn't like you're going into the really bad areas.  

This may be indelicate, but assure your mom you are not running away to get married, and that you are responsible and are not going to come back pregnant.  Let her know your education is a priority and you'd not risk it.  That may or may not be on her mind, if it is, she needs to know you're smart and understand her fears.  Again, sorry to be indelicate, it may not apply to your situation at all.  But moms worry about stuff like that even if they won't say it.

In need of some advice. My best friend's father passed away just 2 weeks after my Sr left for boot camp. He was pretty close to her father so I didn't want to write him a letter saying he passed away because i figured it would bum him out. Now that PIR is a week away, I have to tell him. I don't know whether i should tell him when i get the "I'm a Sailor" call or wait until PIR and tell him in person. I just dont want to ruin his graduation day and once he gets his phone back he'll see it all over social media as there is a benefit coming up. Should I ask my Sailor and say "look something happened while you were gone and i didnt tell you because i didnt want to distract you. Would you like me to tell you now or in person?" then have him decide what he wants? Help please!! And sorry about the lengthy question

I would say during the I'm a sailor call.  Those tend to be longer calls, and you will have time to break it to him.   That will give him a few days to process it before PIR, so that day will not be totally spoiled.  Also, letting him decide is a good strategy.

I know this is different, but I was in a lengthy Navy school and my parents had care of my cat.  They didn't want to tell me she'd been hit by a car, so they waited until I was on Christmas leave.  Ruined my holiday, I'd rather have known beforehand than be all excited to see my kitty and she was gone.  I know a cat is not a person, but the feeling of having information withheld is quite awful.

Thank you very muchfor the help!

So today my mother came over to my house to tell me that she is upset that my husband is leaving for the navy in 8 days. She said that I was not thinking of our little girl when he and I decided it was ok for him to sign up. She then told me it was wrong for me to move back to my home town if we are just going to leave and very selfish of us. She then further told me that my husband should have waited to do this until she is older. I stated to her my husband is 31 its not like he has 10 years to wait to join if he doe snot join soon he will be to old to join. She then said why did he not do this earlier in his life to get it out of his system, i then had to remind her that he was not a american citizen at that point and lived in Canada. I am so upset at my mother for putting so much undue pressure on me and us. I am almost to the point is I can not wait to move and leave so I can stop hearing her cry about my husband doing something patriotic and for him living his dream. I told her everything in life is not always about you. I am very hurt and confused i just needed to tell someone.