Submarine Girlfriends, Fiancées, & Wives

why Jennifer?  what happened? 

I'm 27 (I'll be 28 in may), and my husband and I decided it would in our best interest if he joined the navy at his late age b/c I want a good life for us and our son.  I NEVER thought our life would turn up this way, its going to be interesting.

havent heard a word from my husband and out of no where he skyped me :) sooo excited lol

it is defiantly been interesting the only thing we don't like but are having to live with is the deployments my son is 6 yrs old and in the 6 yrs my hubs has been here a total of maybe 3 yrs of his life :( but this is all he know so he is either handling it very well or he is hiding his feelings towards his daddy being gone. but it is our life and we are doing what we can with what we got haha..

I thought that my husband and I are old... I'm 27 (turning 28 in Nov.) and he's 28 (turning 29 in Sept.)

aveoamare(Ship02div925): your reason is exactly why my husband joined the Navy as well.  He was not happy working in the corporate world.  He totally hated it :(

❤ ℐℯnnifℯr ❤  this is what I'm scared of for my daughter...my due date is April 28 and we're not sure if he'll be able to be there when she's born.  My 3yr old son keeps on asking where Daddy is and how come he only gets to talk to Daddy on the comp...*sigh*

yes for a little while he had to go to bed cause he has school in the morning :/ but he'll get another chance.. 

yea i think it does make it easier when your child is around other kids who are going through the same thing. but i have also seen some very strong, independent, sweet,  very intelligent kids in most of the military families i have meet so being a military brat has it's positives.. but i have also seen some major military brats lol...

It's hard for my husband to be away from our son, too. He is almost 16 months old. But being in the Navy gives us the possibility of a better future, without the constant anxiety about making ends meet. We can provide opportunities for him, and travel and show him the world. Not to mention it gives my husband the chance to be satisfied with his work instead of being stuck in a dead end job.

But, I've observed that how well a family thrives in the military highly depends on the emotional health of the parents and how they help the kids handle it. Being in the Navy will make a strong marriage stronger, but break a weak marriage. Wise people will take full advantage of the opportunities for personal growth. And good parents will help their kids understand the value of what their daddy is doing and help them take pride in it, carefully preserve milestones and help kids communicate and do special things to stay connected to dad (like care packages with drawings, crafts, and other special things they want to share or dad would enjoy), help them know that daddy may be far away but he still loves them and is there for them, and I think MOST important of all, that when daddy IS home, there is LOTs of quality connection- time spent having fun as a family and one on one time for dad with each kid, and making sure that dad is an important part of the normal family routine when he is home. In a way I guess it would make the goodbye's hurt more, but the reunions that much sweeter, and I would rather accept the painful feelings knowing that we have lived each moment to the fullest and never ever held back to "protect" ourselves from missing each other.

@mamamiri- wow you almost had me tearing up i had to stop reading and then come back and read the rest haha..

it does take a very strong marriage, and wow to see your childs face light up when he tells another child that his daddy is in the navy and the best thing is that his daddy works on a submarine it just makes my heart light up knowing that he is proud of his daddy.. 

LOL omg thats nuts!!

well I got 3 letters from my husband today, he says he's doing very well in BC =)  I really can't wait to find a house on or near base and maybe meet some of you.  In NJ, all the moms are old, like in their 40's, and I always feel like a little kid hanging out with them, but from what I can tell on this site, most of the wives are mothers too and they are all my age or younger!  I really can't wait.

lol  yea there are many young navy mommies especially on base

congrats on your letters...

congrats MissileTechWife(Kingsbay,GA)  !!

How exciting!  Have a great day tomorrow, but I'm sure you will =)  And good luck going to kingsbay =)

subwife-  congrats on makin it to bangor.. it really is nice there, dont forget to hit up barbies cafe and the halfway house ;) those were are 2 fav. spots to eat mainly barbies cause it is closer but yes nomness

congrats krystal

Thanks! We will have to check them out!!! :)

hey STSWife my hubs is a sonar tech to :)

hope everyone is well.. 

I have a question about moving and temporary lodging. If all goes well and he gets his orders in time (I have all my digits crossed!!) we'll be moving to Groton in less than 3 weeks. We're planning to live in base housing and will go talk to the leasing office as soon as I get there (probably Monday since we'd be arriving on a weekend to be there for BESS graduation) but will need temporary lodging until we can sign on a place. I've read that you can stay at the Gateway while searching for housing- what exactly does that mean? Is there a discount? Is any of the cost covered under our relocation expenses?

Also, what exactly are the offices that my husband needs to talk to once he has his orders (he said there were "temporary" ones on NKO that could still change but he would get his "real" ones probably after Test 2 which is today?) to get the ball rolling for housing, and request our relocation allowance?

Ok cool.. thanks i was wondering since I"m heading that way in the summer..lol

yes it is all  kinds of crazy lol good luck on your move.. you can put your names on the housing waiting list as soon as you get orders by faxing in the housing application.. 

housing application

Groton Housing Information

My husband and i at the 111th submarine ball 2011

You guys can see them alol weekend.. They get their liberty cards about 7 am and they can stay out till 10pm .. At first... well they have to be back at their rooms @ 10pm.. once they get to phase 2 they get to stay out till midnight.. There are some places they can't go to your sailor will tell you where they are..First weekend they have to be in uniform outside the base. Once they get to phase 2 they get to wear civilian clothes.. Also with the yellow card they can have their cars and drive them.. My told me that the first weekend he had to use cabs averywhere they weren't allowed to drive or get into a privately own car.. I thought that was a bit crazy but cab we did..lol..Don't think about the restrictions just think that u get the whole day and some of the night with your sailor!!! and just enjoy!!!