GROTON, CT. SUBSCHOOL & "A" SCHOOL MOMS
hi
My Son is currently in Groton, Ct. for Submarine School then "A" School.
My Son is currently in Groton, Ct. for Submarine School then "A" School.
Not even sure what to expect next…
My son graduated boot camp on 2/1 and is now in Connecticut for A school. His first test was yesterday. He had text me the day before saying it’s really hard and that since the material is confidential, they’re not allowed to take home any of their notes to study, but rather their notes are all locked up and kept right there. So when he text me yesterday he said he failed. He said he got the lowest grade in the class. They made him speak to a chief who thought he purposely failed because he doesn’t know how my son could’ve scored so high on his advanced test, and then fail so low on this. He proceeded to say that even a blind person would’ve scored higher if they had taken the test!!! Needless to say I am at this point in tears, heartbroken, knowing that my child is hurting and struggling and during this time, being talked down to as if he doesn’t deserve any kind of respect and/or support. He’s now being placed in a class for note taking I guess he said? This is all so new and unfamiliar to he and myself, so I was wondering if anyone has had their child’s original train derailed and if so, what happened next? What if he doesn’t ever pass the necessary courses required?
BusterTheDogIsMyFavKid
Aug 12
Lara
Oh gosh, I am so sorry this is happening too, for you both. I would have to agree with much of what you have said, as the same thoughts float on one side of my brain while the other side tries to rationalize all of this that are children experience, especially when they are going into the service right out of high school or in their early 20s with so little experience and clearly vulnerable in so many ways. I will pray for you and your son. I am glad you have some resources, that will be helpful.
it might be helpful to you and your son if even to try and “calm” or normalize the situation to being like a still very new “job” — how it takes at least a year to get familiar with the position and what you’re doing and get to know what the expectations are. How it takes time, each time there is a change just like he’s experienced. It might be helpful to help him think about it from the standpoint of everyone sometimes has jobs that we don’t like, but there may be parts that work OK, or that are tolerable, as compared to other parts. It might be also helpful if he’s upfront and says to the instructors, I think I probably will need some help with this. What did they recommend that he do from the start, such as with the electrician school. That way, at least he’s telling them to begin with I’m gonna need some help. Let himself know that it’s OK that if all this is is constant effort to try, but it’s not working, maybe that will take him closer and closer to what will fit. It’s a matter of just having to go through all these hoops, that this military wipes seems to create.
As a mom, some thing that I sometimes have used with my son, is to tell him I’m thinking about him at certain times of the day as a routine. So that he can always know at 9 o’clock in the morning I am thinking about him. At noon, I’m sending him be strong vibes. At 5 o’clock I’m sending him stay calm. He’s got this thought. At 10 o’clock in the evening I’m sending him relax everything‘s OK tomorrow’s a new day thoughts. Him, knowing that you are consistently right there with him in the moment at these specific times might give him a sense of security and support. It’s also something very active that I liked doing as a mom To feel like I was helping my son through difficult times. I know it’s hard, hearing how difficult it is for him, I know how hard it would be for me to or is when that happens for me. Many hugs for you!
Aug 13
Lara
Whoops!!
just having to go through all these hoops, that this military LIFE seems to create.
Aug 13