EMPTYNESTERS

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A place to come to for Navy Moms & Family Members who find themselves with an emptynest. A place to share our thoughts..comfort each other and give advice.
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Bursting with pride BUT.........

by LadyPendragon

Feb 20, 2014

This is my first post. 

First let me say, I am so proud of the choice my son has made.  He's going to be a Sailor!!  I know the first time I see him all "Navy'ed" up in his uniform and hair cut my heart will just burst with pride.

He is my youngest.  When he leaves for BC I will be alone.  My husband left us 2 years ago now.  My soon to be sailor and I grew very close after his sister left home almost 6 years ago and only got closer after the not so DH left.  I am very, very happy for him and the decision he has made.  When he talks about his future plans and what the Navy will do for him, he gets SO excited and that brings me so much JOY....

 

now the BUT...

 

I am afraid.  I am afraid that I will just fall apart once he is gone.  The last 33 years of my life has been all about raising kids and working to support them.  I've been their mom, their scout leader and for a good portion of their life I was their Sunday school teacher as well.  When my husband left, we moved to another city (we lived in his hometown) and I don't know anyone here.  I don't really have any friends close to where I live or work.  I'm sure I'm not the only mom to have faced this before and I would greatly appreciate hearing from any that have "been there, done that" and thrived!!

 

Respectfully,

Lady Pendragon

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    CO-TwinSalorsMom

    To those of you with your first goodbyes. I think it does get easier day to day. I know more what to expect now after two years at this. Goodbyes do not get better. Hello's are pretty great though.

    I, at the start of this journey, Cried EVERY day. Then it was not quite every day. Now just out of the blue for no real reason, Hard this week even though my son is home. He is struggling with the house being packed up as I am moving from the only home he ever knew. He daily says, "why do you have to leave? This is hard to see it so empty" 

    Oct 22, 2014

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      Texasmom

      Lady pendragon, wow. I Sooo feel Sooo much of what you shared. Perhaps we shud keep each other company. Ha. Wow. It is so encredibly bitter sweet isn't it. Our kids growing up, heading out to live their lives, becoming soldiers! ! But ooh the stretching aND pulling at our hearts and emotions. They've been our all. It just makes me tear up, and sob, too often
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      Dec 22, 2015

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        momto navymat

        My youngest is leaving as well. Although dad is in our lives, he is at work a lot so I can feel where you are coming from but  in a little bit of a different way. My two oldest just moved out of state so I have been a mess. No more babies here. :( Feel free to friend me, we can chat anytime.

        Apr 26, 2017