EMPTYNESTERS
A place to come to for Navy Moms & Family Members who find themselves with an emptynest. A place to share our thoughts..comfort each other and give advice.
Our home officially became an empty nest on March 29th
When people talk about 'empty nests' it always sounded like a wonderful thing with lots of time to yourself and your spouse. Uninterrupted time to do all those grown up things you had always wanted to do. My husband is taking advantage of new found freedom and going naked as a jay bird just about everywhere in the house. I on the other hand can think only of my son. Since I was a teenage mother, we grew up together. It's a whole lot harder letting go then I thought it would be and yet I know that it's time to take a step back and let him lead for awhile. This empty nest feels more like an abandoned home. What advice do other empty nesters have to help get over the hump?
B'sNukeMoM⚓️MMN(Vet)
It does take some getting used to the kids being gone. I read more now and of course spend more time on N4M lol! My sailor is out now but he stayed in VA and will be starting college in August - so 4 more years he'll be away (and most likely won't come home after that - he'll be 27 in June). And younger son is graduating college in 16 days but he's not planning on coming home either! Trust me though, the time goes by fast. We're all here for you ;-)
Apr 7, 2016
Barbara
Well, it's been 3 months for you now. How are you dealing with things? My only daughter, who turned 18 her first week of BC, left on June 27th. I feel just like you did. Each day seems a little better, but I still walk into her room and bathroom every day and feel sad. She and I had been fighting like cats and dogs for the last 6 months.... maybe that was her way of emotionally detaching from me.... or that's what I'd like to think anyway. I thought I would celebrate and want to just bust loose and go on a cruise. Instead I just cried for a week. And so did my husband. Although he also has been enjoying running around about naked and not locking our bedroom door.
At this point, I have only gotten The Box. I haven't even gotten the form letter with her mailing address. It has been difficult, but we are starting to look for fun things to do on Groupon and are planning a cruise for after her PIR. But as of yet, I haven't gotten over the hump.
So when did you start accepting the reality that, not only would your son be gone for boot camp, but that he would probably never live at home again and that things would never be the same? Like I said, on one hand, I couldn't wait for her to get the heck out. But now.... I'm just sad.
Jul 7, 2018
Tammy⚓️Girl
I just noticed this post from April 3, 2016. I wasn't even a part of the Navy Mom community in 2...
Jul 27, 2021