OCS Graduate Moms

For those who have graduated from Officer Candidate School in Newport, RI or who are currently attending there.
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  • PKM

    I heard a story about someone thinking that sending a potato  was funny. Not for the Person at OCS...... To family of a son/daughter at OCS believe in your candidate, write letters of encouragement and the weeks go by quickly. If they get Rolled into holding company; it is not as big a deal as it sounds.  It gives them a chance to improve where they are weak.  Oh yeah, they will probably get sick, my son did; but they will get through that too.

  • M's mom

    PKM,

    Yes, each OCS class seems to have a wave of upper respiratory illness sweep through in the early weeks. The candidates live in such close quarters, and are under such physical and emotional stress and lack of sleep, that their immune systems get weakened.  Someone always brings in a bug, and then they all get it.

  • PKM

    You are so right.  My son was sick for 6 weeks total before he finally got healthy. But he kept pushing through. Oh yeah, They also loose their voices too. 

  • Eaglemom01

    And if they haven't had their wisdom teeth out yet that usally gets done at OCS too! They don't want to have to dock or come topside to send someone to take care of it if it becomes a problem out at sea.

  • M's mom

    Eaglemom01,

    Right.  Fortunately, my son had his wisdom teeth removed at age 16, but there were several who had their wisdom teeth removed at OCS the week of graduation!!!  Poor things still had their cheeks and jaws all swollen at the graduation ceremony. 

    My advice to those accepted to OCS, besides getting in excellent physical shape before reporting, is to have those wisdom teeth removed at home before reporting, so they have time to recuperate at home. 

  • jsefamily

    With respect to wisdom teeth, our dentist told our son he needed his removed. His recruiter told him he couldn’t have them removed (no physical changes or procedures) while he was waiting for selection board approval, then again no changes after approval and waiting for OCS.

    The recruiter said they would be removed at OCS. And two were. The same dentist noted a crack in his front tooth (knocked out when he was 10 and put back in his gum, eventually needing an implant). He said he couldn’t clear him medically if he didn’t remove his front tooth! What?!! So the dentist removed his front tooth and gave him a temporary fake tooth just in time for OCS graduation. The saga continued for years in flight training.... He has his implant now.)
  • M's mom

    jsefamily:

    That's just nuts.  The military has some screwy policies.  What if an OCS candidate is waiting to report and has an attack of acute appendicitis?  Are they allowed to have their appendix removed?

    For the pilot candidates, they apparently don't give them a complete flight physical at MEPS, which is more stringent than the usual one.  Then they get to OCS, and are given a flight physical and then some are medically DQ'd for flight, after all that work it took to get to OCS!!!! 

    That happened to my son.  He went to OCS as a pilot candidate, then was medically DQ'd for some minor anomaly that wasn't caught in two different MEPS physicals.  Fortunately, he was allowed to remain at OCS and switch to a different designator.  If he would have been thrown out of OCS at that point, after all the hoops he had to jump through to get there, we all would have been furious.  (Not that it would have done any good!)  But how cruel to let these kids into OCS, and then DQ them for something that should have been caught before.

  • Andrea S

    My son is a PP and we still went to 2 different flight surgeons that were military just to make sure he would pass the flight physical before he started this process.  Even a FAA medical doctor may not give the same flight physical that they do in the military. So if you know anyone wanting to be a SNA tell them to find a FAA medical doctor that is ex-military and get a full exam!! 

  • Andy'sMom

    One more for the crazy side:  a daughter of a friend went to OSC as a pilot. During her physical, her arms were measured and found to be less than an inch too short to be a pilot!  She appealed the findings and was told she could still go thru as a pilot, however, because her arms were too short, she ran a high risk of injury and/or death in training and she would waive all her beneficiary rights!  She also was able to switch to a different designator.

  • Allison

    My DS was told by OCS doctors that he had "virtually no chance" of becoming a pilot because of some medical history and they showed him the written regulations. But he convinced them to send in the paperwork anyway to see what would happen. He is a Patriots fan and he kept telling us, "28 to 3, you never know." (Pats fans will know what I mean). Two months later, he called us screaming "Touch down! I made it." :-)

  • M's mom

    Allison,

    Good for him!!  I know the military can issue waivers on a case-by-case basis, so I'm glad your son insisted they try for him. 

    I understand that pilots/NFO's must have certain physical size and abilities for their own and everyone's safety when flying, but it seems to me, before being accepted to OCS as SNA/NFO, they could be given a full flight physical.  It just seems so wrong to accept these kids to OCS, and then DQ them for flight in the middle of OCS, after all they've put into it.

    There was one Mom here in this group a while back who said her son was medically DQ'd for flight at OCS, and was told there were no other open designators he could switch to. He was told he had to leave OCS, and was discharged!!!!!!!  That's just ridiculously cruel.  The poor kid.

  • PKM

    So as I read these postings, I realize that anyone who has made it it OCS Graduation has run the gauntlet of things that can and often do go wrong. I agree with the items that should have been cleared, or "fixed" or will just DQ them before the candidates go off to OCS. I am learning that what we see as reasonable or common sense is seen very differently by the military. Good luck to all new supporters of an OCS son/daughter, 

  • PKM

    Regarding the Hi Mom's Dinner. Some people dressed very formally, long dresses (but no tuxedos).  Others had on very nice dresses and the men wore suits and ties.  Wear what is comfortable and just have a good time.

  • jesnavymom

    Do we send CANDIO boxes for our LOs in OCS? If so, I was told it CANNOT include food. Correct?

  • M's mom

    jesnavymom:

    I believe that is now correct.  When my son was at OCS six years ago, they COULD receive food in their boxes, so of course, we moms all sent our candidates boxes stuffed with homemade cookies and other sweet treats.  Since they were all sugar-deprived at that point, having not been allowed any desserts or between-meal snacks for 9 weeks, they all gorged themselves on the goodies and made themselves sick.  (My son said it was worth it, though. ha!)  So, I think that is why they don't allow food anymore.

    Anyway, DO NOT send anything but letters, until they officially become CANDIOs (Candidate Officers) at week ten.  Write CANDIO on the outside of the box, so the mailroom will know they are allowed to have it. 

    Some families have sent magazines of interest and books, but the CANDIOs will be running the training regiment then, and have little time for reading anyway.  I suppose you could ask your LO if there are any non-food items that they would like you to send.   It kind of takes the fun out of it if we can't send homemade goodies, but this is just a baking Mom talking here!

  • jsefamily

    jesnavymom, most of the experiences of the moms here may be outdated on Candio boxes. The best insight for current Candio boxes rules would be your class Facebook page. There is usually an admin that can and does provide current protocol. As for the boxes themselves, Pinterest is loaded with great ideas and examples. It’s a fun project and expression of love and fun to your LO. Enjoy!
  • Andrea S

    I just sent my LO’s box a couple of weeks ago. To answer your question on food..they only allow power bars. I even tried to sneak in a protein cookie and he had to put in his “lucky bag” for after OCS. One good idea was a good pen since they always have to carry one. The one thing I wish I would have thought of was his wireless earbuds ( unless your LO brought them to OCS)

  • CAmom

    My son graduated from OCS in October and there was NO food allowed and the power bars had to be a certain brand so I didn't even send those since they were able to get them at the NEX at that point in OCS.  We sent pictures, a day planner, some magazines of his hobbies (surfing etc) and he loved those since they don't have much contact with the outside world.  We were also able to fit a fleece blanket.  It was really thin and could be rolled pretty small and that was nice because they usually sleep on the outside of their made beds.  Lots of ideas on the internet on how to decorate the boxes.  Very fun to do!

  • PKM

    Great ideas everyone.  The more we share, the better!

  • PKM

    It has almost been a month from when my son graduated from OCS. The time goes fast, but the memories last forever. I love looking at the photos that are/were on the OCS  Newport facebook page. I printed off some of the photos and put them in a scrapbook for my graduate.

  • M's mom

    PKM,

    Has your son reported to Dam Neck, VA  yet?

  • PKM

     I made a  Navy scrapbook for my son and his wife. It has pictures from the OCS facebook page, Hi Moms dinner and graduation. I even made a section for his Navy Wife.  He loved looking back at his days at OCS and said that it felt like it was yesterday. The month since he was commissioned has gone by very fast. 

  • travel101

    My son is in class 13-18 and graduates in 4 weeks. What is the overall dress for the reception the evening prior to graduation?
  • Andy'sMom

    travel101: The Hi Moms dress for class 11-18 was cocktail attire:  dresses or dress pants with the guys wearing sport coats - some with ties, some without.  We held ours in the Officer's Club on base.

  • PKM

    Congratulations to all OCS Graduates!

  • redheadlass

    My son is going to the July 1 OCS class. Where does one find the prepaid phone cards to buy to use at OCS? I have looked up on OCS past comments but have gotten various answers and when I look online they all sound terrible. Can anyone recommend a good card to buy and if so, where to buy it, online or at a store? 

  • Andrea S

    My LO is a 11-18 graduate and I got his online at ATT phone card.  They have a military rate so that is helpful.  When I bought it, I bought the most minutes but it ended up that my LO only could call on Sunday morning for 10 minutes.  That was from week 3 to week 7, then they get their cell phones back. So I went a little overboard there...lol  Hope that helps.

  • Andy'sMom

    My son was also in 11-18. I did not send a card with him.  The Ensign who was on our FB page recommended to buy them at the NEX.  She also said that many of the Candidates shared their cards.  Like Andrea S said, they only had 10 minutes a week from week 3 - 7 and then they get their phones back!  Good luck to your son.

  • redheadlass

    So my student will be a SNA.... So I think he goes to OHARP after his graduation from OCS... He will be doing that in his current city of residence (about 3000 miles from where we live) so does anyone out there know does he go immediately to his OHARP city or will he have a few days to get there? Trying to decide do we fly out the day of graduation to come home or do we stick around a day or so... He will be flying back to his city as he will not be taking his car to OCS. 

  • CindyN

    My son graduated in 2015 (just in case my info is out of date) but he didn't take a phone card. He must have missed that on the packing list. I heard about it after the fact so I also purchased an ATT card on-line. I was then able to send him the info in a letter and it didn't appear as if he was getting something he shouldn't be. I don't know that he ever used the minutes on that card as he said there were quite a few cards with leftover minutes sitting by the phones. He left the one I sent by the phone for the next person who may need one. And yes, they only get to call for 10 minutes a week for a few weeks so all the minute options probably have more minutes than they need but may benefit the next person. The card can also be recharged online if they do run out. https://www.virtualprepaidminutes.com/

  • Andy'sMom

    redheadlass, congrats to your son on his acceptance into OCS. You will find a lot of info from others on this page.  Go thru the pages and many questions will be answered!  Also, search Facebook for his class (which should be 17-18) as his start date gets closer.  They will become a very good source of info and support!  OHARP starts on the Monday following Commissioning.  He will be responsible for his transportation home. We stayed in the area for the weekend and flew him to his home on Sunday night.

  • Andy'sMom

    Thought I would put in a recommendation to anyone who is looking at accommodations for their upcoming Commissioning events.  We stayed in a house in Middletown that was 5-10 minutes from the base.  We had a big group and wanted to cook instead of trying to get all of us in a restaurant. This was perfect:

     https://www.homeaway.com/vacation-rental/p777113vb 

    It was 4 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms plus a great kitchen.  If that's not quite what you want, she also has a 2 bed, 1 bath with no kitchen:

    https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/21423660?location=Newport%2C%20RI%2C%2...

    If I ever get the chance to go back, I will definately stay here!

  • M's mom

    I would second the recommendation that families look in Middletown for OCS/ODS graduation accommodations, since it is actually closer to the base gates than Newport.  The hotels in Middletown are also cheaper than anything in Newport, especially in summer high tourist season.   We stayed at the Holiday Inn Express in Middletown, and it was close to the base. 

    Families can also stay at the Navy Lodge right on base, but reservations are hard to come by for graduation weekends, and your Loved One must be with you with military ID when you check in.

    The rental house idea also sounds great if you have a big group! 

  • Jenna07

    Are there other areas you can stay?  Looks like the Holiday Inn in Middletown is booked.

  • travel101

    The Navy Lodge is sold out also. We are staying at the Howard Johnson’s per a Navy Mom’s recommendation. It still had rooms.

  • Matt's mom

    We stayed at the Quality Inn and Suites in Middletown.  We were just a few minutes from the base.  Free  breakfast and a lot of choices for dinner.  Price was much cheaper also.

  • M's mom

    Jenna07: As others have posted, there are lots of chain hotels in MIddletown.  Just search Trivago or some other travel search site for "hotels in Middletown, RI" for the dates you are looking for.   The Howard Johnson's hotel that travel101 mentioned is right outside one of the base gates.  My son stayed there the night before he was to report to OCS.

    You can always stay in Newport, but those hotels are more resort-like and therefore, more expensive, especially in summer.  They are also further away from the base than Middletown. (The two towns kind of blend together.)  We made several trips on/off the base that weekend, so was convenient to be close.

  • Jenna07

    Thanks, I did look further and found some rooms.  One more question I thought I read somewhere that the graduations are at certain times during the day.  We are trying to figure out return tickets and when to leave as we are from the West Coast. Does anyone have information on the times or will I need to wait until I get a letter with that information?

  • CAmom

    It seems like all graduations are on Friday at 10:00 a.m.  I haven't seen any other times.  Allow time for pictures etc.  We were safely done by noon and didn't seem rushed at all.

  • M's mom

    Graduation is usually Friday morning, and the new Ensigns are able to leave by noon after they sign out, IF they have their orders.  My son's orders didn't come in until the Wednesday before graduation on Friday, so we didn't know if he was going to be able to leave or not. 

    We had planned to spend the night on Friday, and fly back home on Saturday.  Our son was able to get a ticket on the same flight and fly home with us, which was nice.  Then he had 10 days travel time to get to his next school.  Some have to go directly to their next school on Monday, so they just can't plan anything until they get their orders.

  • jsefamily

    Our son’s orders didn’t co
    E I. Until noon AFTER graduation so we were preparing to move him to temporary quarters on base. The Navy certainly prepares you to be patient and go to it’s the flow.
  • jsefamily

    That was supposed to be “come in.”
  • M's mom

    Yes, some of the orders don't trickle in until after graduation, so they have to stay on the base until they get their orders.  And yes, sailors and their families must learn to go with the Navy flow.  I've heard that the unofficial motto of the Navy is "Semper Gumby." (Always Flexible)   haha    Some of you might remember Gumby and Pokey from your childhood TV, ---that little boy and his horse made out of rubber.  They would have made good sailors because they were very flexible!!!   :-)

  • PKM

    My son didn't get his orders until the Tuesday after graduation. Hurry up and wait is something you get use to. 

    Congratulationsto all the new OCS graduates!

  • redheadlass

    My son will be in the OCS class beginning July 1, 2018. How do I find out the address to mail him letters, and also how do I find out his class name/number? 

  • Nancy

    It has been a year and a half since my son went, but right before they gave up their phones, they were allowed one last call. He called us and also sent a picture of the address which contains the class number.

  • sherru

    My son started in April.  Within a week or two, I received a introduction letter from OCS staff and in that letter it stated correspondence guidelines and information which included the mailing address to correspond. 

  • Andy'sMom

    redheadlass, As Nancy said, he will get one call and gave the address. They are reading off a board, and they only have a set amount of time!  Also, As sherru stated, you will receive a letter. Unfortunately, that letter was sent to his address and not ours!  You can also get the info on the  Officer Training Command Newport facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/OTCNewport/

    Click on the "notes" tab and it will give you the address.  Please make sure that everyone knows to just send letters and no packages.  They can not receive anything but letters until their Candio phase which starts in week 9.  Send letters often, but don't expect too many in return.  They only have time in the evening to write and many times they are exhausted.  Good luck to you and your son.  

  • Jenna07

    Does anyone know when they will post information about graduating class 16-18 on facebook for friends and family?

  • Jenna07

    I mean create the facebook page.  Sorry for the confusion.