Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

hello I need advice. My Boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married soon while hes in A school but I dont think my parents would be so found of me marrying at 19 !

Tiffany, you are an adult, but yes, 19 can be young to marry.  Much depends on you and your sailor.  Why choose to marry now?  Is it simply to be together?  I know the financial benefits are enticing.  Are you working, or in college?  Have you run a household before?  There is nothing wrong with a longer engagement while you gather your personal resources.

I had the chance to marry at 18.  Personally I am glad I did not, because I had a lot of personal growth to do then.   Yes, it does work for some couples, but usually they've been together for some time and are already pretty self-sufficient.

Hi all. Is it normal for the higher ups (RDC maybe?) to forbid sailors to get married? My boyfriend is currently at A-school in Meridian as a  logistic specialist, his pay grade is E3. He mentioned that he is marine based, not sure if that matters here but yeah. He said that he could only get married after 2 years. Is that true, and even possible to have an order like that? 

SSS28, abuon18 is correct, the Navy cannot forbid a legal marriage.  In A school, the student sailors are supposed to ask permission, but that is primarily to screen for fraudulent marriages for benefits and money, and to check for security risks.  Otherwise, there is nothing which says your sailor cannot marry for two years. His instructors cannot deny the request chit without a written explanation, and an agreement all the way up the chain of command.

One of his instructors (not RDCs, those are boot camp only) probably has had a bad experience, or has seen too many A school marriages crash and burn.  It is common advice to "wait until after deployment".  But no, the Navy cannot forbid him from marrying.  Nothing wrong with waiting a bit, either.  Perhaps he isn't ready for the big step without knowing what his first duty station will be like.  That's sensible and completely normal.

I only saw one marriage chit disapproved, and that was overseas and the bride was underage.  I know, because I was the one who disapproved it.  She couldn't get a parental signature, so it wouldn't have been a legal marriage.  I couldn't say yes to the chit!

Welcome Timsgirl!  Be sure to join the boot camp group so you'll know about writing and phone calls when he is in basic.  If you have any questions, please ask.  Even a tiny detail may suddenly make things click for you if you're confused. The Navy doesn't always make sense.

Be sure you know the rating he signs for, so you can join those groups too when he goes to A school.  

Hello has anyone ever traveled over seas to see deployed SO and if so how do you go about it ? 

I traveled over seas last year to see my husband while deployed. From what I had to do it wasn't just something you go do. He had have permission from his command and I had to send any and all documentation of who I was and they did a mini back ground check on me. Also there were others deployed to the same place and there command didn't allow visitors during deployment. Where my husband he couldn't leave the base and I couldn't stay in his barracks obviously so we had to arrange for both of us to stay in a hotel on base. He was allowed to take some leave while I was there but we still had to stay on base the whole time and he did work some of the days. Not all places require you stay on base at all times but here they did. So a lot of it depends on where he is and if his command will allow visitors. Each base and even the different commands on that base may have different rules. I would say it is best to have your SO talk to his command and see if and what they allow.

@Tiffany ... do you mean someone who is stationed overseas, or who is on a deployed ship which is visiting several ports?  Meeting them in port is chancy, as they can't release the ship's movements because of OPSEC.  Usually you can get official information through the FRG and the ombudsman, and coordinate that way.

If you are going to visit a sailor who is stationed overseas, a lot will depend on the region, their command, and their rank.  

@Magirlfriend ... the boot camp mom group is much more active for the newly arrived SRs, so you may get a quicker answer there.  Open to everyone, not just moms!

http://navyformoms.ning.com/group/bootcampmoms

magirlfriend , Idk if anyone reached out to you but my husband arrived july 24. I got his letter of grad date earlier this week. But have not gotten a call nor hand written letter! 

Hi!!! any navy wives on DIV 333 or PIR 10-20-17?

You will probably need to wait until the entire division gets to call.  There are rarely make up calls fr individuals.

Excellent! Glad you heard from him.

Hi everybody! I have a question that I hope maybe I can find the answer for here. Do all recruits get signed up for a Navy Fed account, even if they don't use it as direct deposit? I am keeping up with my fiance's email and she got an email from Navy Fed. We had agreed that she would use our joint account, so that I could pay rent and all of that. Question two, if she did do navy fed, will I get her debit card at home, or will she get it there? I'm just so worried about paying my bills for the next 6 weeks.

I'm a Italian Girl. I'm a soldier's fiancè. My boyfriend is in Texas, San Antonio for A school. We don't know how the C school works yet, does anyone know how long it takes for Pharmacy or Optics? would we want to marry, can someone give me some advice? Thank u

Your sailor will need to contact base legal and/or the state department to see how to marry a non-citizen, whether you will need a fiance visa, and how to get you a green card.  Getting married is the easy part, getting the paperwork done to make you a legal resident is complicated.

HM C schools are not guaranteed, but he can ask.  Pharmacy tech school is 23 weeks.   i could not find the optician tech C school information, but it would be guaranteed to be quite long also.

Allison, single sailors often do get overseas orders as a first assignment,  in some ratings.  It is the married ones they try not to give those orders to.

Stephanie, he will likely lose that first set of orders if it needs to be filled right away.  If it is not "hot", it might be held for him.  A school sailors rarely get the chance to speak to a detailer, so he has to be certain his dream sheet is filled out requesting commands or ships located in the SD area.  

Hi my name is Dani and I am a girlfriend of a diver in the navy and it's my first time being, with a military man. And this is the first time he's been gone for longer than 2 weeks he has been gone two months and I'm going crazy is there anyone who has tips or advice?