Kathy-Tami's mom - San Antonio

Hi Kathy,

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Elizabeth and Colleen

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Alright, Kathy! Thanks for the "invite". All of this is so new to me and I guess to you, too. Wouldn't it be cool if our girls were in the same division? How old is Tami? My Elizabeth is 22, but she's my youngest and I miss her a lot. We used to talk every couple of days or so or text and I sure do miss that. It's like she's fallen off the face of the earth! I know you must be feeling the same way.

Alright!! Great news about the letter from Tami. I haven't heard anything yet. I got the "box" this past Monday but no "form" letter yet. I called her recruiter and got her mailing address so I've gone ahead and sent her some letters. Hope the recruiter's info was good. Lizzie is in Ship 09 Div 219. So I guess that means they're in different barracks. I believe that's what the "ships" are anyway. I'm not sure when PIR is for us. Someone on this site said that was our date, too, but I don't know where they got that information.
Lindale is north of Tyler on Hwy 69 and I-20. I know exactly where McKinney is. I lived in Greenville from 1977 to 1995. I hated that Hwy 380 between but I think it's all 4-lane now. I'm a big believer is those very same manners you referred to. I think it's a southern thing. I'm originally from Louisiana and I was raised that way!

I went to that page, Kathy, and her division is not listed yet. She's ship 09, division 219. Hopefully I'll get the form letter today. I need to start making plans for PIR. I'll keep you posted.

so glad to hera back from you also. i thought my daughter was going to call today, but i have'nt heard anything yet. i am lifting her up in prayer, your daughter also.. find some comfort in knowing this... there were 2 other females also thet left from our area. three females including my daughter. i am looking so forward to june 18.i have three daughters, she is my youngest, my baby...understnd.?? it has been a very hard transition for me..i pray constantly, i mis her so much. the pictures you posted are very nice, i will have to post ours, i need help with that stuff, i will get my daughter to help me..lol..i wll look forward to meeting you on grduation day!!!!! Pray for me and i will Pray for you.

Hey Kathy-
Did you see my posting from yesterday? (See below.) I'm the whiniest, most pathetic sod on here. I cry at nothing and everything, and I HATE IT. I just want these feelings to go away. I'm trying really hard to not to eat donuts to try and make myself feel better.

Nothing that you are feeling is abnormal. Even the strongest people have a breaking point. Allow yourself to mourn. Stuffing it is the surest way to prolong it. That which we push away just comes back stronger, or something like that. And ask yourself if this triggers the pain from some previous experience. I find I have more crap lurking in my head waiting for an opportunity to blindside me than I could have imagined.

I'm thinking only good things for you.
Tina

I'm sure you all have figured this out already, but I'm a little slow on the uptake. I was walking the dogs today (I do some of my best thinking on the end of a leash), and I was trying to figure out why my son's going off to BC was so devastating to me.

After he left, I didn't eat for 3 days, until I got so weak that I couldn't take care of my responsibilities, and then I ate just enough to get by. I'd start sobbing at random moments and places. I really didn't know how I was going to live without him.

This is exactly how I felt, and what I did, when my dad died. And then the light bulb went on. What is the difference between a kid going to college and going to BC? Communication. And except for a gifted few, what is the difference between life and death for the people left behind? Communication.

Not being able to talk to A on the phone or email him or text him made me feel - not think, but feel - like I had experienced a little death. I think that is why the relief is so great when that first letter or call comes after the first two weeks. It's like enduring a tragedy, and then getting a glorious reprieve from it.

Hopefully, most people handle it better than I did, but I thought it was an interesting thing to share.

Kathy,
I see you found our Moms of Daughters 2 group and I want to welcome you!!! We are a close, friendly, supportive group and we all look forward to getting to know you and your sailor and family!! Feel free to jump in and join our chat - there is someone on every day and even if you just want to talk about your family, weather, job - whatever, we are there to listen and share!!! And if you have any questions we will be happy to help you out!!!
Again, Welcome Aboard!!!!

Kathy,
Oh, I can tell from your message - you and I are going to get along wonderfully!!!!!!! I can also have a easily misunderstood sense of humor!! I have to remember when posting on this and other websites that some people may not understand my humor because they don't see and hear me - they only "see" the typed words!!! I have four kids and managed to get through their lives without killing any of them!!! I often say - teenagers is a perfect example of why, in the wild, some mothers eat their young!!!!
But seriously, if you have questions don't hesitate to ask. If you want I'll send you a friend request and you can private message questions /concerns instead of putting it on the group page. So looking forward to chatting with you!!!

Hi Kathy! Just been trying to finish up school. And then there's work. I've been o.k.... she passed all test up to this point, Praise GOD!! counting the days down.27 days to go. I think I can Make it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!You O.K. have you made your hotel reservations yet?? I've been trying to get ready and get set for PIR June 18 :)...........