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I know this isn't the spot to post this but the Reserve sites aren't really active.
My son is at ET A school GL, decided after BC wanted to go active duty not reserves, he told me he can't change his contract (6yrs). Anyone know what the procedure would be or if it can be done?

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Mine too!
Okay, I'll start off with: yes it can be done, but is EXTREMELY difficult. Here's my advice to him:

Starting now, he needs to work VERY hard in school, have good PRTs, fight to be at the top of his class or at least have a very good scores, take inspections seriously, don't get into any trouble, volunteer both on his ship, in his classroom, and off base, something like sea cadets would be good, but really anywhere is good, and they'll organize opportunities for sailors to volunteer together as a group, he should ask around about those opportunities.

Next step, graduate, accept he is a reservist and report to his NOSC ready to work. He needs to volunteer for as much as he can within his NOSC, stay active and ready for PRTs, and keep volunteering in the community. Participate in training activities that are offered, especially if there's an opportunity to learn a "critical skill."

This is also the time he'll want to start volunteering for deployments, which the nice part about being a reservist is he gets more of a choice as he'll apply for certain billets, and may or may not be selected to deploy with them. If not, he can apply for other billets. Anyway, he will be paid like AD while deployed, which is nice, and it will be like being active duty during the duration of the deployment. He should deploy as much as he can and is allowed if he's serious about this, and when he's not deployed, he needs to stay involved in the Navy community, again sea cadets or even helping with recruiting can look really good, recruiters like having sailors talk to their DEP kids or high schoolers. He may also find civilian organizations to volunteer with.

After two years, he needs to start talking to his NOSC about activating. If he has shown he is a dedicated sailor that is ready to put in the work by doing things like what I listed above, then they MIGHT choose to let him activate, usually with additional service. However, if they do not let him activate, don't let him be discouraged, he can keep deploying, training, volunteering, etc. and just keep asking. If after 6 years, he still hasn't been given the opportunity to activate, he can ask his NOSC for guidance with re-enlisting and may also speak with a recruiter.

More simply put, your sailor wants to have the best evals he can, so that a quick glance into his file will encourage the right people to read more and hopefully prove to them that he's ready to make the commitment to active duty. Good evals help with promotions too, which will help keep him advancing, which might make him a little more desirable not just to activate, but also for deployments and training opportunities.
On a personal level, when your son is having a hard time, remind him to take a step back and look at the whole picture. Being a reservist sounds like crap (excuse me) after being active for roughly 10 months (since he's ET), and a lot of people act like the reserves don't do anything because compared to the lifestyle of AD sailors, it doesn't seem like it. However, that is just not true. The reservists are a HUGE support for the active side of the Navy. Being a reservist really just means he gets a choice (unless his unit is needed and activated). On a day-to-day basis a reservist basically gets to choose if they're in they're going to be in the Navy. He can still deploy, he can still train, he can still be part of Navy life if he chooses. He just has to get up every day and make that choice, "I am going to be in the Navy today." Sure, he may be told some days that he's not needed at the NOSC or has hit an hour limit, he may not be selected for a deployment, but then he can go down and help his recruiters, he can volunteer at events on a base, he can help kids in DEP, he can volunteer in his community, he can practice his skills in a related job field, etc.. Reservists are basically just volunteers, while AD may have voluntarily joined, it's still their full time job, they HAVE to be in the Navy today. Your son has to remember when he's feeling down that, while his paycheck might not look as nice as AD, the only difference is he has a choice to make today. In those moments when he feels like he has nothing to do with the Navy and wishes he was active duty, when he feels like he has no say in his Navy career and can't wear his uniform that day, remind him "You can still choose to make yourself a better sailor today." Even if it's just going for a hard workout, volunteering at a shelter, school, or a public event, taking a class, those things will make him a better sailor when he can put on his uniform again :).
Thanks for your input it really helps.. When he initially signed up he wasn't sure what he wanted to do with his life.. Now he's decided he wants a full time Navy career... Loves it! _Talking with his friends he's made and seeing what's out there as AD being out in the Fleet is what he wants to do.. Were just afraid after A school comes home then what trys to get a job related to his ET training? He doesn't want to forget what he's learned.. The nearest NOSC isn't very active from what he's learned.. Can they request a different one? We're about an hour from San Diego.. I would think that the Navy puts all this time and $into you they'd be happy to make you AD.. I dont know he's just regretting the reserve decision.. Not much he can do about it I guess..
I'm not sure on the specifics, but yes, a reservist can change their NOSC. However, the only circumstance I've actually seen it done under is a move, but that could be coincidence. I would definitely recommend him trying to have it changed before he graduates and reports to the NOSC he's currently assigned to. If he can't for some reason, he can still volunteer to deploy, deployment opportunities are not NOSC specific.


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