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Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. There are now tickets issued, and there are no longer parking passes for PIR.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Letters are coming!

My family received letters from my son yesterday so I was very excited to get home from work to get his letter, only to be saddened that my mail box was empty. The one thing I’ve learned from this new experience is patience. Hopefully something arrives today!  The good thing is I got his address and immediately sent out a card with a short note. I use SENDOUTCARDS. So easy!  I will be using SANDBOXX for my longer letters. My sons PIR is 11/30. I can’t wait to give him the biggest hug!

Added by Bluemama2 on October 19, 2018 at 12:26pm — 6 Comments

Daughter-in-law in Japan pregnant and son on deployment

Looking for advice for my daughter-in-law.   She is about 6 weeks pregnant and has polycystic ovary syndrome .  She is spotting and may have a miscarriage.  She is all alone there.  They just arrived in September.  My son left on deployment and will be back early December.  She is so stressed and I want to help her but feel helpless.   She is an optometrist from the Phillipines and made friends with a Phillipino spouse; but doesn't want to bother them all the time because they both work and…


Added by Sheryl30 on October 19, 2018 at 12:05pm — 1 Comment

Missing my SR

I am having a hard night missing my boy. My heart hurts like nothing I have ever felt before. I know he is there but the no contact is killing me! I just want to hear him say he is okay! His pir is nov 21st.

Added by Mary on October 17, 2018 at 10:49pm — 5 Comments

He's In The Navy Now

Reading over the information from this site I had an epiphany.  An epiphany that caused tears to flow.  (I didn't think I had any more tears left.)

My son is in the Navy now and the Navy has my son.  I could go up to the base and ask to see my son.  I would be kindly yet firmly turned away even though MY son is behind that gate somewhere. The epiphany that I will be able to see my son at the invitation of the United States Navy and AFTER a background check.  OK...that makes me laugh.…


Added by USNMOM4LIFE on October 17, 2018 at 5:49pm — No Comments

Oct 3

No letter yet! Went in for Operation Spec. Miss my daughter.

Added by Jte1 on October 16, 2018 at 12:50pm — 2 Comments

Looking for division 016 mom's my daughter graduation is November 16

Looking for division 016 families

Added by Dorene on October 14, 2018 at 10:15pm — 2 Comments


I’m so happy today I got a letter in the mail from my recruit!! I sent out two letters today hopefully he gets them soon! 5 weeks left till I see him!!!

Added by NavyGfJackie on October 9, 2018 at 8:06pm — 7 Comments

Div 405

Has anyone recieved the I'm a sailor call from Div 405?

Added by Karla on October 8, 2018 at 8:29pm — 3 Comments


What and when is PIR for those starting Bootcamp Oct 3

Added by Jte1 on October 8, 2018 at 6:56pm — 1 Comment

What is Command Sponsorship and why is it so vital? (aka going to Japan)


New regulation allows accompanied orders for E-3 and above!  Used to be cut off at E-4 and above.  Command sponsorship is still required, and the location must authorize dependents. (If I missed any changes in the body of the blog, please let me know so I can make edits).…


Added by Anti M on October 7, 2018 at 11:36am — 21 Comments

When will I see him?

Will graduation day be the first time we see our recruits or do we get to see them a day before graduation? And also after graduation how long can we be with them? 

Added by NavyGfJackie on October 7, 2018 at 1:19am — 1 Comment


We are struggling with a death in the family while our recruit is in boot camp. She is in division 949.

Added by Jackie on October 7, 2018 at 12:20am — 3 Comments

Baseline failure question

My daughter shipped out camp last week. She called today with a very formal short scripted conversation. She said that she had filled baseline for the second time. She was talking so fast I could not understand the second part of the conversation. Does anyone know what that means? Will they send her home or will she stay for an extended period in Boot Camp?

Added by Cindy on October 5, 2018 at 8:16pm — 3 Comments

Navy Mom Blues

My son left for boot camp 2 October 2018.  I knew when he left he would be a different person when I saw him again.  More confident, more self assured, a life purpose, new life skills.  Underneath it is a mom's fear he will not need me anymore.  I am 53 and still want my mom so my fears are unfounded, but I'm still feeling them.  We also may be mourning the loss of our baby who is going to transition into a functioning, contributing member of society adult.

Thinking today, my 31 year…


Added by USNMOM4LIFE on October 4, 2018 at 6:03pm — 9 Comments

First letter for my recruit!

Quick question am I allowed to send him a picture? I have a small picture printed kind of like a Polaroid and it probably about the same size but on mine I can peel the back part and the picture becomes a sticker. I was wondering if I could stick a picture in his letter like on the paper? 

Added by NavyGfJackie on October 3, 2018 at 1:55am — 3 Comments


Hi, so I just received my recruits formal letter and on it he enlisted someone who is not able to go, because his name is in pencil can we just erase their name and place someone else’s? Or do we just leave the information blank and send it back?

Added by NavyGfJackie on October 1, 2018 at 11:11pm — 1 Comment

Navy Moms

Good afternoon Navy Mom's I hoping that with all the wonderful wisdom that is traveling through this site someone could tell me do we get discounts on plain tickents due to our children are enlisted in the military ?

Added by Sailormom96 on September 28, 2018 at 3:39pm — 5 Comments

Why is this so hard

Hi everyone can anyone help me understand why this is so hard my son leaves in two weeks and I'm a mess again just when I think I have my emotions in check something throws it out of wack my son is 24 he has not lived with us for several years so you think I would be use to him being grown up but this is so different , My Co workers say that I'm acting like he's never coming back I know they don't understand but it makes think am I acting like that and why please any help would be appreciated

Added by Sailormom96 on September 26, 2018 at 2:26pm — 14 Comments

My recruit left on September 18th

Hello my recruit left on September 18, 2018 and I know they mail all his stuff and phone back, but someone told me that once we get the box with his things, in 3 weeks we can send it back. Is this true? Will he be able to message us and call us normally? 

Added by NavyGfJackie on September 22, 2018 at 1:30am — 13 Comments

Thank You

Happy Friday ,I just wanted to say Thank You to all the wonderful mom's on this site for taking time to explain and help talk us through this experience before I found this site I was a mess I cried everyday my husband thought I was having a break down I thought so too but thanks to this site I know I'm normal and that I'm not alone on this rollercoaster of emotions so thank you again your all so Awesome

Added by Sailormom96 on September 21, 2018 at 8:31am — 2 Comments

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