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Letter Writing & Fun Stuff/Questionnaires to send to your Recruit

The correct format for the address is:


(No, you do not need to use all capital letters even though your recruit will. It does make the address easier to be read though.)


SR stands for Seaman Recruit. All recruits are addressed as SR or Recruit at boot camp even if they are being paid at a higher rate or will later be referred to as Fireman, Airman, or Constructionman (Recruit or Apprentice).

Your recruit will mail the form letter, which will include the address, to you on day P-4 or P-5. (You can find a copy of the current form letter in the Page, The Form Letter. The brochure that is included from MWRGL about hotels and other things is at RTC Friends and Family Brochure July 2017 rev.pdf.) The average time to receive the form letter for those with a recruit in a regular division is 10 days after arrival. (Those with a recruit in an 800 division often receive the form letter while their recruit is still in P-days because 800 divisions form upon arrival and the recruits send the form letter soon after sending "the box" so the form letter and "the box" may arrive on the same day or within a day of each other. See 800 and 900 Divisions.)

It is best to wait for the form letter before mailing letters to your recruit, but if you do get an address from your recruit's recruiter, double-check the address the recruiter gave you against those at Recruiters sometimes give a generic address for the RTC and if the street address is not correct, then mail can be delayed for up to 3 weeks. Common addresses that recruiters have given for all ships have been the address for Ship 02 or Ship 07 or Ship 12 or Ship 14.

Sometimes the recruiter will give you the Ship name or a building number instead of, or as well as, the Ship number, use the Ship number found within the Page, Ship/Division--How it Works. You do not need to include the Ship name, but if your recruit uses it when writing letters, then do include it when addressing your letters. Some include “Recruit Training Command” or “RTC” under the Ship and Division, but this is not needed and leaving it out will not delay letters to your recruit even though it does indicate it on the form letter. If the recruiter indicates a 4-digit division number, either he has confused the building number with the division number (Ship 09 Div 7116) or the recruit is in holding for some reason (RCU-Ship 04 Div 2341, FIT-Ship 04 Div 2347 or 2344...).

When recruiters actually do have the correct information, they sometimes give extra information that you do not need in the address, although some of it is interesting or nice to know. "Ship 11 USS Kearsarge (LHD-3) 7114 Compartment F-01; Division R2011124M" is an actual address received from a recruiter by a mom on the site in 2011. The important info in there was Ship 11 Division 124. The recruit was on Ship 11, which is the USS Kearsarge (its Naval Vessel Index number is LHD-3), Building 7114, Compartment F-01, Division 124 (a Male division that would have PIR in the 2011 Navy fiscal year; I don't know what the "R" refers to.) An "I" after the Division number indicates it is an integrated division and includes both males and females. An "F" behind it would indicate that is an all female division--rare, but Division 317 in 2012 was an all female division and beginning in the summer of 2013 there was one all female division in each TG for a short time until the practice was discontinued. Compartment numbers are a letter (A through F) followed by a 2-digit number (01 or 02)--A-01, B-02, and F-01 for example. There are 12 or 16 compartments in each ship, so a ship can house up to 12 or 16 divisions at one time depending on the ship. (See Ship/Division--How it Works.)

This address was provided by a recruiter and includes both too much info and incorrect info: 3410 Sailor Drive, 02 USS Reuben James (FFG-57) 7105, Division T 2016 951, Compartment B-1, Great Lakes, IL 60088-3510. The address is not in the correct order and the address given is for Ship 14 rather than Ship 2. I don't know what the "T" stands for either. The important info from that address is that the recruit is in Ship 2 Division 951 in a TG that began training in the 2016 Navy fiscal year. The correct address can be found in Ship/Division--How it Works and 800 and 900 Divisions.

Know that letters mailed before you get the form letter do not get to your recruit much quicker, if at all, than letters mailed after receiving the form letter because the recruits cannot receive mail until they are in their permanent ship and a Recruit Mail Petty Officer has been trained in how to handle mail, which means it is usually sometime in the third week or later (1-3 or 1-4 DOT) when they start receiving mail depending on when P-days ended and the division formed. (We are hearing that many recruits had one Mail Call without mail when their loved ones waited on the form letter. Some have sent one letter a week after arrival after checking the address and then waited on the form letter to mail additional letters to reduce the chance of no mail at the first Mail Call. If you do this, do not include photos or phone cards or anything other than a letter or card since the letter may get rerouted if your recruit changes divisions and/or ships.) Recruits can start writing letters the first Sunday they are in their Ship. This is sometimes, rarely, the first Sunday after they arrive, but is often not until the second Sunday, which is why that first real letter often does not arrive until your recruit has been gone nearly 3 weeks. (The Red Book actually indicates that the first holiday routine cannot be before the second Sunday after arrival, but their have been early letters a few times.) For some recruits who arrive on Thursday or Friday and have to remain in P-days while waiting for additional recruits to arrive the following Monday or Tuesday to fill the division, it could be the third Sunday before they get to write. (You will soon learn when mail day is for you. Most of my letters came on Wednesday in Missouri, but your mail day may be before or after that depending on how far you are from the RTC.) At first recruits are only permitted to write during holiday routine on Sunday and later they may be able to write on one or two other days as well (often Tuesday and Thursday) and some Divisions may earn the privilege of writing every day if they are doing really well or if the RDC feels that providing that privilege will boost morale. Some RDCs permit them to mail letters only on Sunday afternoon with mail going out Monday morning even when they can write on other days and others permit them to mail letters on the day they are written with mail going out the next morning. (The letters written during holiday routine or other times are collected in a bag by the RMPO and then mailed on Monday morning.) It is up to the RDC and there does not seem to be a "norm" for this. Once your recruit can receive mail, Mail Call is every weekday evening (M-F). All mail received at the RTC is distributed on the day it is received to the recruits in their compartments that evening sometime prior to Taps. The RDC is not permitted to withhold mail as a punishment because that would be a federal offense, so your recruit will receive mail from you on the day that it is processed at the RTC. (See for more on how mail is processed.)

As of June 2013, some recruits have been able to mail personal letters while still in P-days. The address on those letters was not the permanent address and if you receive a letter that your recruit indicates was written during P-days, do not send letters to the address on the letter; wait for the form letter.

Here is how things went for a recruit in an integrated division in February 2013. The recruit arrived on Wednesday and there were not enough recruits to fill the division--other recruits in the division arrived Thursday, Friday, and Monday. Thursday: P-1, Friday: P-2, Saturday: P-Hold, Sunday: P-Hold, Monday: P-3 ("the box" received by the family; New recruits arrived that night who would fill the division), Tuesday: P-4 (P-1 for others in the division), Wednesday: P-5 (form letter mailed) (P-2 for others in the division), Thursday: P-Hold to wait for others (P-3 for others in the division; "the box" received by another family in the division whose recruit arrived on Monday), Friday: P-Hold to wait for others (P-4 for others in the division), Saturday: P-Hold (form letter received by family), Sunday: P-Hold, Monday (federal holiday) P-Hold, Tuesday: P-Hold to wait for others (P-5 for others in the division-form letter mailed), Wednesday: 1-1, Thursday: 1-2, Friday 1-3 (form letter received by another family in the division whose recruit had arrived on Monday of the previous week), Saturday: Hold, Sunday: Hold with Holiday Routine (the first opportunity to write for all in the division), Monday: 1-4 (division mailed letters; division received mail for first time that evening at Mail Call), Tuesday: 1-5, Wednesday: 2-1 (first "real" letter received by family--others with loved ones in the division received mail on that day or later in the week)... This recruit was in a Push Division. As you can see, this recruit did not receive letters mailed before the family received the form letter any faster than the letters mailed after receiving the form letter. Some in the division who were the last to fill this division may have received their first letters on the second mail call rather than the first one depending on how soon family members mailed letters after getting the form letter. This recruit had to wait for the third Sunday to write, but it was the second Sunday for others in the division, and no one in the division had received mail prior to writing their first "real" letter. Recruits who arrive on a Monday or Tuesday or those who had to wait for recruits to arrive on a Monday or Tuesday to fill the division may have Mail Call before having Holiday Routine for the first time, more so now that there are 4 regular P-days than in the past when there appeared to be 5.

Start writing as soon as your recruit leaves even though you don’t have an address and number the letters on the outside. Write often. The recruits look forward to Mail Call and letters and cards are a precious treasure. Letters and pictures often get passed around especially if there are some who do not get letters. You may want to include a brief letter or two in your envelope to be given to a shipmate who has not gotten any mail. Recruits can receive photos that are in good taste (the recruit must show all photos to the RDC), but to save space, you can print the pictures on computer paper and write your letter around them either by hand or on the computer. Use both sides of the paper if you have a lot to send. Do not send musical or recordable cards, or cards/letters with glitter that comes off, or confetti, or anything that will be messy or draw undo attention to your recruit. (Glitter and confetti are difficult to clean up and even one speck would be considered "gear adrift" and result in a "hit" on an inspection.) Some RDC’s do not permit newspaper or magazine clippings and others do. (One reason that RDC' s do not permit newspaper or magazine clippings is that the ink may transfer to your recruit's hands and then to clothing and/or objects within the compartment.) If you want to send articles (such as information on your recruit's favorite sports team), then copy the information either on the computer or a copy machine and then write your letter around it by hand or on the computer. Printing or writing your letter on both sides of the paper will reduce the number of pages. Write about anything and everything except things that will distress your recruit. It’s fine to let your recruit know that you miss him/her, but always follow it with how proud you are of him/her and how much you are looking forward to seeing him/her in his/her dress whites or dress blues at PIR as a US Navy Sailor. (GL changes over to dress blues the first full week of October and to dress whites the first full week of May. The command determines the switch over date and it could change from that if the need arose.) Be creative; send letters written as though they are from the baby or pet (one sister let her recruit's hamster chew a corner of a letter written as if from it and added hamster tracks on the page; others have sent a page of "woof, woof, woof..." and signed  or have sent "meow, meow, purrr...." and signed ); include drawings and pictures (you may want to print them within your letter to save room); tell about your day, even hearing about a trip to the store could be wonderful for your recruit; include puzzles if your recruit enjoys those; add jokes; include information about your recruit's favorite television program (you may be able to find short recaps online) and things that are happening in the world that would be of interest to him/her as long as they are not distressing. The group, Letter-Writing Navy Moms also has suggestions for things to write. Be sure to ask your recruit to let his/her shipmates know about and your PIR group so that they can let their loved ones know because not everyone finds the site and there is so much information and support for everyone here and it is sad if they miss out on it.

Get others involved. Give your recruit's address to his family and friends so that they can write. Some people, including recruiters, post the address on the recruit's facebook, but it is better to share it in a private message. One mother hosted a writing party in her home for her recruit's friends and she has also had an event on facebook so people could send her notes of encouragement to print out and mail to her recruit. I wrote out my recruit's address on Post-Its and put them inside blank greeting cards inside envelopes that I had already addressed and stamped. I gave them to people when they asked for his address and they could remove the Post-It to have his address and jot a quick note at the time that was ready to mail. Children love to write and send pictures they have drawn and they are fun for the recruit, so get a school class or Sunday School class involved. Be sure that everyone understands what is acceptable and what is not and also let them know how your recruit wants to handle bad news just in case that situation arises.

Ask your recruit for the names of any shipmates who are not receiving mail. There are some recruits who do not have any family to write them letters and mail from you or others will mean so much to them. If there are several names, you can share the names in a PM to others in your PIR group. Some have shared the names with a Sunday School class or Scout troop or class at school--letters and pictures from children are usually fun for anyone to get. You can include an extra letter in the envelope with your letters for someone who doesn't have a letter. Letters mailed to "Any Recruit" will be destroyed or returned to the sender and will not be delivered because of federal mail regulations. Letters must be addressed to a particular recruit in order to be delivered. One mom wrote 2 letters each day addressed to her recruit and she put a star in the corner of one; this was her signal to her recruit that he could give the letter unopened to a shipmate who did not receive a letter at Mail Call. A few of the recipients wrote her back and then she was able to write to them directly, but she continued with the "star" letters until the end of BC. We are all part of the Navy family and family helps family. If you are able to adopt a Sailor for PIR weekend who does not have anyone coming that would be great. (See PIR Day and Liberty During PIR Weekend.)

Sending cards and letters in colored envelopes does not usually cause a problem for the recruits. Some (not all) RDC’s will give IT (Intensive Training—extra exercises) for colored envelopes and stickers on the outside of envelopes and others don’t care. If the division or your recruit needs extra help to be ready for the PFA, then the RDC is going to look for every opportunity to give IT so that everyone makes it to PIR. If your recruit indicates that you should write in a particular color of ink or tells you not to send something, then pay attention and let others who are writing him/her (and those in your PIR group as well) know. Do avoid using red ink when you write; there is a red light on at night and if your recruit decides to read a letter before going to sleep (even though they aren’t supposed to), s/he will have difficulty reading red ink. You want to avoid sending anything that will require extra postage because that is a red flag and your recruit may have to open the letter/card in front of the RDC. If you have more than 4 pages in your letter, have a postal clerk weigh the envelope. *If you will be sending lots of pages (such as when a class writes to a recruit/division), have a postal clerk help you determine the maximum number of pages you can send using the paper and envelope you plan to use. One ounce goes for the standard postage rate, so you may be able to send more pages with a lower quality of paper than if you use a high quality paper. What happens after the recruit opens mail in front of the RDC all depends on the RDC and his/her mood at the time and how well the recruit/division is doing at the time. Although post cards are permitted and will save you postage, be aware that post cards are often read aloud, so some put post cards in an envelope and treat them as a greeting card instead.

*When you send cards or letters for the whole division, it is fine to send them in a manila envelope. You must address the envelope to your recruit because all mail must be addressed to a particular recruit. Write "Letters/Cards for Division XXX" in the corner of the envelope so the RDC is aware of the contents and is less likely to give your recruit IT. Know that your recruit will have to open the envelope in front of the RDC, but there is usually not a problem when a recruit receives cards and letters from a class if they follow the guidelines given above, especially if there are enough for the entire division--if in doubt about the number, include 95. (Some loved ones choose to send a few letters at a time in a regular envelope rather than sending many at one time if the letters are for a single recruit.)

Don't freak out if your recruit uses a slightly different address than the one in the form letter, but the Ship and Division numbers are the same. If you use the address your recruit uses in the return address your letters will get to him/her a little faster since the +4 is more specific. Letters mailed to either address will get to your recruit.

When there are renovations at the RTC one or more divisions and their brother divisions sometimes get moved and the Ship number and street address changes. Don’t worry the RMPO for the division and the mail room are aware of the move and any mail sent to the old address will be forwarded. Use the new address as soon as you have it. Some have been concerned that the change in ship numbers will affect the PIR date, but it does not. As long as the division number is the same, the PIR date will remain the same. For dates in September 2017 you can check the PIR date at

 Some loved ones include self-addressed stamped envelopes for their recruits to use for letters to them. This does save their recruits some time, but then they miss out on receiving the envelopes with the RTC logo on them. Also, some recruits never use the envelopes that are sent to them, so that is a waste of the postage. If you want to save your recruit the time it takes to address letters, then send address labels and you can also send a book of stamps (your recruit can get them at the RTC though). There are two times that it is good to send preaddressed stamped envelopes. They are when sending a questionnaire, such as BCQuestionnaire, to get the PIR info when no form letter has been received and if the recruit has family or friends in another country because those letters will require additional postage and the recruit might not know how much is needed or may not have the correct amount of postage. You do not need to send paper and/or envelopes to your recruit unless s/he requests them. RTC stationery is available for the recruits.

 Do not send packages or envelopes of any kind that require more than standard postage. Those would have to be opened in front of the RDC and your recruit may not be permitted to keep the contents and may also receive IT or other consequences. Save any "Care Packages", especially those containing food, for "A" School or training after BC. The RTC indicates the following in "Because space is limited in the barracks, recruits may receive letters and small photographs only. Please do not send your recruit packages of civilian clothing, toiletries, food items, etc. as they will not be permitted to keep them."

The exception is that about 3 to 4 weeks before PIR you can send contacts and a small amount of solution. Writing "Contacts for PIR" in the corner of the small box or padded envelope is useful, but not necessary since your recruit will have to open the package in front of the RDC. You can also send a small amount of make-up for the females that will "blend with natural skin tone and enhance natural features." The most often requested items are a small amount of foundation (some have specified the cake type) or face powder, 1 blush, 1 eye shadow in a neutral shade, 1 mascara (black or brown), 1 eyebrow/eyeliner pencil (black or brown), 1 lipstick in a conservative color, and 1 small hand lotion or face lotion. Females sometimes also get approval to have curling irons or flat irons sent (more often for 900 Divisions though), but do not send one unless your recruit specifically requests it. Most RDC’s allow band aids and strips of mole skin as well as stamps and calling cards and those will fit in a regular envelope and your recruit can also get them at the RTC, but DO NOT send cotton swabs even if your recruit asks you to, which s/he better not. If your recruit requests his/her Bible, then send it. Most regular Bibles will fit in the recruit’s A/B drawer, but a Study Bible is discouraged because it will take up too much room and will not leave room for other things. Some RDC's give permission for the recruits (usually females) to receive travel sized containers of some hygiene products that are not available at the NEX. Some recruits have also gotten permission to have shoe inserts sent, especially if they have had trouble with their feet or have had leg pain. Recruits are able to have watches at the RTC and may ask for one to be sent, especially if they have one of the Recruit Petty Officer Positions. Unless the recruit specifies a specific watch, send an inexpensive plain black water resistant watch. If your recruit makes such a request, it will generally be very specific as to how to send the items and what to send and this will help you to know that you can send it since your recruit will have to open the package in front of the RDC and s/he would not make this request if s/he were going to get IT for it and/or the items were going to be tossed.

You can send a Priority Mail envelope or large manila envelope with postage attached for your recruit to mail back letters to free up space--save postage on both the envelope to mail it and the envelope you are sending and send a manila envelope. Check with the post office on the amount of postage to use. Many fold it up and put it in a card envelope minus the card to keep the postage down or in a regular legal sized envelope, but the envelope would be permitted if the postage was more than regular postage. Some send this in a small manila envelope and mark the outside of the envelope—“Envelope for excess letters.” This will let your recruit know what it is for when s/he has to open the envelope in front of the RDC. Ask your recruit if it is needed because some have plenty of room in their A/B drawers and others don't. Some just like having a gallon-sized zip lock baggy or the large envelope to organize their mail in their A/B drawers.

If you receive a "real" letter without receiving the form letter, don't worry. Determine if there is another person that your recruit would have sent the form letter to and ask to see it. If no one received a form letter, write to your recruit and let him/her know that you never got the form letter and ask if s/he can send out one or just tell you the password and names of the guests s/he plans to put on the Access List. There are times that a form letter is not sent by accident if a recruit was one of the last to fill a division (usually a Push Division or if a recruit was moved from one division to another at the end of P-days) and the form letters were already sent out by the others in the division. Some recruits have not sent the form letter because they had a medical or dental appointment or were being interviewed for security clearance when the form letters were being sent. If you do not get the password, you will need to take a taxi or shuttle to the gate and walk in or park across the street at the Metra parking lot and then walk in. You could send a questionnaire such as the one in BCQuestionnaire.doc. (This is a questionnaire that I prepared for a mom who had not received the form letter, but had received 2 regular letters from her recruit.) (You can find a copy of the current form letter in the Page, The Form Letter. The brochure that is included from MWRGL about hotels and other things is at RTC Friends and Family Brochure July 2017 rev.pdf.) It is very important that you let your recruit know if no form letter is received because you need to send back the security form that comes with The Form Letter in order to obtain the tickets for PIR.

If your recruit will spend Christmas or another special day at the RTC, here is a post from another Navy mom on "Christmas at boot camp" that you may like:
"Actually there IS a way to send a Christmas 'gift' to them while they are in boot camp over Christmas, without them getting in trouble.. My son was in boot camp during Christmas, and this is what I did.
I knew that after they pass Battlestations they frequently get to go to what's called 'ricky heaven' which is the area by the NEX that has video games and fast food outlets like Taco Bell, McDonalds, & Pizza hut. And so I got a couple of gift cards from the fast food locations and put the cards and a $10 bill in a money-gift envelope (the ones the size of a bill). I wrote on the outside of the small envelope 'Ricky Heaven Kit'. Then I wrapped that envelope using regular Christmas wrapping paper. Then I put the wrapped gift inside a regular Christmas card and sent it. This way, the envelope arrives and is no different than a regular card they might receive in the mail, and yet there is still a wrapped 'present' inside for him to be able to open and still have a little bit of Christmas while in boot camp.
He liked it and his RDCs had no problems with this. And it was a gift that he was actually able to use at the end of bootcamp. So it worked out pretty well. And then when we saw him at PIR we had our regular Christmas gifts for him."

(You can go to to get a NEX gift card if you have a DOD number and register with the site. The restaurants at the RTC are KFC, Pizza Hut, Subway, and Taco Bell. A Visa or Mastercard gift card would be accepted at all of these places, but the restaurants at the RTC do not accept gift cards from the chains--those cards would have to be used after the Sailor leaves the RTC. Also remember, if the card/letter requires extra postage or appears bulky, your recruit will have to open it in front of the RDC. Your recruit will have access to his/her pay while at the RTC, so s/he does not need you to send money, but this is a nice idea if you want to do it, especially for a Christmas or birthday gift. Note that not all recruits or new Sailors will get to enjoy Ricky Heaven.) 
If your recruit has a birthday at the RTC, be sure that any cards that are sent don't contain any glitter that will come off and are not musical or talking cards. Some RDC's make birthdays "memorable" for the recruit, so you may want to send general cards that don't advertise the birthday (let friends and relatives know that as well) and save the celebration for after PIR. Although the RDC's have access to each recruit's DOB, they don't always check it out unless something draws their attention to it and there have been recruits who managed to get through BC without their birthday being recognized by anyone there. The birthday will be most noticeable to the RDC without outside influence for those that turn 20 or 25 or 30 since those ages have different requirements for the PFA than the age before. My Sailor has not said what happened to others in his division who had birthdays at BC, but he has indicated that he was glad that he had his birthday before arriving at the RTC. You can send the same "Ricky Heaven" gift that some have sent for Christmas. If you choose to wrap it, wrap it in plain tissue paper that does not advertise the birthday openly. Some RDC's say, "Happy Birthday, Recruit!" and/or allow the recruit some small privilege, but don't count on that happening. 
Use the post mark on letters from your recruit to help you determine when to mail your last letter. You will want to time it so the last letter arrives on Wednesday or Thursday before PIR. Most mail the last letter on the Friday or Saturday before PIR, but if you live close to the RTC, you may mail your last letter on Monday. (If PIR is on a day other than Friday, mail your last letter 6 or 7 days before PIR.) Mail received after your Sailor has processed out of the RTC will be returned to the sender. Some mail has been forwarded in the past, which could take several weeks to reach the Sailor, but that does not happen often now.
Here is a link for a Sailor's take on receiving mail during boot camp, This Sailor had a longer time in P-days due to the holidays, but the information is good and gives an idea of how mail works at the RTC and what loved ones should and should not send. He indicated that there was no Mail Call on Monday, but others have indicated that there was Mail Call on Monday.
App to assist with writing letters: Sandboxx - Military App is an App that can assist with communicating with and sending pictures from your phone to your recruit and later Sailor when s/he is "off the grid" and only able to receive physical mail. Using the App, you can send pics in a note that includes a postage paid addressed envelope for your recruit or Sailor to write back. The cost is $2.33 to $3 per letter depending on how you choose to use the App. (See to learn more and/or to download the App.)
 : Project Write2Them turns emails into letters from home. Multiple people can be added to the account. This would work for someone who is in another country and wants to send letters to their recruit without involving a family member in the process since letters take so long to arrive from other countries (10 to 14 days from France or England and longer from some countries) and the cost would be less than mailing a letter from outside of the US. The cost for unlimited emails is $8.00 per week or $30.00 per month or $12.00 for 10 letters. See for more information.

Here are some links to some fun things you can include in your letters.



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Need some postive one liners to send to recruit.

Some like to use questionnaires to help their recruits with letter writing and get the information they need, sometimes in a fun way. Here are some that are posted within the N4M site. They are in no particular order, just how I found them. Some will need to be revised because they include outdated terms such as "Grad and Go", but they still have good questions. Please feel free to post other questionnaires you have found or have created. (I sometimes have to refresh the page once it loads for it to go to the particular comment/reply that includes the questionnaire.)

MadLibs for BC and A-School (There are more in the replies to this discussion as well.)

Questionnaires (There are more in the replies as well.)

Other%20SRs%20General%20Questionnaire%20for%20N4M.rtf (You can send these to recruits who are not receiving mail. You may want to change Huzzah! to Hooyah!) Thanks, BridgetteH, for this.

There may also be a Page or Discussion within your PIR group with other links.

The above information is provided by lemonelephant, the mom of a retired Sailor.

Updated 09/07/2017


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Comment by lemonelephant on August 13, 2017 at 8:45pm

oklahomatarhelmom, some mail all of the letters individually at one time and others mail them a few at a time over several days. That is up to you. Don't mail in a manila envelope since the envelope would have to be opened in front of the RDC.

Comment by oklahomatarheelmom on August 13, 2017 at 8:37pm

Any advice will be appreciated. I am sure this is a stupid question and is likely covered here already somewhere, but I haven't been able to find the answer after searching for a long time. My daughter left for BC last week, and I have been writing letters every day.  I will mail one as soon as I get an address from the recruiter and wait to mail all others after getting the form letter. Should I mail the stack of letters individually at one time, an extra letter a day, or a manila envelope of all of them? I understand a manila envelope will grab extra attention, which I definitely do not want to do. That leaves mailing them all as individual envelopes on one day or an extra one a day. What works best for her?

Comment by lemonelephant on July 27, 2017 at 1:47pm

Tffytat, that is a great idea about the post cards.

Comment by Tffytat on July 27, 2017 at 12:08pm

Thank you Peachy Navy Mom!

I am so excited to have the address for my SR. Prior to him leaving for BC, we hosted a gathering of close family and friends. I had postcards designed with writing space on the front for guests to write words of encouragement for our SR which I plan to send a few at a time every few days to keep him encouraged.

Many blessings to everyone!

Comment by Peachy Navy Mom on July 20, 2017 at 1:30pm

Tffytat, I used Write to Them and loved it.  I think my sailor got his letters faster because I live in the south and everyone else was talking about how long it took for their sailors to get their letters when mine already had his.  Also, you can do it from anywhere since you're just sending an email.  I would do it at work when I was missing him.  I would do it riding in the car.  You can attach pictures and they will print them out.  You can also add people to your account and you can see who is sending and when they send so you can coordinate efforts.  I can't say enough about it and I think it was definitely worth the minimal cost.

Comment by lemonelephant on July 20, 2017 at 3:19am

Tffytat, you are very welcome.

Comment by Tffytat on July 20, 2017 at 3:02am

Thank you @lemonelephant

Comment by lemonelephant on July 20, 2017 at 2:24am

Tffytat, a while back several used it and liked it. I recommend it for those who live outside the US. Honestly though, save your money and send letters yourself.

Comment by Tffytat on July 19, 2017 at 1:37pm

Has anyone used Project Write to Them? I think it looks like a pretty nice idea. I'd love to hear any pros, cons or experiences.

Thanks in advance.

Comment by lemonelephant on February 26, 2017 at 8:56pm

1) Yes, he will be able to send "the box" and The Form Letter to you. There is FedEx delivery in Canada, so "the box" will arrive that way. The Form Letter will arrive in the mail.

2) Yes, any mail in a 7x10 manila envelope will have to be opened in front of the RDC. Why can't you send letters in a regular envelope using the standard postage for sending a letter between the countries? You may want to consider using Project Write2Them.

Comment by Kayzer on February 26, 2017 at 4:58pm

Hello. I had 2 questions that I'm hoping one of you will have the answers for :)

1.) My fiance just got to basic last week and told me he'd be sending me his box and form letter. I live in Canada though so will he be able to send me these things?

2.) The letters I send him will be from Canada, using Canada Post and then USPS and will cost more than $.49 cents to ship - They'll also be in 7x10 manila envelopes to be safe when traveling - is this going to be an issue for the RDC's?

Thanks so much

Comment by lemonelephant on February 13, 2017 at 11:15pm

blackbirdmom, yes, you can send postcards, but realize that postcards often get read aloud and the recruit may have to wait to rad mail while that is happening.

Comment by blackbirdmom on February 13, 2017 at 5:33pm

Can I send a postcard? The picture is one of our SR's hometown. 

Comment by lemonelephant on January 30, 2017 at 3:13pm
m.nova, anything over one ounce will have to be opened in front of the RDC.
Comment by m.nova on January 30, 2017 at 2:24pm
When I finally got the form letter on Saturday, I actually went straight to the post office after addressing the envelopes and two of the envelopes ended up being a little over an ounce and needed the 70 cent stamps. Are those still considered "standard" postage? I just don't want him to get into trouble :/
Comment by lemonelephant on January 7, 2017 at 8:51pm

Peachy Navy Mom, thanks for sharing about Write2Them.

Comment by Peachy Navy Mom on January 7, 2017 at 3:43pm

I have been using the Write2Them service and it is great. I was able to add several family members very easily and it's so easy to use that it is the only way I send letters. You can include pictures too. I get a notice every night that my letter has been processed and my SR said that those letters were the first ones he got. I can see a report of who has sent him letters when. My family loves it too because it's so easy to just send an email.

Comment by lemonelephant on December 20, 2016 at 12:23am


Comment by ArmyBrat&NavyGirlfriend on December 19, 2016 at 8:27pm

Ok that makes me feel better. Though he did fail his first PT test by 2 pushups so its possible he may be on that list for needing extra help >_< but I guess it won't kill him. I'm just hoping there wasn't glitter on the card. I don't think there was. I think I avoided the glittery ones because he vehemently hates the stuff

Comment by lemonelephant on December 19, 2016 at 7:13pm

At this time of year there will be many colored envelopes and the RDC's usually won't give IT for them. Then again if your recruit needs extra "help" then that could be an excuse to give it.

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