This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.



Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor.  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

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Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

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OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors


Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 3752
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I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum


Started by rachmo4. Last reply by sailorgirlfriend Apr 24. 16 Replies

Hi all, My boyfriend just left for boot camp yesterday and I feel very lost. We have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months now but we have been best friends for 3 years. I am so proud of him but I am so hurt by not being able to talk…Continue

A School Care Packages

Started by Annag17. Last reply by Thinton88 Apr 23. 1 Reply

Hi there! My boyfriend is about to graduate from boot camp this Friday, then goes on to A School the next day. Once I get his new address, I want to send him a care package. Does anyone have any good ideas for what to send him? I know that he can't…Continue

Boot camp

Started by sydney. Last reply by sailorgirlfriend Apr 18. 27 Replies

Hey guys, my name is Sydney :) my boyfriend just left for boot camp on Tuesday 03/27. So far this is the hardest thing ever! Any tips or a guideline to expect? Thank you:))

Marriage During Nuke School

Started by X'sNukeGF. Last reply by Anti M Apr 15. 5 Replies

My sailor wants to make an informed decision so that he can plan his marriage to me. I was hoping for some information about marriage during the Nuke program in Goose Creek, South Carolina. How does the special request chit process work? What are…Continue


Started by rachmo4. Last reply by Anti M Apr 11. 3 Replies

Hello! I have started writing letters since my boyfriend left for boot-camp. Once I receive his address, should I send them all at once or a couple at a time?? I didn't know if it would delay the delivery if I sent a bunch at one time. Continue

Boot camp

Started by Tayloralexx8. Last reply by B'sNukeMoM⚓️MMN Apr 5. 3 Replies

Hi guys my name is Taylor, my fiancé just left for boot camp last Thursday the 29th! I am patiently waiting for information, and I am so excited I found this group (:

Communication on Carrier Deployments

Started by Alex. Last reply by Michael kuykendall Mar 31. 9 Replies

Hey guys! My name is Alexandria but feel free to call me Alex. Basically, my boyfriend just found out he’s probably going to be deployed to a carrier in August. On the bright side, he comes home for a week in July before he goes. On the…Continue

Graduation Gifts

Started by Annag17. Last reply by Gabby7595 Mar 31. 8 Replies

Hi there,First, my boyfriend graduates from boot camp on April 27th. The next day, he goes to "A" school in South Carolina. Can I get him a graduation gift? I'm not sure if he's allowed to take things to "A" school with him, so I'm wondering how…Continue

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On Base Housing

Started by BabyFox. Last reply by RebeccaProudWife Mar 25. 4 Replies

Looking for some advice from lovely ladies who have been through the housing process before... My husband and I are moving to our first duty station at the end of May. We submitted our housing application already and we are aware that the waitlist…Continue

Mail Call

Started by Annag17. Last reply by Anti M Mar 19. 1 Reply

Does anyone know how mail call works? My letter was delivered to GL Saturday morning at 10 am. Will my recruit most likely have received the letter that same night, or is tonight a better guess?Continue

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Comment by Allison on May 17, 2018 at 8:03pm

It is especially busy in the spring and summer as well, so I wouldn’t be surprised if his division is still waiting to even have that briefing and send out those letters. 

Comment by Allison on May 17, 2018 at 8:02pm

cm1999 it’s not surprising that it hasn’t come yet. They can spend a week or more in P-Days (processing), and then the mail takes a few days to be sorted, sent out, and arrive at your house. Give it another week or so, and I’m sure you’ll hear something. There’s nothing else you can do except know that as long as you’re on the list, you will have a ticket to graduation. 

Comment by cm1999 on May 17, 2018 at 7:09pm

Hi everyone! My boyfriend arrived on May 3rd, and I still haven't received any word about what division he is in or received his form letter. He said he would send those things to me directly since I'm going to be the only one attending PIR, and I'm just worried that I haven't gotten anything from him. I even called his family, and they received his box, but nothing else. What should I do? Thanks!

Comment by Anti M on May 17, 2018 at 4:00pm

The boot camp group will have info, and a PIR group for that division.

Comment by Iris on May 16, 2018 at 9:58pm

How I can get more information about div248?

Comment by Allison on May 2, 2018 at 7:04am

Welcome Iris! The first week or so of bootcamp is spent in P-Days, which is in processing. He’ll get everything he needs, PT gear, stationary, stamps, basic toiletries, a lock for his drawer, a backpack, even underwear and socks. They’ll also go through medical, get the bootcamp glasses if they wear glasses or need them, another physical, vaccinations, all that fun stuff. They label all their items and learn how to fold them. If he’s lucky, the next week he moved to his “ship,” which is his barracks, and they’ll PT every day, start swimming, start going to some classes, go to uniform issue where they get their NWUs (the blue camo, although theyll start issuing the green as soon as they run out of blue as everyone has to switch by next fall), they’ll startgetting and completing all the benefits information, and they’ll have their first test the next week. Bootcamp days are PACKED full. Days usually start at 0600, excluding “hell week” which usually starts earlier, and end around 2200 and they’re always doing something, even if it’s just waiting in long lines lol. In the coming weeks, he’ll have two more tests, at least 2 more official PRTs (fitness assessments), he’ll learn to shoot and fight fires, regular inspections of his compartment (the room the recruits stay in), his rack (bed), and his uniforms. They’ll also learn about tying knots, aircraft and ship identification, military code of conduct and laws (UCMJ), and so much more. If you’d like to learn more while he’s away, the Blue Jacket Manual is the book issued to each sailor in bootcamp, and it’s everything they’ll be learning about. It’s usually very cheap at a used bookstore, or you can find it on amazon, as it is available to the public for purchase, unlike other textbooks they use in bootcamp. 

Recruits can only write and send letters on sundays, though many still choose to write in secret after taps, they can still only mail their letters on sundays. Depending where you live, it could take 3-5 days for the letter to get to you, if you live in the continental US. Recruits are only guaranteed 2 phone calls, one when they arrive at Great Lakes, and one to let their families know they’ve passed their final assessment, Battle Stations 21, it’s often referred to as the “I am a sailor” call. Some divisions get an additional phone call about halfway through bootcamp, and some are fortunate enough to call every week. The important thing to remember is that no news is good news in the Navy. Even if you hear a group of sailors in your husband’s division we’re able to call home, but your husband could not, everything is fine. There’s lots of reasons sailors don’t call, they may be on watch, have an appointment, running an errand if they’re ship staff, go to church, long lines at the NEX, etc.. If anything is ever wrong, you WILL be contacted, so never worry. 

This time is really hard, but it’ll be so worth it when you see him on graduation day! If you have any questions, there’s lots of us in this group that have been through it, the people here are really supportive and helpful, and we’re all happy to help when we can! I’d also recommend joining your husband’s PIR group when you get his letter detailing his division number and projected grad date. Again welcome, and hang in there :). 

Comment by Iris on May 1, 2018 at 9:51pm
Hi My husband left for boot camp on the 18 in I don’t know nothing about him I’m so nervous I can wait to hear from him
Comment by Anti M on April 29, 2018 at 9:28am

Everyone handles the separation as best they can.  Even those happy faced SOs have their moments.  Some people find ugly crying in the shower helps, others turn toward helping others, or working on themselves, or pets, there's a thousand ways to deal with it.  Totally natural to be depressed at being away from the one you love.  It sucks.  

Do turn to professional help with a counselor or therapist if it all gets overwhelming.  No shame in asking for help when life gets tough.  

Comment by Kiki92 on April 28, 2018 at 12:13am

I hate to be a Debbie Downer but I could use some advice. Is it normal to feel some type of depression while your significant other is on deployment? My sailor went to boot camp, then to A school and literally once he graduated he was sent on a deployment. I've spent less than 5 days with him ever since hes joined and im honestly miserable. People say to keep busy but I've been trying that..sorry for the rant but any advice would be great. :).. some days I see other sailors significant others and I hate that I'm putting on this happy face while I'm not..

Comment by MarcsMom on April 27, 2018 at 5:25pm

My husband left for boot camp on the 4th of this month! It has already been almost a month and time is flying. I am so happy I found this page!! :) 


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