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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors


Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 3689
Latest Activity: 16 hours ago

I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Graduation tickets

Started by Roxie. Last reply by Anti M 16 hours ago. 11 Replies

I’m new here my boyfriend just left for bootmcamp January 10th, could someone please tell me if they give out any extra tickets for graduation? There’s already 4 people going. Or if anyone has any information on tickets for graduation could you…Continue

Paternity Leave during Underway/Deployment

Started by van1612. Last reply by Allison on Friday. 2 Replies

So this is my first pregnancy and my EDD is in Aug. My husband will be on a long Underway during that time. I will be delivering back in my home country because I have no family here while my husband is on Underway, and soon after that, he’s going…Continue

New To Military Relationship!

Started by simplycarlaaa. Last reply by NukeWife Jan 16. 3 Replies

Hello!- I have decided to be a part of this group due to the fact my boyfriend is currently in basic training and i feel so lonely half of the time. Before he left, we'd spend so much time together 24/7. Having no contact with him is so hard but it…Continue

Phone calls

Started by Nikki. Jan 6. 0 Replies

My bf hasn't yet enlisted yet but I want to get this problem fixed before he phone isn't where it can wake up me up its on the highest volumes. I don't know if any one else has this problem if so is there a way you fixed it. I want to be…Continue

Pregnancy, gynae, and delivery

Started by van1612. Last reply by van1612 Jan 5. 9 Replies

My husband and I have recently found out that we’re expecting! We’re nervous and excited as it will be our first child! However, I wanted to know if the military covers the gynae check ups, delivery, and the hospital stay. Should we know about…Continue

Can I handle a military relationship?

Started by Lauren. Last reply by simplycarlaaa Jan 1. 16 Replies

Is anyone else really REALLY doubting if they can handle a military life/relationship? My sailor has a five year contract. Just finished the first month of bootcamp. But it feels impossible. I feel lost and alone. And that my boyfriend is no longer…Continue

PCS Help

Started by MEleanor7. Last reply by PumPum Dec 29, 2017. 2 Replies

Hi everyone!  My S.O is in ODS training right now, he is an Environmental Health Officer and his PCS is in San Diego.  From what I understand he gets a certain amount of days to get out there, and then once he reports he gets House Hunting "leave". …Continue

Having a day

Started by Nikki.. Last reply by Michael Dec 16, 2017. 7 Replies

 my bf is getting scared because we have only been together a month today and he is scared what the future is going to be like with the navy bc most men cheat he says while they are and and he Don't want to. And he just just saying he don't want to…Continue

Living with spouse during A school.

Started by Britt0903. Last reply by Allison Dec 13, 2017. 9 Replies

Hi there. I am looking for any advice/information on living with a spouse during A school. My husband leaves to Bootcamp soon and his A school will be longer than six months so I am planning on moving with him. Does anyone have any info or tips to…Continue

Infor and advice

Started by Nikki.. Last reply by Anti M Dec 12, 2017. 3 Replies

My bf told me he enlisting and well be starting bootcamp in march what should i expect and how should i prepare for it

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Comment by Michael on Friday
You are only allowed 4 tickets per recruit period as names are given to the Navy. You can’t have anyone else’s spaces. Be lucky my husband was only allowed 3 at his graduation. So pick and choose who can go. Other wise the rest of the family can watch the graduation at the hotel or chapel if it’s still open.
Comment by Roxie on Friday

I’m new here my boyfriend just left for bootmcamp January 10th, could someone please tell me if they give out any extra tickets for graduation? There’s already 4 people going. Or if anyone has any information on tickets for graduation could you please let me know

Comment by MaeAO on December 15, 2017 at 1:29am

My husband left for bootcamp on November 8th. Time really has gone by so fast. I miss him so much but our 5 month old   daughter and writing him letters everyday has really helped me. No matter what you do try to stay strong and positive. That’s the best advice I can give. Of course it’s natural to miss him but maybe try something new and keep yourself busy to make time go by faster. When you write him tell him you miss him but focus more on your future together and creating new memories once you guys are reunited! Stay Strong @Kelz89 you can do it! Not only for him, but for yourself as well. It will all be okay, time is going to fly by! 

Comment by Kelz89 on December 15, 2017 at 12:48am

Hello Everyone,

I was wondering if anyone else has a spouse that has recently left for bootcamp. I’m having a much harder time dealing with him being gone and having no contact than I thought I would be. I don’t know how I’m going to ever get through a deployment if I can barley handle 2 months then the extra 3 of training just hoping that time flys. 

Comment by Allison on December 3, 2017 at 6:54pm
JWife, I'd recommend finding your spouse's PIR group on this page too as it'll be more active with family from the same PIR group.

Phone calls vary widely. I got a call every week when my husband was in, but some divisions only get 3 phone calls total, "I'm here" which it sounds like you got, one about halfway through, and the "I'm a sailor" call after they complete battlestations (about a week or less before they graduate). I know you miss your spouse, but know that no news is good news. If anything ever goes wrong, one of the first things they'll do is call you or have him/her call you.

As for letters, the first one will depend on how long he's processing (in P-Days). My husband spent 3 days in P-Days, so he could start sending letters the following Sunday, I spent a little over a week in P-Days, and there is no "holiday routine" on sundays in P-Days, which is when they're allowed to write, so mine took longer to start arriving. They're only allowed to write once a week on Sunday mornings, but many also write in secret after taps if they can find the energy to stay up…it's really hard to stay up, you're so tired. Anyway, I'd say anywhere from 1-3 weeks from when he left you'll start getting them. Hang in there!
Comment by Cali on December 3, 2017 at 1:55pm
Hi Jwife, my husband’s PIR is 1/19, the Friday after. I was fortunate to get a phone call from my husband because they saw it was our first wedding anniversary this past Friday. When I spoke to him, and he told me that he would be able to send letters next Sunday. I’m not sure when you will start receiving letters, but it’s possible your husband will start sending them soon. Hang in there! I know it’s tough. Try to stay busy. Feel free to message me if you need to vent.
Comment by JWife on December 3, 2017 at 1:44pm
Hello spouses! I'm new to this! My husband is currently at B Camp. I haven't gotten a letter or 2nd call yet...will that be coming soon? I'm so sad.
Comment by JWife on December 3, 2017 at 1:33pm
Is there anyone on here whose spouse's PIR is 01/12!??
Comment by Allison on December 3, 2017 at 2:14am
Yup! You absolutely can send small appropriate photos and paper crafts. I used to keep one in my bra all the time of my husband (you're not allowed to have anything in your pockets or backpack unless it's part of training). My aunt used Postagram to send me pictures, they come about postcard sized, but the photo pops out to wallet size with the photo on the front and the message printed again but smaller on the back, so I could toss that in my drawer and throw the bigger card out to save space. I wish I had known about that when my husband went, it's super convenient, just an app on your phone that you can upload photos to and it sends right away. I hand made my husband an address book while he was in basic. I used pocket pages, so I collected everyone's addresses and put them on one side of the page, on the other I put a short note of encouragement they had written him, and then in the pocket I put pictures of them that they thought would remind my husband of a happy memory or something funny. The whole thing could fit in a pocket if it needed to, so it took up hardly any space in his drawer. It took a few hours to make, handsewing pages and then leather binding it, but if you have a lot of time to kill, it's a fun project and it's actually not too difficult, just time consuming. That's about all you can send. Address book and paper letters/pictures. You could mail stamps/phone cards, but they can buy all that at the NEX, so there's really no point. You could mail money, but you're not supposed to, and they don't need it. They have money deducted from their first paycheck specifically onto a NEX gift card, and that can go a long way depending on how much they need, and then they'll have money in their account to spend by the time they run out of that. They are also issued a stationary set and stamps when they're processed, so he has that until he has to buy more, but it lasts awhile, and like anti m said, they have to use what is at the NEX anyway. Sometimes my husband wrote me on other paper, depended on what RDC he had when he was writing it.
Comment by Anti M on December 2, 2017 at 8:53pm

He will get envelopes and stationary there, they make them use the stuff they can buy at the NEX, so everyone has the same thing.  You can send stamps, he probably got nervous and didn't think to put them in his wallet. 

It is alright to send small photos.  He will need to keep them in a small drawer for personal items, so to save space, you can print them on paper and write a letter around the pictures.


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