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Some parents fear they won’t hear from their kids in the Navy very often.

Misconception? Truth? I know in boot camp sometimes conversation from them is limited, but what about after boot camp?

"Some parents fear they won’t hear from their kids in the Navy very often."

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Dear Teri:
Yes, that 30 min call you will cherish. I did, twice. My oldest was a Marine and my baby (21) is in the Navy. Remain strong, it 's tough and make sure you go to graduation. It's their day and you will be proud.
Well again being the sailor in this situation I got to call home quite often in bootcamp whether it be just because or a reward because of winning captains cup or just being great recruits for a certain amount of time. I can honestly say that the only other time i didnt get to call home alot was when I went on deployment. But i emailed all the time.. i swear i wore my fingers out. But other then that I go home on a regular basis even though I live 6 hours away i still go. because i figure if i was in cali i wouldnt be able to drive home being from PA and all...soo being In Virginia definitely has its upsides and also....If your sailor is thinking of a place where they would wanna get stationed I personally like Virginia alot. It gets hot and humid in the summer and the winters are normally somewhat warm I really like it alot...
Hi Jan, can you share some of the web sites that you monitor while your son is out on his ship?
Hi Jan, What a great bunch of links! Thank you so much.
Thanks for sharing that; I'll have to remember when mine starts getting deployed.
I am not as fortunate as some moms, my son is overseas. When he's at his home port, we hear from him often, when they're out to sea traveling from port to port, we only receive a call from the ship if they're close enough to shore to get a signal or via e-mail on occasion. When his ship gets to each port, we receive a call as well, but it can take a number of days to go from port to port. We all are very fortunate to have e-mail to keep in touch, but most sailors enjoy receiving snail mail, I know my son does, so sit down and write your children from time to time, they enjoy receiving letters from home and of course those care packages with a little love from home as well.
You wanna see a sailor bounce? Contact their command if you have not heard from your sailor (if he/she is not deployed) after 90 days. (lol) (I wouldn't normally advise a mom to do this but, if you are worried, within reason, then act on your instincts. You didn't manage to raise a child for that long on skill alone. ) Much sooner if your hear from them on a regular basis and suddenly calls stop or you note a drastic change in behavior. Almost all issues can be addressed and a solution found if your Sailor has a problem. Don't hesitate to reach out. Depression and/or bullying (tho this is a rare occurence in the Navy), even homesickness can be resolved in way that will help your Sailor become a mature, productive part of the Navy and later their own family and communities they may return to. There are so very many resources for your son/daughter to access in the Navy that will enable them to deal with their issues on their own. But they have to reach, please encourage them to resolve any issues on their own. If they'll just reach out, just a little, they'll find what they need. Promise. (7 1/2 yr. mom)
Love and Prayers,
False, your sailor will call constantly. We joke that our daughter calls when ever she is bored. Which is most of the time she is not working. And we love it. We talk at least once a day. I can tell when she is sick, or very busy just by the lack of calls. The hardest part is being able to hear the strain in their voice if they don't feel well, or work is hard and not being able to be there to hug them. Email is also great we send funny things back and forth constantly and my husband even sends a short email every day to her.
aaaaaaaaww thats good to know!!
You'd be surprised how often you'll hear from your sailor. When Sean was in A-school, I heard from him every week, sometimes twice a week. Especially after he earned all of his priviledges. He even surprised me at 11:30 pm on a Friday night by showing up unannounced for the weekend! Since he's been in Virginia, I don't hear from him as often as a mom would like but I know how very busy they are with the new sub. When they were underway I heard from him every few days by email. He'll be heading back to Groton soon. Who knows? I may get another surprise visit!! The last time he was home on leave, he spent almost every night with me. We just hung out and talked. It was great!
I am thankful that while my son was at Boot Camp I got a letter every week after the first one and about 5 phone calls. Now that he is in A school I talk to him everyday. I think we talk more than before he left. I send him a box every week with candy, magazines and whatever I think of. lol His roommates love it too. I know that in boot camp if the division does well that means more phone calls. :-)
It depends on your sailor. If they were communicative before they left, once they get out of BC they will generally communicate with you. My son is overseas and we chat via MSN web cams a few times a month and on the phone in between that.

I would not recommend contacting your sailors command. If they are out to sea they are busy. They keep them busy. If something is wrong, believe me, you would hear from the command. They are adults now, they have lives of their own. I know it isn't easy to not hear from them, but we must get used to the idea that they are growing up. I didn't call my mom everyday when I went into the Navy. I had things to do. I had a life. I don't expect anything less from my son. I am happy that he is happy and well adjusted and not sitting in his room waiting for me to call.


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