3 week call

[Sailorswife93]

My fiancé left on 2/14 and his PIR is April 14th. I just got the 3 week phone call and he sounds miserable! I don't know what to do :( I told him to try to push through...he said he wasn't sure if he made the right decision :( Advice?!?

[CryptoDad]

We went thru the same thing. By the 4th week things had started to turn around. Remember, his RDCs want him to succeed. If they didn't, he would already be on his way home. Just keep a steady stream of supportive letters and cards flowing to him. He'll make it.

[CryptoDad]

Don't worry, he can buy a phone card.

[tpadul]

Hi there, I just received my phone call this past Saturday March 11, 2017 from my 19 year old daughter, she arrived at BC a week after your Fiance. I've been watching and reading so far several posts from several family members that are getting these initial phone calls and first personal letters and I've seen one extreme to the other, either very positive or they are struggling and having a hard time, it's not what they thought it would be etc..  My daughter was very emotional when she called and it wasn't the extremely positive upbeat call that many received. However, I know this is pretty normal and remember during these first few weeks of boot camp they are breaking them down to build them back up so they learn to work together as a team, so in the beginning there is a lot of yelling and they get in trouble for the smallest things, my daughter got in trouble twice, one for talking in line during PDays then she was told to write some essay and apparently didn't finish it fast enough and got in trouble for that, and she was really upset because she cried when she got in trouble, so in my mind, I know this is the breaking her down part, and she told me she loved the letters and cards I've been sending her and they are helping her and she told me to keep sending them, so at this point the best advice I can give you is to keep lifting him up through your letters and cards, it means the world to them right now, I've been going online and finding inspirational quotes online about not quitting, never give up, courage, perseverance, you can do it,etc.. and printing them out and putting them in her cards and letters.  They get mail daily as it comes in, at least that is what my daughter is telling me now, that she is getting all my mail during the week.  There are some great images of quotes online, I just google inspirational quotes images, and all kind of really cool images come up that I can print out and place in her letters.  Just keep doing this and keep telling him that he can do this.  Stay positive for him when he is struggling to and that will help him tremendously.  He will want to keep staying positive if he sees you being positive too. I bet he is doing great!!!

[ProudRN]

I am not to the 3 week mark yet but I think it would take everything in me to not break down but i would do my best!  I would/ will remind him of the reason(s) he enlisted in the first place and tell him to try and fix his mind and eyes on the end goal which could be the life he wants for the 2 of you.  I think it's great that he is able to express his true feelings and not bottle them up so i would encourage him to share those honest thoughts and feelings each step of the way so you know how to support him.  GOOD LUCK DEAR, when is the wedding? 

[Sailorswife93]

After A school so hopefully August!

[lemonelephant]

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