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All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

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**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


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emotions are running this is my first child to leave home and am having a roller coaster of emotions....any one else here at this stage??


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I'm not, but I've been there. My husband graduated from boot camp Nov. 2010 and now we are stationed at the DLI so I've been on this roller coaster for awhile. I do have a lot of insight to what happens there and what you can expect if you need any advice. He will be okay.. it will be an awful experience for him but the good kind.. tough love works. I remember feeling so very freaked out and couldn't help but count down the hours. We've all been there though and we're here for you now. Just let me know if you need to vent or if you have any questions. Good luck and remember he'll be perfectly fine and he'll feel so accomplished when it's done.


thank you I just sent a request to add you I will be in touch thanks again


I am shipping out in Jan and heading to DLI after basic to train as a CTI.  My fiance wants to move with me (and bring our two dogs), but we are thinking it would be easier to move our wedding date up to before I ship out so that he doesn't have to go through the hassle of finding an apartment in Monterey.  Can you PM me and give me some insight into the process of the spouse moving out there?  Living arrangements, getting a place at the Ord, etc...?  Any advice and information would be much appreciated.  Thanks! Brittany

Life is indeed simpler if you marry before boot camp, just get your recruiter the information ASAP so the paperwork goes through.  He won't like it, but it won't change your program.  I've heard at least three months prior to departure to be sure.

Are you talking about military housing?  School commands don't always have housing for student sailor's dependents, base housing often has long wait lists, and all have regulations about pets.  Many have breed exclusions; there are some breeds which are NOT allowed.  California is a heck of an expensive place to find a rental which allows dogs too, we had that problem in San Diego.

Also, the Navy might not move your spouse to be with you during A school, it must be a certain length for the dependent to be eligible for a move and for the student sailor to live offbase (you MUST request permission from the school command).  Roughly six months or more, not counting hold times.

I wish you luck getting through this! It will be over before you know it. Could you please tell me how long after signing on your kid had to wait before going to boot camp?

Hi. My son signed in Early March, he is going in in August 30. Its was going to be Oct. but they changed it Due to his choice of DC(damage control)


Hope this helps.

My son Leaves Aug 30. He for the First time told me he is "nervous". When he said that my heart dropped, Now I'm scared, sick to my stomach for him.  I searched for words to make him feel better. All could say was......Everyone going in with you feels exactly the same way thats why you are so connected to your Navy Brothers and Sisters. You will find the best friends in your  life in the Navy.  (hope I did ok)

   Stay Strong , We can do this!!!

This is my only son, he leaves the 30th of sep. I think the hardest part at least for me will not being able to talk to him for a long time.. My husband calls this jeff withdraws
In the New Moms Stop Here we have a list of reference PAGES with great information for you such as an example of the form letter, videos of what you recruit will be going through, a survival guide w hints on how to use this site and more. Plus we have a panel of experienced moms ready to help you out like lemonelelphant. All are welcomed to join.

I am responding to this post by the middle of 2012.  Right now I am in this stage.  My two kids are join the navy.  My son is in boot camp since last Monday and  my daughter is waiting until August 2012.  I'm proud and happy for them, but at the same time am having that roller coaster of emotions and I hope that I can get help and answers with the all questions that I have now. 


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