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**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


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**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


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I just joined the site ...My 20 y old daughter is preparing her documents to go in the Navy.

She says she wants to go active and I am freeking out...I don't even know why. Can someone advise me on weither she should go active or reserve?

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That is her choice which she wants.


Active is full time, with all the bennies.


Reserves only drill one weekend a month and two weeks out of the summer and only get paid for those days.  They also pay for their own insruance, and can't use the GI BIll until they have a certain amount of time in.


If she wants a full time job, with the pay and insurance, she should go Active.  If she doen't want a full time job, and wants to pay for her own insurance she should go reserve.


Not being rude...but why don't you want her to go active?  That is a better question

Thank you Angie...I am just totally new to all this. I heard and red stories of actives how regret it and find it horribly difficult to be embarqued for years.  Is it true that you can do reserve and then decide to become active? how does this work.  ?

years ago you could go reserves and switch to active duty, but that is long gone.  The USN is soo overmanned if they go reserves they are not going active duty.  BUT the recruiter will say that yes she could do that, when they can't do that.  Also if they go active they can't just decide after a year they don't like it and go reserves. They are locked into a contract for 4-6 years active and the rest (up to 8 years) reserves.

that is exactly the answer I was looking for thank you Angie!

I had a feeling that was the case and that was my fear...but my daughter really wants to go active...I am just not sure if she knows what she is getting herself into...she has not grown up really...just wants to escape her problems (growing up without a dad....difficult times in HS....bad stuffs have happened to her and I have been by myself with her going through this...) she loves me so much...she does not want to see me cry or anything so I know she has mixed feeling ...she wants to do something with her life for herself...for me to be proud but leaving me might be so hard for both of us....I certainly think I should encourage her to go but just want to be sure she will be happy ...happiER know what I mean...

BTW we are from France and all our family is there. We have nobody here, she arrived when she was 6 and grew up here....not easy but even though I miss France and go back often we made our life here...

I feel myself becoming more and more emotional with this whole process going it something that happens to everybody? I need to stay strong for her right..

Gaby proudofmyLisa, did your daughter decide to join?? If she did I think it's great and believe me even when you are pro military likes ourselves you still can't stop worrying!!
I know the year is almost over, but I just joined this site and found your discussion.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Hi Dm,

Thank you for your text...yes she is in BC now.. and I am getting her first letters. She left on 12/03 and seem to be doing great!  I am so happy for her. She graduates on 01/25 and has signed for active:)...I had time to get used to her decision and now I am the happiest ...supportive mom !  I just arrived in Paris and going to spend my 1st Christmas without her but with the whole family here who supports her too.  She seems to becoming already so different in a great enjoying church ...praying...reading her Bible....and of course ironing her clothes and waking up at 5am ;-) is your son/daughter?

Merry Christmas to you too...

Join the group, PIR 01/25/2013 TG 11 - 9 Divisions (069-076 and 911), to connect with others with loved ones training with your SR.  You may also want to join, or at least check out, Boot Camp Moms, PIR Reference Information, and New Members Stop Here. There will be a lot of great information and support for you in those groups as well as in the PIR group. Be sure to check out the Pages (found under the pictures of the Members) and Discussions within the groups.

(Group names within this reply are clickable links.  To join a group, click on the group name and after the group page opens, click on “+ Join...” in the upper right.)

It's interesting that you both have recruits in the same TG.


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