That is her choice which she wants.
Active is full time, with all the bennies.
Reserves only drill one weekend a month and two weeks out of the summer and only get paid for those days. They also pay for their own insruance, and can't use the GI BIll until they have a certain amount of time in.
If she wants a full time job, with the pay and insurance, she should go Active. If she doen't want a full time job, and wants to pay for her own insurance she should go reserve.
Not being rude...but why don't you want her to go active? That is a better question
Thank you Angie...I am just totally new to all this. I heard and red stories of actives how regret it and find it horribly difficult to be embarqued for years. Is it true that you can do reserve and then decide to become active? how does this work. ?
years ago you could go reserves and switch to active duty, but that is long gone. The USN is soo overmanned if they go reserves they are not going active duty. BUT the recruiter will say that yes she could do that, when they can't do that. Also if they go active they can't just decide after a year they don't like it and go reserves. They are locked into a contract for 4-6 years active and the rest (up to 8 years) reserves.
that is exactly the answer I was looking for thank you Angie!
I had a feeling that was the case and that was my fear...but my daughter really wants to go active...I am just not sure if she knows what she is getting herself into...she has not grown up really...just wants to escape her problems (growing up without a dad....difficult times in HS....bad stuffs have happened to her and I have been by myself with her going through this...) she loves me so much...she does not want to see me cry or anything so I know she has mixed feeling ...she wants to do something with her life for herself...for me to be proud but leaving me might be so hard for both of us....I certainly think I should encourage her to go but just want to be sure she will be happy ...happiER ..you know what I mean...
BTW we are from France and all our family is there. We have nobody here, she arrived when she was 6 and grew up here....not easy but even though I miss France and go back often we made our life here...
I feel myself becoming more and more emotional with this whole process going on......is it something that happens to everybody? I need to stay strong for her right..
Thank you for your text...yes she is in BC now.. and I am getting her first letters. She left on 12/03 and seem to be doing great! I am so happy for her. She graduates on 01/25 and has signed for active:)...I had time to get used to her decision and now I am the happiest ...supportive mom ! I just arrived in Paris and going to spend my 1st Christmas without her but with the whole family here who supports her too. She seems to becoming already so different in a great way...like enjoying church ...praying...reading her Bible....and of course ironing her clothes and waking up at 5am ;-)...how is your son/daughter?
Merry Christmas to you too...
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It's interesting that you both have recruits in the same TG.