Hello all. I'm new to this page so I'm not really sure how it works but I sure could use some advice/help! Kind of a long story but I will try to explain it. My daughter just left today for Navy Boot camp. She is currently not speaking to her dad & I and we have no idea why. We have not spoken to her since April 21. She has a lot of anger towards us & again we have no idea why. I was there, & we have both been supportive, when she signed up for Navy. Just one day she said she was moving out & didn't want to have anything to do with us! We have tried very hard to talk to her & tried to be involved in her leaving for the Navy. She has a ton of friends that have been supporting her & a few families that have stepped in as her family. She invited all of them to her send off today, but not my husband,me or my son. We showed up anyway. She pulled me aside & asked me to leave, but I didn't & very nicely told her I wanted to be there to support her. She has always been a very responsible and we thought mature person so my question to all of you is....everyone keeps saying she will miss us during boot camp & mature & reach out. Does boot camp teach her how important family is? She has these other families stepping in as her family so I'm not sure she WILL get lonely and/or miss us. We're devastated because we don't think she will be sending her address to us or inviting us to graduation. Will boot camp really turn her around?
Kelly, I don't have a fuzzy feel good answer. In time your daughter will come to her senses and hopefully invite you to her Boot Camp Graduation. I doubt her friends will show up. Some one has to do some soul searching to find out who and daughter seem to be so hurt. Everything goes on the table, everything. Hopefully you'll find what the problem is. I do wish you the best and good luck.
I am sorry for the sadness you are feeling. I'm not sure what to tell you accept maybe in two weeks you could ask her recruiter for her address? Maybe her recruiter would talk to you about what is going on? But on the flip side everything I read is that with boot camp being so stressful that it might not be the right time to push to communicate. Maybe this time away will help her and she will want to reach out after graduation. I will say a prayer for you and your family. My son also left today - I'm still awaiting the call that he made it to BC safe.
Yes GL is where he is. It's the only BC now at least that is my understanding. I'm sorry you aren't in the loop with her, it must be hard.
Hello I will let you know that y daughter has not changed her mind about talking to her mom and she has been there for 5 weeks now. then again my daughter has not talked to her for a couple years and she feels she was hurt and has not been able to get passed it. yes they do mature greatly while they are in basic, I can hear it in her voice and see it in her letters also I personally went through the changes in basic training years ago. I know this is a hard thing to be going through and hope all works out for the best.