my daughter left on Dec 12 also. I think we are all having the same thing going thru our heads (are they eating enough, getting enough sleep, being mistreated), the thing I'm most worried about is her getting home sick (she has never been away from home before) and we are very close. I was telling another mom, as my daughter was growing up, we got in the habit of sitting on my bed after dinner and talking for about 45 minutes every night (even during the teenage years). She has only been gone for 2 days and I don't know how I'm going to get thru tomorrow. I know this is the best thing for her and I encouraged her to follow her dream. But it's still harder then I thought it would be.
MY daughter left Dec 7, and it has been a very hard week for me. I am finally accepting the fact that I can not speak to her for three weeks. Although she is my kid, she was my companion to the malls, movies and breakfast whenever my husband was at work or she had to work. I really miss her. Getting her items in the mail without a letter or address has been hard as well, but for my sake and hers I must stay strong. I hope that you feel better and take this opportunity to pamper yourself a little and try to remove the stress. I am constantly asking questions from military personnel that work at my place of employment. Each one reassured me that the Navy is the way to go and that the recruits are safe and being taught how to become independent, self sufficient and focused. This comfort I hold onto. I am praying for my daughter daily as well as all of our kids. Yes it is hard, and ofcourse we will never nor do we want to get accustomed to them not being home, but this is a choice that they made and we have to support them. I still cry everyday, but this site has been remarkable. I wish you well and hope you worry less.
@smoodysmom....love your way of thinking....YAY!!
The moms have good advice and insight, however, I've been through Navy boot camp. It really isn't that bad. I can assure you, he is never going hungry. The meals are well balanced, and they get to choose what they eat. Sure, recruits learn to eat fast, and aren't allowed to talk during meals. That's the one thing the Navy does not do, is make recruits go hungry, ever.
As for mistreatment, no, I never felt mistreated while at basic. Sure, we did physical stuff, the recruits must be physically ready, and yes, the rules are strict. If you made a mistake, the worst that happens is a little yelling and some PT (pushups and stuff). All those horrible things in the movies, they aren't true. Learning to be a sailor who can work with others as a unit in nine short weeks means discipline and a lot of it, fast.
I know it is hard, but when you have these negative thoughts, say Stop! And substitute a positive image. You may feel false at first, but with time, you will teach your mind to turn to good thoughts.
His first letters will sound down, that is normal. Don't panic, and soon enough, he will be upbeat and enjoying the experience.
Thank you for your wonderful words of support and encouragement to us "moms"! It is so hard to not know what my son is doing on a daily basis. He left on the 12th and I think this has been the longest week of my life. Each day seems to pass so slowly. Funny how the days leading up to his departure flew by!
I got his box yesterday. It arrived so quickly that we were totally caught off guard. I stared at the box for so long NOT connecting that his stuff was in it. Boy, does his sweatshirt smell wonderful!!
@Anti M: love your way of thinking and love your id name...Anti M....I got a hold of this yesterday and stopped the bad thoughts and sending up the good. Thanks for your confirmation!
Anti M = Auntie Em= Aunt Margaret. My nephew is a nuke on a sub, I was in the Navy, hubby is retired Navy, and my dad was a Navy Master Chief. I also have an ET2 (acquired kid) in Japan. Plus my grandfathers were Navy and a purple heart Marine in WWI. My brothers served in the Army and Air Force. Can we say military family? I was raised on the move, and separations are a part of my life. Just keep looking forward!
Hello Everyone! (Just an FYI)
I am in the process of starting the 02/10/2012 PIR group.
If this has been something you have been thinking about I am asking you to hold off so we don't have duplicate groups. I have a couple of moms as of right now but will still take a friend request (I'll ALWAYS look at those anytime!) with a private message from anyone interested and just put you in line!
Please be patient ladies...stay on here and keep reporting in with your Ship/Div numbers and PIR dates! Thank you for your help!
My Daughter arrived at BC on 12/13, how can I find out if she has her PIR on 2/10?