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Where to begin... I have some questions about being married, being a mommy, and thinking about joining the Navy. I am so afraid to be separated from my husband and 1 year old son, but at the same time I want to do something with my life (aka joining the Navy).


Does anyone know what it's like to be in this situation on here? Anyone have any stories to share, etc? My husband is currently employed but does not get that many hours; I am the one bringing home most of the "bacon" and am afraid to just go off and sign a contract right now because he isn't bringing in a whole lot of money for bills. 


What about BAH and housing?

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Thanks! I will check it out... I believe my dad (retired USN) has two bank accounts for both my sister and I opened with Navy Fed. We don't have anymore than maybe $20 a piece in them but he started bank accounts for us awhile back (he opened them in South Carolina, I think?). I don't know if that matters or not. Am I able to open a bank account with them before I would be sent to boot camp and take my account information with me to boot camp?


And my husband keeps telling me, "why do you get on that website (Navy For Moms) and talk to them, why don't you just go talk to the recruiter and tell him you think you want to join." I had to explain to him that his situation with joining the Marines was different than me wanting to join the Navy; he was fresh out of high school, not married, and didn't have any kids. I told him that I am preparing myself - mentally and physically and gaining as much knowledge about the branch that I want to join. Is that so bad? lol

Oh! I looked at the Navy Fed website... wouldn't you still have to be in the military to create an account with them though? You said you don't have to be "active duty" but that's what I would go in for. I was told reserves is really boring, and I'd like to do something more for my country.
Once you are a NFCU member, you can open accounts for any other family member, even if they are not dependents.
Well, like I said before... when my dad was in the Navy he opened accounts for both my sister and I. Not quite sure if they are savings or checking accounts. Would I be able to use the account my dad started for me (provided it be a checking account)? It's just a thought. If not it's not a problem for me to start one up. Don't you get to choose which bank you want to go with when you go into boot camp (Greg told me to make sure I chose Navy Fed because the place they give you is terrible)? If I don't sign up with Navy Fed until boot camp, is there a way I can just give my husband the account information while I'm there so he could access it? Sorry if I'm asking way too many questions. lol

I would definitely see if your old account was open.  If it is savings, they can easily add checking.  Hubby's account with NFCU runs back to the 70s!  They are very, very good.  A bit of a pain when it comes to security, but that's a good thing.  


You can choose to go with a home town bank, but it becomes problematic when you transfer to elsewhere in the US.  That's why NFCU is so popular, they're everywhere we have bases.


Getting your info to your husband?  Be sure to take his info such as SSN and birthdate, and put him on as a joint owner.  Being an authorized user is fine, but he can't do anything with customer service unless he's an owner.  I know, went through this with my husband's account when we married. 


Good luck, and remember to come back and give us updates when you're a sailor!


Based on your skills as a writer I assume you have had a few years of college or perhaps English was your best subject in high school. I know working at Burger King must be difficult because of the low wages. Try to get into their management program while you are investigating joining the Navy. The Navy will offer great opportunities but being away from your son will be very difficult. Have you check other resources in your community?  Tuition supplements, scholarships for young mothers. What is your area of interest? Perhaps you can research companies in that field and find out if they have programs to assist with tuition in exchange for future work commitment. 

However, if you decide Navy is the right path, then I am sure you will do well. Good luck and your husband is always welcome to drop in for support while you are gone.

No, I've never gone to college for anything but I'm a bit of a grammar/spelling "Nazi" I guess you could say. I'm not completely perfect but I definitely like to make sure people can understand what I am typing. Thank you though! lol

I've thought about going for manager but I'm just not into it. I've been working my butt off to get into the best physical shape I can.  


As for his SSN and birthdate, would I just take that with me to the recruiter or to boot camp if I go to sign up?

Take it to boot camp. Just have it in your wallet at all times. You may need it for other paperwork.
hi i am a navy mom and it is a very noble thing you want to do but please think hard about it it is a very hurting feeling when you are not there for the important events in your childs life my daughter had to leave before her sons first christmas and first birthday
and before he could walk she feels this guilt loves her job but knows she will never get these things back she had to do unaccompanied for one year and ending up being gone for 14 months cause they kept messing up her orders
she made it home the day before his second birthday in feb and had to leave again the beginning of april assigned to a ship
he was just getting used to her again she seen him twice on leave from bahrain and on skype but not the same thing she is in the same boat as you with the financials so i see where you are coming from but in all honesty she loves her job
wish you luck in this difficult decision

Thank you all for your stories and information. I appreciate it greatly. So is it 6 years instead of 4 years? Either way, if I go in I'd like to be in as long as I can. I know that I would miss out on my son's early years and what-not; my husband missed out on quite a few of our son's firsts because he was with the Marines.


I was thinking health care in the Navy; maybe a nurse? or Emergency, Fire & Rescue, Law Enforcement (I'm looking at the website) or maybe even Intel or computer sciences...

Oh! another question: What if I am not required weight (about 15lbs over) but make tape? Would they still let me in? Would I be on a "nasty diet" when I got to boot camp?

No, they don't have time to monitor the recruits' diets individually (unless they fail their PFA enough to get sent to the FIT division, possibly then).  The chow hall offers balanced meals, but you get to pick and choose your items, so it is possible to eat poorly.  And fast, you learn to eat fast.  You won't have access to snacks, that's a plus.  


Work as hard as you can to lose it before, during boot camp is a bad time to try to do anything other than what they tell you.


and yes, soda is evil, and even diet soda works against weight loss.  If you don't like plain water, try the powder packets of crystal light.


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