My son leaves also leaves on June 7, 2011 (from Los Angeles to Great Lakes). He has been excitedly counting down the days for the past couple of months especially. Unlike your son, my boy outwardly shows his excitement and talks about it all the time, for which I think I am thankful. Of course he knows how I am dreading the day he will depart, but he is so looking forward to his new life ahead that I refuse to diminish his enthusiasm. After all, that is what will keep him motivated, positive and successful... every mom's dream for her children, right?
Like you, I question how to overcome feelings of despair so that I can wholeheartedly be supportive of his decision. I am on an emotional roller coaster (and I HATE roller coasters!), having already shed my fair share of tears just anticipating his leaving. I can't even foresee how I will be able to adjust to him being gone and totally out of touch for weeks on end. I kind of think it's ok for him to know that it's hard on me because wouldn't it be a lonesome feeling for him to think that he won't be missed? I just have to be sure he also knows that any difficulties I experience are in no way his concern because he has to stay focused on the priorities and responsibilities of the very valiant endeavor of his chosen path and new direction in life.
What I keep telling myself is that is important to remember that this has to be all about HIM. There will undoubtedly be challenges ahead for him, and even if he doesn't end up needing emotional support or encouragement to see him through it all, he needs to know that he can count on me to stand behind him and be there for him as I always have.
That being said, I realize that I have a short 2 days to convince myself that I can live up to my words and my son's expectations as we see him off. There is no turning back now, so it just has to be done!
I sincerely wish your son all the best. Maybe our boys will even meet up with each other at GL-wouldn't that be cool?! We just have to stay strong and hang in there for them!
We are in Whittier, and at least I get to spend a little more time with my son before we leave him at the hotel downtown Monday night where we'll say our traditional "Good-night, I love you" and hug one last time until we see him at PIR. I'm afraid I'll need to have tissues ready because this is going to be way beyond heart-wrenching, as you well know!
Maybe we can take solace in the realization that so many moms have survived this before us. We are not alone, and we will get through it, too. Feelings of sadness will be replaced by overwhelming pride, sooner rather than later, I hope!!!
Take care, Theraysmom, and keep in touch! :-D
Hi Theraysmom. Thank you for asking... I was wondering how you are doing, too! How's it going for you today?
I'm actually doing surprisingly okay. We spent a couple hours at the hotel with my son after he checked in, and that helped ease into the "departure", rather than having to just drop him and go. Plus, he texted me this morning that all is well, and he is just waiting for this ticket and swearing in.
So now the journey really begins. I'm glad for the connections here on N4M to share in this experience, and Ilook forward to continued correspondence with you!
My son also left on June 7th and I have to say it was real hard on me.
I have always had him by my side and the empty seat in the van was
unbearable. But I keep telling myself, "I raised him to be happy." He
seems to be happy and excited about his Navy career. I tune in to
his happiness which really does help me get through this. I also
do a lot of praying for strength and courage. Hope this helps.
My son shipped out on the 7th to boot camp. He only had one month to prepare then off to boot camp he went. We received a call from him yesterday letting us know we'll receive his personal stuff in the mail. I could hear the excitement in his voice, but then again he hasn't started training yet. :)
I can't wait to get a letter from him... I hope he has time to write, as I hear they stay pretty busy.
He too was nervous but once he started on his journey he became excited and ready to get started.