Lauren is going to San Antiono for Corman? I think spelled that wrong.. She was supposed to stay in Chicago..Hope to meet you at the meet and greet.. I will probably be the one crying hahah
BE SURE TO READ THE WELCOMING MESSAGES ON YOUR PROFILE PAGES. Click on MY PAGE on above menu bar. Join some groups, learn to use this site, learn about the Navy. I posted the following comment on one of today's blog. It applies here as well."The worst case scenario would be he won't make the cut, he'll be separated and sent home. You won't have to miss him anymore because he'll be living under your roof again, looking for a job (or going to college if lucky) and hanging out with other high school graduates looking for work. Come on moms, your sons are going into a wonderful career. Given our economy, celebrate the Navy taking them (in other words, pat yourself in the back, you have raised a son qualified to be in the Navy - this is really a good thing!). You have had him for 17/18/19 years. It's time to let go. It's time for him to learn to be a man of the world. Life continues to move on. He can stay home forever and stagnate or grow up. Help him grow up. This means you too have to "grow up" and learn that you baby boy is no longer a baby boy. Ya, we have all gone through that portal."
This really is such a good post and the cold hard facts. Being separated from us is a GOOD thing! Yes, I've thought of this many time in the last week. When my son first started attending DEP meetings, there were held in a town which was only 30 miles from our home. After a few months, there were no young men other than mine, still in that group! In order to continue to go to his meetings, he had to start driving over 70 miles to attend meetings with another group. Once the shipout date arrived, there were only 4 young men left in THAT group! He'd come home with the tale of yet ANOTHER of the recruits being disqualified. He worked so diligently, exercising, running, watching what he ate so he'd make weight. He never did go out drinking with his friends, etc. To want him to come home would be so incredibly selfish on my part.
Yes, what would they do if they came home? There are very few jobs for these youngsters on the outside right now. There are also far, far too many young adults out there who are living off of their parents, rather than being able to launch themselves out on their own. As much as I miss my son, I am so very happy that he HAS succeeded in getting into the Navy. Even more importantly, HE is proud of having gotten into the Navy. He scored very, very on his ASVAB and had a choice of which brand of the military he joined. He CHOSE the Navy. How could I be any prouder of him. It's what he wants, therefore, it's what I want. :- ) So moms/wives/girlfriends, as hard as this is, let's try to be thrilled for our sailors. They are on their way to success!
Your son will forget to tell "thank you" because your support will be like the air he breathes. It will be one of the reasons he will succeed in his life (Navy and beyond). Feel free to congratulate yourself when he forgets to thank you. Or just look long and hard at him the next time he comes home. Take mental snap shots of the man he will become. Watch the way he walks, shakes hands with strangers, looks people in the eyes, surveys the scenery. You will be so astounded (and just tickled to death) that you had a hand in bring this magnificent boy (your little boy forever but a man to everyone else) to this world.
We as moms must also look beyond our roles as "mom" to find another inner self (or an old inner self) - the young girl who wanted to learn to play the piano, or get a college degree or travel. We have to learn to rekindle the relationships with our spouses. Reconnect with people who were important to us but most of all, rediscover who we are as an adult.
Navy For Moms gave me an outlet for my fears, concerns, frustrations (sometimes overwhelming sense of "loss"). Over the last couple of years, I move from asking for help and support to providing help and support. You too will progress to a different role on this site. As I transition out, I am encouraged by newer moms coming in and stepping up to replace me. Yes, I have a long list of "TO DOs" that is not being crossed off!
Take care, BQB
I am surprised at how down I do feel - did not expect to miss him so much so soon. Really does hurt.
My son is older than most new recruits at the age of 24. He will probably be the oldest in the group. Since high school graduation he has worked in a variety of restaurants as a cook, drank too much and partied too much. So I am thankful for his choice to join the Navy. Took him long enough to realize there is nothing for him in this rural area... His dad and I are divorced, and I think he is actually taking it harder than me.
Bunker Queen Bee - thank you for what you said, my feelings really do need to be put into perspective!
My son had been in DEP for close to a year....