My son leaves for bootcamp on Monday. He was originally scheduled for December 20th. Before Christmas, but close enough that we could have had an early Christmas and it would have felt like it. We were only told a couple weeks ago that they would be moving up the date and then only yesterday that it would be Monday. I keep crying like a little baby. It seems so silly because it isn't like he'll be gone forever. My husband and younger son think I'm silly for crying, but I can't seem to help myself. Are there any other mothers out there struggling with this?
They say it's empty nest, but I still have my younger son around. I guess I just worry how my older son will handle bootcamp. He made this choice all on his own and we support him completely and are extremely proud of him. He keeps counting down the days and telling me to see my reaction I think. I have tried not to cry around him even though he knows I will come Monday.
I would appreciate hearing from any mothers who have been there or are there now.
Be grateful for your husband and son. When my son's time comes, I will only have an eleven year old dog to talk to.
Sorry to hear that. I am grateful from my family...all of them.
Hannah88, My son leaves in 5 days. I will still have my husband but most times I prefer my dog! HAHA! At least the dog doesn't talk back, just wags his tail and gives kisses.
My son left yesterday. It is very difficult but we know he's on to an amazing chapter in his life. We are very proud of him! Hang in there, I hear it gets easier....... although I woke up all through the night worrying. He's a strong boy but I hear they don't eat much at first..... I worry, he gets headaches if he doesn't sleep and eat........... but like I said, he's strong........ I need to keep those thoughts at bay.
my son left Dec 1 as well.. have you heard anything from him or have a way to write him? I have nothing and am really anxious to be able to start writing him letters. I am having a case of the blues thinking about our first christmas apart :-(
I feel silly seeing how he is almost 21.. but with that said I have never missed a christmas with him this one will be hard!
I totally understand the Christmas thing........... Daniel and I have never been this far apart. :( I didn't see this post until today so I'm assuming you've gotten something from your son by now. We got the form letter, box, and a real letter so far. I can't wait to see him!
I'm right there with you; I've never spent a Christmas away from my boys. Even though we gave him his gifts early, I don't really feel like I celebrated Christmas with him. I decorated before my son left for bootcamp so it looked like Christmas for him. I just haven't been much into the season festivities. I just shopped online yesterday for my younger son so I didn't have to go to the stores. I still want it to seem like Christmas for my younger son. He shouldn't feel like Christmas is over just because his older brother left early. We have written letters, but it is still too early for our son to be allowed to read them even if they have arrived already. I plan to write another one in a few minutes. Take care.
My son just left Tuesday, November 29th for the Great Lakes. I have an older son that has been in the Army Reserves and is in town now, an older daughter and son who live near by, and a younger son still at home. It was still extremely difficult for me to see him go. We are so very proud of him but it still doesn't seem to fill the void. I started crying before Thanksgiving and still cry every now and then but it is getting better. The day my son left it was hard not to smile because he was so very happy and excited (however, I doubt that lasted for long when he got there).
I am very worried about him getting homesick and wait for the day I can hear his voice or receive a letter! In fact typing this is making me want to cry! (LOL) I just hope it's worse for me and he gets thru this still glad and happy about his decision. Boot camp scares me and not having contact makes it worse, but keep hoping it goes fast. My other children are staying close and trying to help me with this difficult time which helps but I still miss him. So I do know what you are going thru and what you soon will be going thru.
Just keep going and make thru each day the best you can and soon it will be graduation time when we can see them!
We just got his clothes in the mail yesterday. I think we should be getting the address in the next week. My husband has already started his letter to our son. I am behind; however, that is not usually me, but I took a couple days off right in the middle of my billing cycle at work and it has put me way behind so I haven't had time to do any writing. I've been work late and taking work home to catch up. Being so busy has helped keep my mind off my son being gone, but I keep hoping I'll have some time to just let all these tears out I keep holding back. I can't wait till we can talk again. He said may in 3 weeks which would put it around Christmas or just after. I miss my son terribly, but I have to keep up my Christmas spirit for my younger son. Take care to everyone and post any news you have; it is great to hear anything new.
@kfarey, I am quickly learning there are plenty of moms out there who feel exactly how you do...I am one of them! My son just left on the 29th and for me that was way too soon. Every day for the last month I have felt like I was walking under a dark cloud, very sad very unsure of things. I cried my self to sleep plenty of times. I felt guilty, and still do, because this is what my son wants, no one is forcing him to do this. Now that he is there I actually feel like that coud is gone, but the sadness is still there. It's kind of a different feeling now than before because one phase is gone and it's into the next one...if that makes any sense! If you need anyone to talk to feel free to message me! Hang in there, it's tough but I am sure you are strong! Just enjoy the time you have left as much as possible!!
@mgmellie05 My son left the 29th too! Maybe they will know each other!
Did he go to the Great Lakes also? Where did he leave from, Omaha, NE?