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My daughter started bootcamp last week and has been there for 9 days today.  I got a phone call from her last night (yeah I know) saying she has been having night terrors and they made her go to the doctor.  The doctor is thinking about sending her home.  She really wants to stay!  I really think she is just in a strange new place and under a lot of stress and I think the nightmares will go away.  I feel so helpless because there is nothing I can do.  She is 24 years old and has always been a totally strong person.


Please somebody make me feel a little better about this.  I have been crying about this since last night.

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I am at my wits end.  Has no one had any experiences like this?
GirlNukemom.....I'm sorry to hear about your daughter.  I have not had any experience with this and I don't know of anyone who has.  I am guessing they know at GL that she wants to stay, hopefully they will give her some more time to adjust to her new surroundings and the pressure of it all.  Keep us posted!
Thank you for responding.  I was starting to feel like I was all alone out here.  It is just nice to know that there is someone on the other side of this computer screen sometimes that understands.

Sorry to say, but it really doesn't matter that she wants to stay.  If they decide she isn't fit due to night terror's she will be sent home. 


There is a group on here called Ship 5, there are people on there whose loved ones have been sent home or are being sent home.


People have been sent home after being there less days than your loved one.  It is the Navy, they either adapt quickly or go home. 


Sorry if this came across rude, that is not how it is meant to be...just being honest.



I myself had nightmares the first few days of bootcamp and even sleepwalked out of my top bunk.  I managed to go on to have a very fulfilling career in the Navy.  Lets just hope she gets a little understanding and a second chance like I did.

If you had sleepwalked in todays Navy you would have been out quick!  Things have change a lot in the last few years.  Standards are have been raised.


I wish your daughter the best.  Just telling you how it is though.  I meet a recruit at medical today who was being sent home after being at bootcamp for 2 days.  Something minor that she is getting sent home for also.


FYI...I am in Great Lakes, stationed on the "A" School side. 


Yes itndoes come across rude and itnisnsad...we can't sleep deprive our enemies or torture enemies but these things can be done to recruits wanting to fight for their country, please tell me how some of thenhings done to these young people effect them being in basic. They are overmanned and this is how they get them out. STOP letting them enlist if you don't need them!!!!

I for one have sought out Angie over the last year and a half.  Rude and insensitive is not how she operates, straight forward and to the point yes, but never intentionally rude.  She is Naval personnel and knows the ins and outs.


My sailor is getting ready to start Prototype in Goose Creek.  In A school he put in over 80 hours a week.  In prototype he will put in 84 hours per week with 2 days off before he starts the next 84 hour cycle.  His SLPO has told them that this is intentional, it is a way to measure how they handle the extreme stress and still do their job.


As hard as it sounds, the stress, sleep deprivation, physical exhaustion serve a purpose.  They will be under stressful situations when they are underway.  They will put in long days, be in close quarters and God help them if they are aboard a vessel under attack because they could be awake for more than 12-16 hours.  My sailor even told me that during bootcamp processing days, he stood at attention holding a cup of his own urine beside his ear for 3 hours.


It sounds horrible I know, but you should have my Marine surrogate son tell you about his 13 weeks of bootcamp. But those 13 weeks had him prepared for 2 tours in Afghanistan. WHEW!!!

Since my son's PIR, I've started reading various books written by actual soldiers and sailors who have served our country including Warrior Soul (Navy SEAL), Five Years to Freedom (Spec Ops) and am currently reading The Unforgiving Minute (Army Ranger).  Somehow I have been transformed from a mom who worried about her son not getting enough sleep, to a mom who still sometimes worries, but is so very proud of the people who serve our country and the extrodinary hardships they willingly endure to become the best military in the world. BC is like a visit to a country club compared to some of the training that lies ahead for many of our men and women.  God bless them all.

By the way, saw a picture on Facebook of my nephew who graduated from the 13 week Marine BC yesterday.  He's stunning!  Not an ounce of baby fat remains!!!

My 27 year old happy, professional, married, mother-of-2 daughter also has night terrors.  They occur more often when she's stressed, but they aren't always linked to stress.  They just happen and she's never been able to control them.  Her college roommates and husband figured out how to deal with them and help calm her down, but honestly, it still isn't something that she's been able to control.  Just give your daughter support and tell her you are proud of her.  I wish both of you the best.  If you have no experience with night terrors, you can't imagine the frustration for the person having them. 
Midwest.  Thank you for your reply.  Your letter was very comforting to me.  As this forum is for Navy parents to be supportive of one another, I find it refreshing to see just that.  Thankfully the Navy has decided to let my daughter stay and things have gotten much better.   Thank you to those of you who try to be supportive and informative.
I'm happy that your daughter is going to be allowed to stay.  Angie, and many others on the forum pages, may seem to be less supportive and almost too direct; however, what they say has merit and often ends up being correct.  Just like the kid that is suspected of having color blindness or asthma when never being diagnosed with it in the past--sometimes things happen at BC and they are forced down another path.  They may be the most dedicated and honorable people that you know, but their military dreams are ended.  Angie has seen this happen time after time.  She was being realistic.  I wish you and your daughter the very best.  She is very fortunate and blessed to be allowed to continue...and I'm certain she will serve us with great honor in the years to come! 


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