Mothers...warn you Navy daughters!

[shermur (ship 12 div 121)]

My daughter is in the last year of her four years devoted to the Navy; I am going to highly advise her NOT to re-enlist.  Why, you ask?  this past year of her "Navy career" has been traumatic! 

In December 2013, my daughter met a young Navy man on another ship and they fell in love (?). By May 2014 they were getting married and my daughter was pregnant.  This just before her young husband was deploying and my daughter didn't get to continue with her ship from San Diego to Hawaii.  

So, this young couple just starting out barely had a month together before the hubby deploys for 6 months.  It was a nightmare of my pregnant daughter working her Navy duties and taking care of the home front.  IT didn't matter how hard she tried, she couldn't satisfy her husband's demands of all the things he should have taken care of before he left.  Twice during his deployment, he threatened divorce via texting/email; and my daughter had to intervien 4 months into her hubby's deployment, because he was threatening suicide.  

My son-in-law's ship returned to San Diego Christmas Eve, one week before the baby was due.  My daughter went into labor December 30th and after a complicated birth at the Navy hospital (omg, did the hospital screw up), my grandson was born on Dec 31st, 2014.

Now, it's been 7 - 8 weeks since my son-in-law has been home and he wants a separation/divorce from the marriage to my daughter; he now realizes he can't handle being a husband or a Dad.  His actions have been immature and selfish.  My daughter will have a very hard time trying to make it as a single mother in San Diego and finish up her 4 year obligation.  I hope to make her realize, she needs to move back home (whether it be in northern Missouri or here in Arkansas) to get help with the baby and get on her feet independently.  She loves her son and is willing to be a great Mom; she wanted her son to have a Dad in the picture, though.

I'm sure this happens more than what we think, that our daughter's get thrown into a military romance with young men who should have their persona "all together".  But sadly, the young men still want to party, play their video games and not step up to the obligations once life gets hard.  I just hope my daughter makes the right decision......

[shermur (ship 12 div 121)]

I believe you truly do not understand mak9kakmom....I guess you would have to walk a mile in someone else's shoes to understand....again, I am not blaming the Navy as a whole. 

And I reached out to the forum to get a little support and what I received was biased opinion. You know, some daughters with no path in life after high school and choose to go into the military, might not make the best of decisions. Yes, my daughter is at fault for that. Maybe this post might help other Mothers who have a daughter like mine and need the heed a warning..... So, I'll close the discussion..........