BF Leaving for Boot Camp in January!

[DevynJ]

Hello everyone! My boyfriend has debated on whether to join the Navy or finish college since we’ve been together. Of course, I wanted him to stay in college with me, but I was proud when he made the final choice and signed his contract to go on into the Navy. Although I was excited for him to start his future career, I have been and still am extremely nervous!

I have so many questions, considering I am brand new to this whole military thing, but am slowly trying to piece everything together by reading discussions on this site! Actually, my boyfriend is kinda in the fog about everything that will happen too since he’s just signed his contract, so as he learns I learn. Lol.

I know the basic things, like how long he will be gone to boot camp, that we can write letters back and forth, and that he will be in A-school after BC in Pensacola, FL. Other than that, I am anxious/excited to learn the in and outs of how our relationship will progress in the future. 

I just joined this site today in the hopes of making new friends and gaining the advice I need to be the strongest woman I can be for us while he is away. He leaves on January 10^th, 2010 for boot camp, so if anyone has any advice or is in the same situation as me as a new military girlfriend, please feel free to help!

Also would like to know if anyone has their guy leaving for boot camp in January as well!

[navygirl0118(Brandon's Wife)]

Welcome! This is such an awesome site to get information and meet new people! The best advice anyone can give you is to stay busy while he's in BC, and also write him as often as you can! Getting letters from you will really help him get through BC. After he leaves and once you find out the date of his PIR (pass in review aka graduation), look on here for a group for people that have loved ones graduating the same day. That's a really good way to meet people that have sons, daughters, husbands, boyfriends, etc that will graduate the same day as your boyfriend. It's also helpful to find out information about when each division will go through battlestations 21 (which is like their final exam). And the PIR groups on here usually have a meet n greet the night before graduation where you can meet up and talk to the people that have helped you get through bootcamp haha! :) If you have any other questions, feel free to ask away!

[DevynJ]

Thank you so much navygirl0118! I'm really glad this site is available for us women or I would be a wreck right about now lol. My boyfriend though hasn't told me very much other than his dates and stuff (like I said before he is learning as he goes along as well), so I'm trying to find out as much as I can. How or when will he know what division he is in? Like should he already know before boot camp? :/

[navygirl0118(Brandon's Wife)]

This site is a lifesaver! It's definitely stressful trying to find out information. He won't find out his division until he gets to BC. What happens when he gets there is they get to make like a 15 second phone call to say that they're there safe, but they won't get to have a conversation they just say what they're told to say and then hang up. That call may go to his parents, I'm not sure but when my boyfriend got there the call went to his parents. After about a week, his parents will get a box that has pretty much everything he had with him when he got there. Then, like a week after that a paper will come that will have all the information about graduation (the date, a password for the parking pass, stuff like that). And the countdown to graduation will begin!! It'll also have his address. I remember being so anxious to get his address, I think I went to the post office and mailed like 17 letters once I got it. 3 or 4 weeks after he leaves is when you can expect to start getting letters. The best part!!! :) My letters usually came on Thursdays, but I've heard other people say different days. Phone calls are usually few and far between. I got 2 while my boyfriend was there. But I've heard of other girls getting much more. It really just depends on the RDC (recruit division commander) that he has. They can also get phone calls as rewards for doing really well on something, but basically just whenever the RDC lets them make a call. The one call you can most likely count on is the one they get to make after battlestations. That'll be sometime in the last week before graduation. Are you planning on going to his graduation?

[DevynJ]

Ok, goodness thank you I am already learning so much, it makes me soo happy lol!...And yes I am definitely going to his graduation with his mom! I wouldn't miss it!...Are we allowed to go with him when he is supposed to leave? Like take him up there and see him off?

[navygirl0118(Brandon's Wife)]

That's awesome! He'll be soo happy to see you! You should get his mom to take a picture of your first kiss when you see each other! My boyfriend's mom did and I'm so glad I have a picture of that moment, it's great. Other than that first kiss and hug you won't be allowed to have much PDA :( It sucks! The only thing you're allowed to do is lock arms, but his right arm always has to be free in case he needs to salute. You won't be able to take him to the airport, there will be buses that take all the Sailors to the airport at once. You guys can meet him there though, and when you go to the airport you can also take him his phone and laptop or whatever. When I met my boyfriend there it was a little difficult to find him, I would suggest tell him to try and call you from a pay phone and tell you where he is. Also, you and his mom will need visitor passes to get past security at the airport so make sure you get those when you get there. My boyfriend was a grad and go, which means he had to fly out to his a-school on Saturday. Your boyfriend should find that out once he gets there and he'll probably tell you in one of his letters.